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Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 01.12.25

@Nemuritai You did such a great job with your drawing and your hard work truly paid off- we are all proud of you.

I’m so sorry things have felt so heavy and hopeless right now. That doesn’t make you silly at all. Your feelings matter and you don’t have to compare your struggles to anyone else’s. Pain is pain, and you deserve understanding and kindness just as much as anyone else here. It is a relief to know that you are safe and we are here for you if you need to lean on us.

Ech0

Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 01.12.25

@eylah regarding the previous weekly thread, I am really sorry you had tp go through that. I can’t imagine how scary that must’ve felt. I’m relieved to hear you were able to feel even a bit better afterwards. Please know you’re not alone, and we care about you, how are you feeling now?
I sincerely apologise that I did not see some messages sooner. How is everyone?

Ech0

Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 01.12.25

This is a space to chat or vent about whatever might be on your mind right now, nothing is too big or small!

Every Monday morning we will close the thread and start a new one so we have a fresh one each week. If you'd like to check out this week's triggering stuff edition thread, click here.

Leyla

I messed up (plz respond)

Okay, it's a long one, but I'll try keep it short.
So, talking to a girl, honestly, I don't remember where we met. I think it was a dating app, but we had each other on Snapchat for a little while and only the last few weeks we've got a lot closer. We've met up, had a couple dates, kissed, you get the gist. But I've messed everything up. She always thinks I'm lying to her. I don't know if it's because I've never had a proper relationship before so maybe she thinks I don't know what I'm doing. I wanna fix it, but I feel like everytime I just make it worse. She's said if we don't work out romantically we can still be friends, but I don't feel like that right now. I would be friends with her, but I wanna be more than that.

I'm so bad with communication, I have a close friend who I've been telling everything to, but I think this is the reason it's going so bad, and I feel like I don't have anyone to talk to about this relationship, but then it clicked and I'm like, just talk to her. If I'm talking about her why don't I just talk to her, and she knows I'm bad with communication and I hate it. It's like I just can't verbalise my thoughts because it doesn't always come easily to me (I'm autistic so...) and I actually hate how much I've hurt her. She constantly says I haven't hurt her but I have. I've been such a bad person and it's gonna be my fault if it doesn't work out.

It's like I keep searching for other people's approval, but I don't know why because I don't care what other people think. Even my best friend has said there's red flags, but I don't care, like I can figure that out for myself. I was planning on asking her to be my girlfriend which I didn't think she would accept, but now she definitely won't.

I know I'm the only one who can fix this and maybe again I'm trying to search for other people's validation which is hard because people don't know the whole situation, I just have so many feelings for this girl. Like okay, I've never been official with anyone, I've had feelings before, but never like this. She's different.

Anyways, replies are greatly appreciated. Love you all

TBQ_9

Re: Just don't want to be here anymore

Hi @Katie
Thank you for reply...
Im trying to to just take it 1 step at a time but you cant. I can't. I just want to hide. Everything feels like iys going so quick and all at once..it all feels too much to think about how to get through it and if I will. I know i will i always do but its a struggle always.
Umm..what helps me before just taking it slowly. Having as much routine as possible but this feels nearly impossible with the work situation at the moment!
Its hard. All I'm constantly thinking about it work- will they extend it further, (its already been extended once now seeing if extend 2nd time under the circumstances I have autism and just had occupational health). Im hoping they do, i made such progress, it was getting better going in - yes with a few challenges but I still want to carry on. I dobt know when I'll hear. I think possibly this week im presuming but I haven't been given a time frame.
Even if they do, its worry of, do work think I'm capable? Will it get the support to enable me to carry on? Will there be negative energy's?
Before this, i haf a meeting with service manager who express she felt i was too anxious to be in work and i haven't met required standards so to think about if I want to carry on and I said that im always anxious but I want to carry on yes and feel progress has been made.

Thank you... ill make a note of those services...

Invisible_me

Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 24.11.25

Nemuritai wrote: »

I feel so silly writing this because there are people with much bigger problems but I'm just struggling right now, everything feels so hopeless and I don't want to keep going, I just want everything to stop. I'm safe.

@Nemuritai your issues matter no matter how big or small they are, we are here to listen and support no matter what

Redemption

Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 24.11.25

I feel so silly writing this because there are people with much bigger problems but I'm just struggling right now, everything feels so hopeless and I don't want to keep going, I just want everything to stop. I'm safe.

Nemuritai

Re: the housing market

Hiya @toffuna101 I also agree with what @Nathan and @independent_ said about the current prices of getting a mortgage and housing. Sadly the housing market has gone over rather pricey as of lately and is probably the worst it has been. I can see that this has been on your mind at the moment and I totally know the feeling of wanting to have your own space and to be fully independent. I'd say if your able to to talk to citizens advice as they can look at the housing system and I think for people with disabilities there's also a waiting list for it because they will tend to prioritise it.

At the moment for me I'm just waiting until the prices go down before I start looking at housing because I just find it too expensive at the moment.

Hopefully you can get some more support and guidance on this over time.

Amy22

Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 24.11.25

Ech0 wrote: »

@PetiteQuark I can completely understand why reading about that would feel really scary and I am so sorry to hear about how worried you feel. From what I know, this disease is extremely rare, and I think using tap water for wudu is generally very safe in most places I hope you can feel even a small sense of reassurance knowing you’re doing your best and we are here to listen and support you.

Is it safe even in the uk? I saw a video from the daily mail or something of a doctor saying tuat tapwater in the uk isnt safe for this brain eating amoeba thing
My heads been hurting and i feel like throwing up im scared

PetiteQuark

Re: the housing market

DonnerKebab wrote: »

@toffuna101 the housing market is really bad. Like horrifically bad. Like never been as extreme as it is today level of bad. Some waiting lists for social housing even last up to 10 years with how things are. And as for first time homebuyers, the average age sits at roughly 34, but that includes those with financial support from parents commonly termed the bank of mum and dad. Without that, it's even older, nearly reaching in the 40's which is insane.

What i'd advise is talk if you can to citizens advice about supported living spaces as they will be clued up on who to talk to and what it entails, or potentially about getting higher priority on the social housing waitlist if you have a disability. They can help advise you on the supported living spaces, and also about getting higher on the social housing waitlist. As for a mortgage, i have zero advice to give on that cause it's really bad right now. Bad enough that i'm leaving the country at the first chance i get to have a chance at home ownership in life.

It's good that your planning these things out early, but citizens advice is gonna be your best friend for anything your parents don't know, so it's worth talking with them. i'll drop you a link to citizens advice and their online advisor chat site.

https://www.citizensadvice.org.uk/about-us/information/chat-with-an-adviser-online/

thanks for giving me the link. ill chat to an advisor when i get closer to 18 or when i finish college. and in terms of having a disability, i do have cerebral palsy. and i have mental health diagnoses too.

independent_ wrote: »

It’s so good to see you planning this early. I’m 22 and only just put my name on the social housing list, though i gather it is somewhat easier to get up here in Scotland because there are simply more available, though it is still a long waiting list.

I second speaking with citizens advice. There is information out there about what gives you priority on the housing list, so it is worth checking to see if you tick any of those boxes. It turns out I ticked boxes I never even thought I would.

Supported living is not for me so I’ve never really looked into that, but it is also worth declaring any physical disabilities or mental health conditions you have if you apply for it or social housing, as it may give you more priority on the lists.

Edited to add that it is also worth noting that for a mortgage you need a sizeable deposit, so if you’re able to start saving now, it keeps your options more open.

thanks for the information.

toffuna101