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Re: Hello :)
Hey it's lovely to meet you! Welcome!
Thank you so much for opening up to us about what's been happening lately. The intense anxiety you're coping with daily sounds really overwhelming, especially alongside your fears of failing at life you 'should' be living, and the fear that your anxiety might never go away. That's a lot of pressure and worry.
I can relate personally to just how all-consuming anxiety can feel sometimes. It's horrible, to feel unsafe even when you're trying to reason with your mind and remind yourself that you are. The anxiety just feels so real, and I relate too to that feeling of 'what if this never goes away? What if this is who I am now?' It can be scary.
I'm so glad that you've found us here. I know there are so many friendly people who want to listen and support you. It feels like you're really working through something right now, and while I have every faith that this anxiety won't be permenant and that things will shift and change, it's okay to not have all the answers right now. I hope you can be kind to yourself, @mollyrose77 , and lean in to whatever you need.
In some of the hardest moments with your anxiety, is there anything or anyone that helps bring you comfort? Who or what helps you feel safer?
Keep us posted, and sending hugs,
Sian
Thank you so much for opening up to us about what's been happening lately. The intense anxiety you're coping with daily sounds really overwhelming, especially alongside your fears of failing at life you 'should' be living, and the fear that your anxiety might never go away. That's a lot of pressure and worry.
I can relate personally to just how all-consuming anxiety can feel sometimes. It's horrible, to feel unsafe even when you're trying to reason with your mind and remind yourself that you are. The anxiety just feels so real, and I relate too to that feeling of 'what if this never goes away? What if this is who I am now?' It can be scary.
I'm so glad that you've found us here. I know there are so many friendly people who want to listen and support you. It feels like you're really working through something right now, and while I have every faith that this anxiety won't be permenant and that things will shift and change, it's okay to not have all the answers right now. I hope you can be kind to yourself, @mollyrose77 , and lean in to whatever you need.
In some of the hardest moments with your anxiety, is there anything or anyone that helps bring you comfort? Who or what helps you feel safer?
Keep us posted, and sending hugs,
Sian
Sian321
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Re: Hello :)
Hi, welcome to the forum! We're glad to have you here 
I can hear how you're struggling with mental wellbeing at the moment. Like you've said, you in the right place for support as I'm sure your experience will resonate in some way with others here. I can understand the dilemma you're in here - you stay home because daily life is a struggle, but in doing so, it sounds like you're upset with missing out on society events, academic content and time with friends.
Mental wellbeing can waver over time, and while it's never pleasant to go through a dip, it's reassuring to know that you've been through worse and gotten through. You've got the resilience to make it through this
Taking some perspective on the situation can be helpful too. Our wellbeing can be impacted by all sorts of things at any time, and you certainly won't be the first or last person to need some time away from university. University societies will still run events you can join once you're ready to go back; lecture content can be caught up (and uni tutors can help you to plan this when you return); and I'd hope your house friends will be glad to see you back! When we feel like we're missing out, it can make us feel worse; but at the same time, it gives us something to look forward when we can return. You're not failing at life because you need a little time out - if anything, it's a decision taken with maturity, compared to just ignoring the issue
Is there anything in particular, apart from being at home itself, that you think is making you feel anxious? If missing out is the issue, are there any ways you could slowly ease yourself back into socialising/studies while at home? We're here to support you through this
I can hear how you're struggling with mental wellbeing at the moment. Like you've said, you in the right place for support as I'm sure your experience will resonate in some way with others here. I can understand the dilemma you're in here - you stay home because daily life is a struggle, but in doing so, it sounds like you're upset with missing out on society events, academic content and time with friends.
Mental wellbeing can waver over time, and while it's never pleasant to go through a dip, it's reassuring to know that you've been through worse and gotten through. You've got the resilience to make it through this
Taking some perspective on the situation can be helpful too. Our wellbeing can be impacted by all sorts of things at any time, and you certainly won't be the first or last person to need some time away from university. University societies will still run events you can join once you're ready to go back; lecture content can be caught up (and uni tutors can help you to plan this when you return); and I'd hope your house friends will be glad to see you back! When we feel like we're missing out, it can make us feel worse; but at the same time, it gives us something to look forward when we can return. You're not failing at life because you need a little time out - if anything, it's a decision taken with maturity, compared to just ignoring the issue
Is there anything in particular, apart from being at home itself, that you think is making you feel anxious? If missing out is the issue, are there any ways you could slowly ease yourself back into socialising/studies while at home? We're here to support you through this
Azziman
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Re: Guess I’m struggling
No rush at all @Rose113 ! Good luck with your media work for college.
I see what you mean too - that sounds nerve-wracking, and it makes total sense that it feels complicated and a bit scary. I can imagine that these reunions feel really emotionally-loaded, and I'm so glad that your mum's holding that in mind too and looking out for you.
Whatever happens, I hope you can do something super gentle and nice for yourself afterwards.
We'll be here
I see what you mean too - that sounds nerve-wracking, and it makes total sense that it feels complicated and a bit scary. I can imagine that these reunions feel really emotionally-loaded, and I'm so glad that your mum's holding that in mind too and looking out for you.
Whatever happens, I hope you can do something super gentle and nice for yourself afterwards.
We'll be here
Sian321
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Re: Low self esteem and Virginity
Hi @HensAny779 I can hear how you are hurting and it must be so exhausting for you to carry these thoughts. I'd just like to say that you are important and you matter. How you look physically isn't everything for a partner so don't lose hope. Someone will come along who appreciates you for you.
Regarding your thoughts that life isn't worth living. Do these thoughts come on a lot? It sounds like you're experiencing some heavy thoughts and feelings here. I can understand these crisis numbers may be daunting to call and that's normal to feel that way, but they are there if you need them and you're not any less deserving to use these services than anyone else.
Is there anything you enjoy doing that makes you feel a bit better when you have these thoughts? Such as watching films, listening to music? Do you have any close friends that you feel like you could open up to about this? I'd like to remind you that you're not alone in how you are feeling.
We are here to support you so make sure to continue reaching out
Regarding your thoughts that life isn't worth living. Do these thoughts come on a lot? It sounds like you're experiencing some heavy thoughts and feelings here. I can understand these crisis numbers may be daunting to call and that's normal to feel that way, but they are there if you need them and you're not any less deserving to use these services than anyone else.
Is there anything you enjoy doing that makes you feel a bit better when you have these thoughts? Such as watching films, listening to music? Do you have any close friends that you feel like you could open up to about this? I'd like to remind you that you're not alone in how you are feeling.
We are here to support you so make sure to continue reaching out
Re: This is probably going to sound very silly and stupid
Hey @Amy22, thank you for sharing this with us - this doesn't sound stupid and silly at all.
I just want to say that you shouldn't feel guilty at all for playing games, especially when they bring you lots of joy. There's no shame in being a kid at heart - I think it's great to see the world from this perspective - after all we have one life to enjoy. Doing what you enjoy makes up a lot of your identity. There's a lot of people similar to you including myself, I like watching object shows on YouTube even though I find the idea of objects talking and being well written quite funny, and I still really like watching cartoons more than shows/movies involving real life people.
It looks like you've recognised that you're no longer a kid anymore, and that in life, we take more responsibilities as we grow up. I'm here to tell you that it's definitely possible to partake in hobbies and adult at the same time - adulting can be quite scary and overwhelming sometimes, which is why we may find ourselves doing things which help us escape from this feeling, like drawing or listening to music. Playing games is not something to be ashamed of - you don't have to give up doing this for the sake of adulting.
I'd say achieving a balance between responsibility and finding time to engage in what makes you happy (no matter how childish it might seem to others) is great way to live life. I feel like it's manageable to take on responsibility one step at a time - there's no rush to adult at all, opportunities for growth will come naturally to us
Sending hugs,
Kai
I just want to say that you shouldn't feel guilty at all for playing games, especially when they bring you lots of joy. There's no shame in being a kid at heart - I think it's great to see the world from this perspective - after all we have one life to enjoy. Doing what you enjoy makes up a lot of your identity. There's a lot of people similar to you including myself, I like watching object shows on YouTube even though I find the idea of objects talking and being well written quite funny, and I still really like watching cartoons more than shows/movies involving real life people.
It looks like you've recognised that you're no longer a kid anymore, and that in life, we take more responsibilities as we grow up. I'm here to tell you that it's definitely possible to partake in hobbies and adult at the same time - adulting can be quite scary and overwhelming sometimes, which is why we may find ourselves doing things which help us escape from this feeling, like drawing or listening to music. Playing games is not something to be ashamed of - you don't have to give up doing this for the sake of adulting.
I'd say achieving a balance between responsibility and finding time to engage in what makes you happy (no matter how childish it might seem to others) is great way to live life. I feel like it's manageable to take on responsibility one step at a time - there's no rush to adult at all, opportunities for growth will come naturally to us
Sending hugs,
Kai
kaii
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Re: Is it to late for me to make friends?
@Alwayshope2day Yeah I’d be a bit scared to do that, and I’d prefer to make friends IRL because it just seems better than social media
JMMV2005
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Re: trump winning?
@stardust444 thank you for making this thread - it's good to talk about it
JustV
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Re: trump winning?
i completely agree. whilst i respect that people will have different political opinions on both Trump and Harris, i was definitely team Kamala, and do worry for the women and various minority groups in the USA given the political stand-point Trump takes on several important topics. I do think it's crazy how he could even run for president given his 'history' with the law. Personally, I believe Kamala would have been a MUCH better president, and i think she did an amazing job with the short amount of time she had to run her campaign.
And I think that for us it is still okay to feel nervous and worried. whilst we may not be in the USA, American politics can often impact on an international scale.
So take this as a reminder to take care of your mental health too during this time - it's okay to feel anxious about what's happening in the world right now. and I'm sending you all lots of hugs.
And I think that for us it is still okay to feel nervous and worried. whilst we may not be in the USA, American politics can often impact on an international scale.
So take this as a reminder to take care of your mental health too during this time - it's okay to feel anxious about what's happening in the world right now. and I'm sending you all lots of hugs.
