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Re: A goodbye from me
@Jellyelephant congratulations!! Your story is truly admirable.
It sounds like you have found a role that is perfect for the person you are. I am sure your words of wisdom and kindness will touch many.
Best of luck
It sounds like you have found a role that is perfect for the person you are. I am sure your words of wisdom and kindness will touch many.
Best of luck
Re: A goodbye from me
Aww Jelly! It's been so lovely talking to you over the years. You've been through so much and grown so much too, and I'm so happy for you that you've got this CPN job! You've had such a positive impact on me during my time with the mix, and I think pretty much every mod and chatter would say the same. It's going to be really sad to not see you around in chats but I know you're going to be an absolutely amazing CPN and you'll keep going from strength to strength
Elijah
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Re: Would you rather be able to play every instrument or speak every language?
i would rather speak every language so then i can talk to people in another language so they have no idea what im saying at them i mean i only now twolanguages romanian and english sooo i usually swear at people in romanian with a smile on my face so they ahve no idea wtf im saying and when they ask ill just say omg gurl ur soooo pretty
Re: Riots
originally was the stabbing in southport where 3 child got killed. but now seems they targeting anyone. its getting ridiculous bc they smashing innocent ppls shops etc. even saw a samaritans building smashed up. its awful. stay safe ellie .
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eylah
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Re: Missing my friend
Hey @mistyinthesky,
I know how hard it must have been to come out and share your feelings with your flatmate. It takes so much courage to be open and vulnerable like that, and I'm proud of you for taking those steps. It's completely understandable that emotions ran high when things didn't go the way you hoped. When we care about someone and they don't feel the same, it can really hurt, and it's easy to say things in the heat of the moment that we don't mean, especially if we're feeling embarrassed or rejected. This is something I have definitely experienced before as a queer woman. The important thing is that you recognise this now - that shows a lot of self-awareness and growth.
I'm sorry to hear that apologising didn't repair the friendship in the way you wanted it to. This happens sometimes, and it really sucks. However, you did the right thing by reaching out and apologising, so I hope you can take some comfort in that. It sounds like you made the right call to go to a different uni and start fresh. I'm proud of you for that!
In terms of accepting when someone doesn't have the same feelings for you, this can be hard and is something lots of people, especially within the queer community, find themselves having to navigate! I guess I would say that it’s so natural to want that connection, and it can be hard not to get attached when you really care about someone. The important thing to remember is that your feelings are valid, and it's okay to feel hurt or disappointed. It’s also great that you can recognise that it’s not the other girl’s fault - feelings are complex, and sometimes they just don’t match up the way we hope. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you or her; it’s just part of life and love. But do be kind to yourself as you navigate this. Learning to manage attachment and acceptance is something that takes time and experience. You’re already showing a lot of self-awareness, which is a big step. With time, it will get easier to handle these situations without feeling so attached or hurt.
Please don’t be too hard on yourself—feelings can be messy, especially when we're first figuring out our identity. In the LGBTQ+ community, we’re often all just trying to figure things out as we go, and it’s okay to make mistakes along the way. You're a good person, and these are just bumps in the road!
Take good care of yourself.
I know how hard it must have been to come out and share your feelings with your flatmate. It takes so much courage to be open and vulnerable like that, and I'm proud of you for taking those steps. It's completely understandable that emotions ran high when things didn't go the way you hoped. When we care about someone and they don't feel the same, it can really hurt, and it's easy to say things in the heat of the moment that we don't mean, especially if we're feeling embarrassed or rejected. This is something I have definitely experienced before as a queer woman.
The important thing is that you recognise this now - that shows a lot of self-awareness and growth.I'm sorry to hear that apologising didn't repair the friendship in the way you wanted it to. This happens sometimes, and it really sucks. However, you did the right thing by reaching out and apologising, so I hope you can take some comfort in that. It sounds like you made the right call to go to a different uni and start fresh. I'm proud of you for that!
In terms of accepting when someone doesn't have the same feelings for you, this can be hard and is something lots of people, especially within the queer community, find themselves having to navigate! I guess I would say that it’s so natural to want that connection, and it can be hard not to get attached when you really care about someone. The important thing to remember is that your feelings are valid, and it's okay to feel hurt or disappointed. It’s also great that you can recognise that it’s not the other girl’s fault - feelings are complex, and sometimes they just don’t match up the way we hope. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you or her; it’s just part of life and love. But do be kind to yourself as you navigate this. Learning to manage attachment and acceptance is something that takes time and experience. You’re already showing a lot of self-awareness, which is a big step. With time, it will get easier to handle these situations without feeling so attached or hurt.
Please don’t be too hard on yourself—feelings can be messy, especially when we're first figuring out our identity. In the LGBTQ+ community, we’re often all just trying to figure things out as we go, and it’s okay to make mistakes along the way. You're a good person, and these are just bumps in the road!
Take good care of yourself.
issie
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Re: Riots & Violence
That’s horrific, I’m so sorry you had to go through that. You absolutely are welcome here.
Re: Riots & Violence
@Anonymoose1 i can't even imagine what it's like for you just in general being in the UK right now. I've had some riots in the town next to mine, and there was one planned for the other day, but nothing really came of it. I've felt a bit nervous about the protests myself as a white person, so I can only imagine how much worse it feels for you
Just remember your fears and concerns are absolutely valid, and those people who came up to you had absolutely NO RIGHT to make you feel uneasy or unwelcomed in the UK because you ABSOLUTELY ARE.
As much as I wish I didn't have to even give you this advice, kind of like what Eylah said, where possible probably try not be outside on your own when they happen, particularly in the night tbh coz most protests seem to be happening in the evenings or weekends from what i've seen.
It's typically the case that somewhere on social media will say where things are happening so I'd probably recommend to keep checking just incase.
But try and stay as safe as you can, and remember you are loved and welcomed and have just a right to be here as anyone else - no matter what the protestors say.
Sending you a big hug
Sinead
Just remember your fears and concerns are absolutely valid, and those people who came up to you had absolutely NO RIGHT to make you feel uneasy or unwelcomed in the UK because you ABSOLUTELY ARE.
As much as I wish I didn't have to even give you this advice, kind of like what Eylah said, where possible probably try not be outside on your own when they happen, particularly in the night tbh coz most protests seem to be happening in the evenings or weekends from what i've seen.
It's typically the case that somewhere on social media will say where things are happening so I'd probably recommend to keep checking just incase.
But try and stay as safe as you can, and remember you are loved and welcomed and have just a right to be here as anyone else - no matter what the protestors say.
Sending you a big hug
Sinead
Re: A goodbye from mod Katie (redacted!)
Hey Katie,
Just wanted to send a little message to say thank you for being your fabulous self. You always make me feel welcome and like I’m an important part of chat. You make me laugh, you’ve supported me and you’ve cheered me on for my achievements. I’m so grateful to have gotten to know you on chats and I’ll miss you lots. I’m really proud of you for your new role though and I know you’ll be amazing!
Take care
Jelly xxx
Just wanted to send a little message to say thank you for being your fabulous self. You always make me feel welcome and like I’m an important part of chat. You make me laugh, you’ve supported me and you’ve cheered me on for my achievements. I’m so grateful to have gotten to know you on chats and I’ll miss you lots. I’m really proud of you for your new role though and I know you’ll be amazing!
Take care
Jelly xxx
Re: A goodbye from mod Katie (redacted!)
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