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Re: i hit 4 months free from sh ( tw ) sh.
aw. thankyou all so so much 
. rly made me so happy seeing these msgs! you’re all so lovely. @Nathan @Katie @Nemuritai . thankyou
. rly made me so happy seeing these msgs! you’re all so lovely. @Nathan @Katie @Nemuritai . thankyou 
eylah
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Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 01.12.25
Hey @Nemuritai we're here if you feel comfy sharing a little more. You mentioned things have been a lot harder than usual recently - I wonder what things in particular you're referring to?
It's also totally okay if you need a vent. That's exactly what these threads are here for, and our Community is here to listen and support you with whatever is going on for you right now.
It's also totally okay if you need a vent. That's exactly what these threads are here for, and our Community is here to listen and support you with whatever is going on for you right now.
Katie
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Re: i hit 4 months free from sh ( tw ) sh.
Wow a huge well done @eylah ! This is a big milestone and shows your strength, courage and persistence. I can imagine it hasn't always been easy, and it's okay if some days feel tougher than others, but what matters is you're choosing to keep going. This is incredible!
Katie
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Re: Hi - new Community Officer
Hiya @JayJ Welcome on in! It's awesome to have you here too 
. I look forward to getting to know you over your time here.
. I look forward to getting to know you over your time here.
Amy22
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Re: Hi - new Community Officer
@JayJ welcome! Former shout volunteer here, and if you’re who I’m thinking, i remember you and how you welcomed me. Great to have you here!
i hit 4 months free from sh ( tw ) sh.
tw// sh. longest i have ever gone. rly proud of myself 
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.eylah
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Re: Anybody want to vent or chat about anything? w/c 01.12.25
I'm finding it really hard to cope with everything right now. I'm safe, the thoughts are just overwhelming and I feel really numb and empty and can't stop crying. I'm sorry also if it's annoying at all, me venting I mean. I don't usually vent this much at all, things have just been a lot harder than usual.
Re: ( cw: sexual harassment ) i always feel scared when someone is interested in me
hi @eden87 - hope you're doing okay today.
That sounds like quite a lot to be dealing with at once, and like some challenging emotions are coming to the surface.
Feeling like you have less experience than others around you is an challenging probably more common than you might think. I know there’s probably people on here who have felt in the same boat as you at one stage or another – myself included. It seems like these are also bringing up curiosities surrounding sexuality and things like that too, which is a totally normal part of figuring ourselves out and who we are and what we like.
I know this is often said a lot, but dating can be quite the journey and sometimes involve a few trial and errors to get us to where we want to be, but within that you will grow and figure out what you like and what you don’t like and so on. But the right person for you will respect that. They wont judge you for lack of experience, they won’t make you feel judged or uncomfortable or unsafe. The right person for you will make you feel secure and loved the way you deserve. It’s just that sometimes it may take some of us a bit longer than others. But there is absolutely no rush in this process and finding the right person for you.
What matters most is that you stay true to your boundaries and what your comfortable with doing or saying with someone else, whilst still giving yourself to find your happiness and your person. Whilst love and romance and relationships are great and all, your comfort is what matters most. So as the cliché sayings go – the right person will come along, and you will feel safe and loved and unjudged in that, but don’t feel the need to push yourself into societies expectations because you feel like you might be ‘behind in life’. Sometimes the best things are worth the wait.
Sending you the biggest of hugs and we are all here if you need more support or want to talk about anything else – related to this topic or not.
That sounds like quite a lot to be dealing with at once, and like some challenging emotions are coming to the surface.
Feeling like you have less experience than others around you is an challenging probably more common than you might think. I know there’s probably people on here who have felt in the same boat as you at one stage or another – myself included. It seems like these are also bringing up curiosities surrounding sexuality and things like that too, which is a totally normal part of figuring ourselves out and who we are and what we like.
I know this is often said a lot, but dating can be quite the journey and sometimes involve a few trial and errors to get us to where we want to be, but within that you will grow and figure out what you like and what you don’t like and so on. But the right person for you will respect that. They wont judge you for lack of experience, they won’t make you feel judged or uncomfortable or unsafe. The right person for you will make you feel secure and loved the way you deserve. It’s just that sometimes it may take some of us a bit longer than others. But there is absolutely no rush in this process and finding the right person for you.
What matters most is that you stay true to your boundaries and what your comfortable with doing or saying with someone else, whilst still giving yourself to find your happiness and your person. Whilst love and romance and relationships are great and all, your comfort is what matters most. So as the cliché sayings go – the right person will come along, and you will feel safe and loved and unjudged in that, but don’t feel the need to push yourself into societies expectations because you feel like you might be ‘behind in life’. Sometimes the best things are worth the wait.
Sending you the biggest of hugs and we are all here if you need more support or want to talk about anything else – related to this topic or not.