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Re: Self care n the new me
@River Self care is so important and it's great you've recognised the need to put yourself first. There's quite a common saying that you aren't in a position to help others until you've helped yourself, which I think is quite a good saying to go by. Taking care of yourself is very important, others can wait, and they're not your responsibility. The true people that care about you will understand. It's great that you're starting to have regular meals as it does make quite a big difference. It's great that you're trying to show yourself compassion, as it's not always easy to give ourselves the respect and patience we would give others. I would keep at it as it's very difficult and it might not happen right away, but it's a start!
Also by the way I love your profile picture and name, they're really cool!
Also by the way I love your profile picture and name, they're really cool!
Re: 2010-2013
I know that quite a few popular films were released during that time - Skyfall, Frozen, a couple of Harry Potter films, The Huger Games and lots more!
There was also some popular music released - a few Lady Gaga songs, Paradise by Coldplay and the one I remember most perhaps… The Lazy Song by Bruno Mars!
Thanks for asking this, it’s given me a chance to have a stroll down memory lane!
There was also some popular music released - a few Lady Gaga songs, Paradise by Coldplay and the one I remember most perhaps… The Lazy Song by Bruno Mars!
Thanks for asking this, it’s given me a chance to have a stroll down memory lane!
Re: A guide to self-care from The Mix & community
I've seen this post on social media and it is brilliant! It's so helpful too as well
Amy22
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Re: Not that anyone would care soooo 🤷♀️
I'm so sorry to hear you're going through this @Past User. I know you've told us not to convince you that you're not all of those horrible things, but we really don't think that you are. You've said yourself that your whole life, you've been the therapist for all your friends and never once walked out of there lives, staying up practically every night at least keeping one person away from harm. A person that does this can't be stupid, horrible or pathetic, Morgyn. This just shows how much you care for other people, how kind, and empathetic you are, how valuable your support is to others, and how having you around is making a difference.
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We are certainly grateful that you're still around. We are all here for you @Past User (whether you like it or not
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I know you have said that you're done reaching out for support but that you're also having some really difficult feelings around giving up. I recognise it's not always easy to share these feelings and you're doing really well sharing with us here. Do you feel able to reach out to any crisis services when you're having those suicidal thoughts?
Whenever you're feeling scared or struggling to stay safe, remember there's some great support services a call or text away whenever you need them. I've listed a few below for you:
^Feeling like nobody sticks around must be such an incredibly isolating feeling. Although some people always come and go, we all need some stability in our lives - someone who will be there for us. Remember, you can always share how you feel with us hereNo ones every said that they care and they are there for me and actually ment it. If that ever happen then I'll be shocked.
.^You don't have to fake how you feel to us, Morgyn. But this is a good reminder for yourself - you're still here, you've pulled yourself out of those dark places before, and you can do it again. Give yourself some credit for how strong you are for being able to do this.Yes I've had days where ive felt like giving up but im still here right? Why can no one ever be grateful for that. All the time I have to fake how I feel, I have to pull myself out of dark places which is draining but I still do it.
We are certainly grateful that you're still around. We are all here for you @Past User (whether you like it or not
)I know you have said that you're done reaching out for support but that you're also having some really difficult feelings around giving up. I recognise it's not always easy to share these feelings and you're doing really well sharing with us here. Do you feel able to reach out to any crisis services when you're having those suicidal thoughts?
Whenever you're feeling scared or struggling to stay safe, remember there's some great support services a call or text away whenever you need them. I've listed a few below for you:
* If you need urgent help or have any concerns for your health or safety, the quickest way to get help is to call 999 or go to your nearest A&E.
*Crisis Messenger - Our crisis messenger text service provides free, 24/7 crisis support across the UK. If you’re aged 25 or under, you can text THEMIX to 85258.
* Papyrus - If you are having thoughts of suicide, you can contact HOPELINEUK for confidential support and practical advice. You can call them on 0800 068 4141 or text them on 07786209697.
* Samaritans are reachable by phone and email 24/7. Whatever you're going through, you can call them any time, from any phone on 116 123.
Gemma
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Re: Autism and ADHD
Hey @JJLemon18 - in a sentence, yes - it's not uncommon for someone who is on the autism spectrum to also have ADHD, and vice versa. I've never heard of them being "one or the other", that's for sure. If you want to have a clinical, formal answer, then NHS diagnosis is the way to go, though there is a very long waiting list for it. The university society won't require that - they'll probably recognise that it's hard to get a diagnosis at the moment (or in certain countries).
That being said, the reason they'll mention "strongly" believing it to you is just so you'll feel like you can relate to others (for example, some people use the word "autistic" to describe themselves for the sole reason that they like routines. In reality, being autistic means much more than that! So the society probably isn't the right choice for that person because the space isn't really meant for that situation). The reason that society is set up is to provide a space for those who experience neurodiversity, so they want to make sure that those that join are best placed to be a part of that community.
The fact that you've gone to the GP and considering diagnosis options suggests that it's not just a casually-used term for you. And the society is likely to be a good choice for you if you want to feel understood - talking about your experiences with others who may resonate with how you feel is validating! But if you find that you're not neurodiverse while you're there - that's completely fine. Part of going through the diagnosis process is that not everyone will meet one condition's criteria, and it may be that you find that it's something else entirely - finding a diagnosis isn't always a straight path. At that point, it'd be right to leave because the space isn't right for the support you're looking for, but that doesn't mean it was wrong to be there at all. At the moment, it's your best guess so it's the best support space for you. Talking to others and seeing if you relate to them is a helpful pointer as to whether you might be neurodiverse as well
And on talking to parents, remember that the best placed person to decide if you're neurodivergent is someone who's spent their career working on it and understanding it - the doctors are more likely to know than anyone else! I think parents often don't want to accept that their children might be neurodivergent, not because of any malice, but because they fear how being neurodivergent and having that label might affect them negatively in life (social, career etc). Often times, it's out of love and fear, not out of hatred. I hear how it's a difficult conversation to have with them, and you should talk to them if and when you feel comfortable to do so. If that means waiting until you have more information and answers, that's completely fine, there's no rush!
That being said, the reason they'll mention "strongly" believing it to you is just so you'll feel like you can relate to others (for example, some people use the word "autistic" to describe themselves for the sole reason that they like routines. In reality, being autistic means much more than that! So the society probably isn't the right choice for that person because the space isn't really meant for that situation). The reason that society is set up is to provide a space for those who experience neurodiversity, so they want to make sure that those that join are best placed to be a part of that community.
The fact that you've gone to the GP and considering diagnosis options suggests that it's not just a casually-used term for you. And the society is likely to be a good choice for you if you want to feel understood - talking about your experiences with others who may resonate with how you feel is validating! But if you find that you're not neurodiverse while you're there - that's completely fine. Part of going through the diagnosis process is that not everyone will meet one condition's criteria, and it may be that you find that it's something else entirely - finding a diagnosis isn't always a straight path. At that point, it'd be right to leave because the space isn't right for the support you're looking for, but that doesn't mean it was wrong to be there at all. At the moment, it's your best guess so it's the best support space for you. Talking to others and seeing if you relate to them is a helpful pointer as to whether you might be neurodiverse as well
And on talking to parents, remember that the best placed person to decide if you're neurodivergent is someone who's spent their career working on it and understanding it - the doctors are more likely to know than anyone else! I think parents often don't want to accept that their children might be neurodivergent, not because of any malice, but because they fear how being neurodivergent and having that label might affect them negatively in life (social, career etc). Often times, it's out of love and fear, not out of hatred. I hear how it's a difficult conversation to have with them, and you should talk to them if and when you feel comfortable to do so. If that means waiting until you have more information and answers, that's completely fine, there's no rush!
Azziman
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Re: Crazy dream
These are some amazing stories! So many weird and wonderful stories come from dreams Love that sometimes you get really crazy stories that break all creative barriers!, and other times, you get dreams where you're just making a cup of tea. 
Love that sometimes you get really crazy stories that break all creative barriers!, and other times, you get dreams where you're just making a cup of tea. Azziman
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Re: Low mood, memories and my brother
Hello @Creativeboy23 ,
I'm sorry you've been feeling down and that you went through things that brought back negative emotions. I hope you know you can always use this forum to communicate with people and share your experiences and feelings.
I also want to say that one one thing I noticed is the fact that you're taking the time to analyse your feelings and how things affect you - i know that trying to make sense of one's own feelings is no easy feat, so it's great that you're talking about them openly.
I'm sorry you've been feeling down and that you went through things that brought back negative emotions. I hope you know you can always use this forum to communicate with people and share your experiences and feelings.
I also want to say that one one thing I noticed is the fact that you're taking the time to analyse your feelings and how things affect you - i know that trying to make sense of one's own feelings is no easy feat, so it's great that you're talking about them openly.