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Hey @JJLemon18 - in a sentence, yes - it's not uncommon for someone who is on the autism spectrum to also have ADHD, and vice versa. I've never heard of them being "one or the other", that's for sure. If you want to have a clinical, formal answer, then NHS diagnosis is the way to go, though there is a very long waiting list for it. The university society won't require that - they'll probably recognise that it's hard to get a diagnosis at the moment (or in certain countries).

That being said, the reason they'll mention "strongly" believing it to you is just so you'll feel like you can relate to others (for example, some people use the word "autistic" to describe themselves for the sole reason that they like routines. In reality, being autistic means much more than that! So the society probably isn't the right choice for that person because the space isn't really meant for that situation). The reason that society is set up is to provide a space for those who experience neurodiversity, so they want to make sure that those that join are best placed to be a part of that community.

The fact that you've gone to the GP and considering diagnosis options suggests that it's not just a casually-used term for you. And the society is likely to be a good choice for you if you want to feel understood - talking about your experiences with others who may resonate with how you feel is validating! But if you find that you're not neurodiverse while you're there - that's completely fine. Part of going through the diagnosis process is that not everyone will meet one condition's criteria, and it may be that you find that it's something else entirely - finding a diagnosis isn't always a straight path. At that point, it'd be right to leave because the space isn't right for the support you're looking for, but that doesn't mean it was wrong to be there at all. At the moment, it's your best guess so it's the best support space for you. Talking to others and seeing if you relate to them is a helpful pointer as to whether you might be neurodiverse as well

And on talking to parents, remember that the best placed person to decide if you're neurodivergent is someone who's spent their career working on it and understanding it - the doctors are more likely to know than anyone else! I think parents often don't want to accept that their children might be neurodivergent, not because of any malice, but because they fear how being neurodivergent and having that label might affect them negatively in life (social, career etc). Often times, it's out of love and fear, not out of hatred. I hear how it's a difficult conversation to have with them, and you should talk to them if and when you feel comfortable to do so. If that means waiting until you have more information and answers, that's completely fine, there's no rush!