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Re: Showering
Hey @TheNightmare. We can hear how you recognise the importance for hygiene but it requires motivation and energy.
Sometimes I think planning for it can be helpful or timing it for when less demands are required. It means I have more of the energy required.
Would you like to talk about your lower mood / interview?
Sometimes I think planning for it can be helpful or timing it for when less demands are required. It means I have more of the energy required.
Would you like to talk about your lower mood / interview?
Re: My real mum
That's understandable why you think that @Rose113. Families can be complicated and if you feel like this is an easier way of going about it that's completely okay, especially when its so fresh and new still. With time and getting to know your biological mum a bit more, you can decide whether you want to make them aware of the situation. It's completely up to you. 
Re: My real mum
I can hear the conflicting feelings @Rose113. Your feelings and thoughts are valid here. As you said, now you are 18, you should have a sense of control as well. Do you feel able to talk to them about wanting to do this?
Re: My real mum
Hey @Rose113, I'm glad to hear things are going well - you really do deserve to have so much love and support around you.
How did it make you feel hearing your mum say that she will support you with what you're going through?
I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. I can imagine this must be really difficult to process having been distanced from him too. How are you holding up after receiving that news?
How did it make you feel hearing your mum say that she will support you with what you're going through?
I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. I can imagine this must be really difficult to process having been distanced from him too. How are you holding up after receiving that news?
Gemma
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Re: Interview
We are really proud of you @TheNightmare - especially for being glad you did the interview despite those pesky nerves! How are you feeling now?
Re: Probably something stupid
That's a really sweet idea to do actually and I can imagine how much those cards could lighten up someone's day .
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Amy22
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Re: [deleted]
I'm really sorry to hear how much pain you're in right now @bignosegirly0, and thank you for being so open about it. It sounds like you've been carrying a lot of hurt and anger, and with the added pain and stress of work bullying, it’s completely understandable why it feels overwhelming. Ruminating on these feelings can be exhausting, especially when it seems like there’s no release or way to fully express everything you’re going through. It’s brave of you to take the step to share this here rather than bottling it up alone.
The feeling of injustice you’re describing is powerful - it can be really hard to watch those who have hurt you appear to succeed while you're dealing with such deep challenges. It’s natural to have these kinds of thoughts and reactions, especially when you feel wronged and alone in your struggles.
I wonder if there are any outlets that have helped you release these feelings even a bit in the past, like talking it out, or writing? Sometimes finding even small ways to express those emotions, especially in safe and constructive ways, can make it easier to take on the next day. And when things feel overwhelming, it can also help to talk through it with someone trusted who can support you. How are you feeling now that you've shared a bit here?
I've included some links below to some support services that might be helpful, if you'd like to share some more about how you've been feeling with someone:
The feeling of injustice you’re describing is powerful - it can be really hard to watch those who have hurt you appear to succeed while you're dealing with such deep challenges. It’s natural to have these kinds of thoughts and reactions, especially when you feel wronged and alone in your struggles.
I wonder if there are any outlets that have helped you release these feelings even a bit in the past, like talking it out, or writing? Sometimes finding even small ways to express those emotions, especially in safe and constructive ways, can make it easier to take on the next day. And when things feel overwhelming, it can also help to talk through it with someone trusted who can support you. How are you feeling now that you've shared a bit here?
I've included some links below to some support services that might be helpful, if you'd like to share some more about how you've been feeling with someone:
Crisis Messenger (24/7) | text THEMIX to 85258
Samartians (24/7) | call 116 123 | email jo@samaritans.org
Papyrus (2pm-midnight) | call 0800 068 41 41 | text 07786 209 697 | email pat@payrus-uk.org
Supportline (hours vary) | call 01708 765 200
Childline | call 0800 11 11
Gemma
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Re: im trying to keep going 😕
you're very strong for getting through each day @eylah. It's okay to have bad days. Like @stardust444 mentioned you're not alone.
Re: Felt isolated and targeted at pool
Hey @Creativeboy23, it sounds like you’ve been going through a really challenging time, and I’m sorry to hear you’re feeling isolated and lonely. It can be difficult when comments from others, especially in social settings, leave us feeling embarrassed or targeted. It’s totally understandable that you would feel hurt and confused after that situation with your friend and the group.
It sounds like you’re trying to balance a lot of different feelings - understanding why your friend might have said what he did, wondering if the laughter was directed at you, and even considering what your counsellor said about where to put your energy. With all that in mind, it’s natural to feel uncertain about how to respond. You mentioned feeling ignored and struggling to reach out to others for support, and that can be incredibly tough.
Would it help to explore what’s making this situation stick with you? Or maybe talk about how you feel about opening up to your friend or even others in your life? No matter what, your feelings are valid, and we're here to listen.
^Just picking up on this too - we're sorry your thread didn't get a response until now. We can see it's been a busy time on the boards and this can sometimes result in threads getting missed. It's never intentional but this doesn't take away from how it made you feel, particularly when you've been having difficulty getting through to Shout too. We know that wait times can be longer at specific times of the day. I'll pop some other services below that you can always reach out to should you need some more support:
It sounds like you’re trying to balance a lot of different feelings - understanding why your friend might have said what he did, wondering if the laughter was directed at you, and even considering what your counsellor said about where to put your energy. With all that in mind, it’s natural to feel uncertain about how to respond. You mentioned feeling ignored and struggling to reach out to others for support, and that can be incredibly tough.
Would it help to explore what’s making this situation stick with you? Or maybe talk about how you feel about opening up to your friend or even others in your life? No matter what, your feelings are valid, and we're here to listen.
Creativeboy23 wrote: »No one has responded to my threads. I have been unable to get through to SHOUT, so I have been stuck with my experiences, which upset me. I understand there are a lot of threads others have to respond to, people have busy lives, and there is a massive demand for the helpline SHOUT, causing delays in reaching people. However, I have been feeling ignored, which makes me very lonely.
^Just picking up on this too - we're sorry your thread didn't get a response until now. We can see it's been a busy time on the boards and this can sometimes result in threads getting missed. It's never intentional but this doesn't take away from how it made you feel, particularly when you've been having difficulty getting through to Shout too. We know that wait times can be longer at specific times of the day. I'll pop some other services below that you can always reach out to should you need some more support:
Samartians (24/7) | call 116 123 | email jo@samaritans.org
Papyrus (2pm-midnight) | call 0800 068 41 41 | text 07786 209 697 | email pat@payrus-uk.org
Supportline (hours vary) | call 01708 765 200
Childline | call 0800 11 11
Gemma
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