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i would go bc even though things will be ok its better to be safe then sry. i was wondering do you have anyone who could go with you would that help maybe? even though its ‘less essential’ then last time its still better to have a check up bc then you have peace of mind knowing things are ok. sry if what i said is ridiculous just wanting you to know ppl care abt you including me ❤️.
eylah
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Re: (TW: discussion of racism) I’m ashamed to be a part of my family
Just wanted to say similar to the reply above. it can be hard when the people we are essentially closest to and spend significant time around make comments like this.
but ultimately the fact you recognise the offence such statements can have and are willing to call it out shows that you aren't like those members of your family at all. Even from just that post you made, it's fairly clear to me that your personal values and beliefs don't align with the ones of your family members who are making such comments - and for that keep going!!!!!!
As hard as it can be, as much as we educate people on why such remarks are hurtful, some people refuse to accept it as such. But keep doing what you're doing and i'm sure you won't be like them - even in 10, 20, 50 years time
Hope you're doing okay today and sending hugs
Sinead
but ultimately the fact you recognise the offence such statements can have and are willing to call it out shows that you aren't like those members of your family at all. Even from just that post you made, it's fairly clear to me that your personal values and beliefs don't align with the ones of your family members who are making such comments - and for that keep going!!!!!!
As hard as it can be, as much as we educate people on why such remarks are hurtful, some people refuse to accept it as such. But keep doing what you're doing and i'm sure you won't be like them - even in 10, 20, 50 years time
Hope you're doing okay today and sending hugs
Sinead
Re: Today at college
I'm so glad to hear you got the support you needed today @Rose113 
The team sound lovely and it's great that they are there for you whenever you need. I'm so proud of you for sharing with them 
I really hope you're able to get some better sleep tonight
The team sound lovely and it's great that they are there for you whenever you need. I'm so proud of you for sharing with them I really hope you're able to get some better sleep tonight 
amy02
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Re: Is it time?
Omg I love this thread so much! I've been having the same debate in my head with xmas music, 'is it too early!?' But I think I'm just going to do it because it makes me so happy! haha!
Sian321
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Re: Hello :)
Hey it's lovely to meet you! Welcome!
Thank you so much for opening up to us about what's been happening lately. The intense anxiety you're coping with daily sounds really overwhelming, especially alongside your fears of failing at life you 'should' be living, and the fear that your anxiety might never go away. That's a lot of pressure and worry.
I can relate personally to just how all-consuming anxiety can feel sometimes. It's horrible, to feel unsafe even when you're trying to reason with your mind and remind yourself that you are. The anxiety just feels so real, and I relate too to that feeling of 'what if this never goes away? What if this is who I am now?' It can be scary.
I'm so glad that you've found us here. I know there are so many friendly people who want to listen and support you. It feels like you're really working through something right now, and while I have every faith that this anxiety won't be permenant and that things will shift and change, it's okay to not have all the answers right now. I hope you can be kind to yourself, @mollyrose77 , and lean in to whatever you need.
In some of the hardest moments with your anxiety, is there anything or anyone that helps bring you comfort? Who or what helps you feel safer?
Keep us posted, and sending hugs,
Sian
Thank you so much for opening up to us about what's been happening lately. The intense anxiety you're coping with daily sounds really overwhelming, especially alongside your fears of failing at life you 'should' be living, and the fear that your anxiety might never go away. That's a lot of pressure and worry.
I can relate personally to just how all-consuming anxiety can feel sometimes. It's horrible, to feel unsafe even when you're trying to reason with your mind and remind yourself that you are. The anxiety just feels so real, and I relate too to that feeling of 'what if this never goes away? What if this is who I am now?' It can be scary.
I'm so glad that you've found us here. I know there are so many friendly people who want to listen and support you. It feels like you're really working through something right now, and while I have every faith that this anxiety won't be permenant and that things will shift and change, it's okay to not have all the answers right now. I hope you can be kind to yourself, @mollyrose77 , and lean in to whatever you need.
In some of the hardest moments with your anxiety, is there anything or anyone that helps bring you comfort? Who or what helps you feel safer?
Keep us posted, and sending hugs,
Sian
Sian321
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Re: Hello :)
Hi, welcome to the forum! We're glad to have you here 
I can hear how you're struggling with mental wellbeing at the moment. Like you've said, you in the right place for support as I'm sure your experience will resonate in some way with others here. I can understand the dilemma you're in here - you stay home because daily life is a struggle, but in doing so, it sounds like you're upset with missing out on society events, academic content and time with friends.
Mental wellbeing can waver over time, and while it's never pleasant to go through a dip, it's reassuring to know that you've been through worse and gotten through. You've got the resilience to make it through this
Taking some perspective on the situation can be helpful too. Our wellbeing can be impacted by all sorts of things at any time, and you certainly won't be the first or last person to need some time away from university. University societies will still run events you can join once you're ready to go back; lecture content can be caught up (and uni tutors can help you to plan this when you return); and I'd hope your house friends will be glad to see you back! When we feel like we're missing out, it can make us feel worse; but at the same time, it gives us something to look forward when we can return. You're not failing at life because you need a little time out - if anything, it's a decision taken with maturity, compared to just ignoring the issue
Is there anything in particular, apart from being at home itself, that you think is making you feel anxious? If missing out is the issue, are there any ways you could slowly ease yourself back into socialising/studies while at home? We're here to support you through this
I can hear how you're struggling with mental wellbeing at the moment. Like you've said, you in the right place for support as I'm sure your experience will resonate in some way with others here. I can understand the dilemma you're in here - you stay home because daily life is a struggle, but in doing so, it sounds like you're upset with missing out on society events, academic content and time with friends.
Mental wellbeing can waver over time, and while it's never pleasant to go through a dip, it's reassuring to know that you've been through worse and gotten through. You've got the resilience to make it through this
Taking some perspective on the situation can be helpful too. Our wellbeing can be impacted by all sorts of things at any time, and you certainly won't be the first or last person to need some time away from university. University societies will still run events you can join once you're ready to go back; lecture content can be caught up (and uni tutors can help you to plan this when you return); and I'd hope your house friends will be glad to see you back! When we feel like we're missing out, it can make us feel worse; but at the same time, it gives us something to look forward when we can return. You're not failing at life because you need a little time out - if anything, it's a decision taken with maturity, compared to just ignoring the issue
Is there anything in particular, apart from being at home itself, that you think is making you feel anxious? If missing out is the issue, are there any ways you could slowly ease yourself back into socialising/studies while at home? We're here to support you through this
Azziman
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Re: Guess I’m struggling
No rush at all @Rose113 ! Good luck with your media work for college.
I see what you mean too - that sounds nerve-wracking, and it makes total sense that it feels complicated and a bit scary. I can imagine that these reunions feel really emotionally-loaded, and I'm so glad that your mum's holding that in mind too and looking out for you.
Whatever happens, I hope you can do something super gentle and nice for yourself afterwards.
We'll be here
I see what you mean too - that sounds nerve-wracking, and it makes total sense that it feels complicated and a bit scary. I can imagine that these reunions feel really emotionally-loaded, and I'm so glad that your mum's holding that in mind too and looking out for you.
Whatever happens, I hope you can do something super gentle and nice for yourself afterwards.
We'll be here
Sian321
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Re: Low self esteem and Virginity
Hi @HensAny779 I can hear how you are hurting and it must be so exhausting for you to carry these thoughts. I'd just like to say that you are important and you matter. How you look physically isn't everything for a partner so don't lose hope. Someone will come along who appreciates you for you.
Regarding your thoughts that life isn't worth living. Do these thoughts come on a lot? It sounds like you're experiencing some heavy thoughts and feelings here. I can understand these crisis numbers may be daunting to call and that's normal to feel that way, but they are there if you need them and you're not any less deserving to use these services than anyone else.
Is there anything you enjoy doing that makes you feel a bit better when you have these thoughts? Such as watching films, listening to music? Do you have any close friends that you feel like you could open up to about this? I'd like to remind you that you're not alone in how you are feeling.
We are here to support you so make sure to continue reaching out
Regarding your thoughts that life isn't worth living. Do these thoughts come on a lot? It sounds like you're experiencing some heavy thoughts and feelings here. I can understand these crisis numbers may be daunting to call and that's normal to feel that way, but they are there if you need them and you're not any less deserving to use these services than anyone else.
Is there anything you enjoy doing that makes you feel a bit better when you have these thoughts? Such as watching films, listening to music? Do you have any close friends that you feel like you could open up to about this? I'd like to remind you that you're not alone in how you are feeling.
We are here to support you so make sure to continue reaching out
