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Re: Autism and ADHD
i would just join - and if they’re a decent enough society they won’t even question if you’ve got an official diagnosis or not . Your most likely find there’s other members in the society who are in the same position as you.
The society I help run are called the Neurodiverse society and most of our members do have autism - but again we cover others such as ADHD , Dyslexia , dyspraxia etc
The society I help run are called the Neurodiverse society and most of our members do have autism - but again we cover others such as ADHD , Dyslexia , dyspraxia etc
Re: Fed up and wound up.
I can really hear how you feeling apprehensive about the idea of a new form of therapy at the moment @sputnik, especially as it is a form of therapy you haven't heard much about. Hopefully, you will be able to access the information you need about it soon once it has been researched more. How do you feel your therapy is going? You have mentioned other people do not think it is going well but I am wondering how you are feeling about how it is going and the idea of medication.
As you say, many things can contribute to what does/doesn't work as well as the causes of mental health difficulties and it is difficult to know which exact things those are (as well as varying from person to person). Your thoughts and feelings are valid, as are your childhood circumstances and any psychological factors that may have triggered your mental health difficulties. You have also mentioned how your thoughts and feelings are influenced by your family and I am hearing a general sense of a lack of control. Would you like to share more with us about this at the moment?
As you say, many things can contribute to what does/doesn't work as well as the causes of mental health difficulties and it is difficult to know which exact things those are (as well as varying from person to person). Your thoughts and feelings are valid, as are your childhood circumstances and any psychological factors that may have triggered your mental health difficulties. You have also mentioned how your thoughts and feelings are influenced by your family and I am hearing a general sense of a lack of control. Would you like to share more with us about this at the moment?
Re: What do you do to look after your wellbeing?
I really like this thread @Aife! For me, I really enjoy doing whatever I feel like doing! I also really like mindlessly drawing simple doodles, and taking naps whenever I feel really tired. When there's something I get worried about, I sometimes go on YouTube and listen to relaxing piano music with rain in the background. I'm not sure why, but it gives me a lot of comfort that everything will be okay 
kaii
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Re: What do you do to look after your wellbeing?
I like to have days where I do whatever I want, abandoning all self-restraint. It sounds weird but like just letting my brain go wherever it wants is very therpeutic for me! Like I get an urge to go outside, I go outside, then I decide I want to walk through the woods, so I do that, maybe I go to the shop and buy something stupid. I guess just being impulsive for a bit and going with the flow.
For self-care on days where my mental health is rough, I like to hide in my room, put some music or a podcast on through my headphones, and play some easy video games and get lost.
For self-care on days where my mental health is rough, I like to hide in my room, put some music or a podcast on through my headphones, and play some easy video games and get lost.
JustV
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Re: Autism and ADHD
I also agree with what everyone else has said on this thread as the concept of having just autism or just adhd is in fact a myth. You can be and indentify as AUHD (which is a combination of both autism and ADHD, which I got myself and was dignosed with at a young age) It does sound like your therapist may have been unsure eventhough you knew yourself that you may possibly be neurodiverse. I know a lot of self - referral places can be private and most of the time they will just sign-post to a CBT counsellor or CBT online conselling which isn't always helpful for most neurodiverse people. I can understand how hard it is to get a formal dignosis especially as the services are stretched and the waiting list for an assessment is super long. It can take years for some to get a dignosis. I also agree with what @Millie2787 mentioned about looking into the services that your uni provide, if the club is for all types of neurodiverse people then there shoulden't be an issue for you to join. If your uni offers these services they can often assign extra support or a support plan in place which can help you. My college did something with me and my now my workplace are doing the same. It can be good to look at your options and explore what's best for you . Always here too if you need someone.
. Always here too if you need someone. 
Amy22
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Re: Making friends these days
@JJLemon18
It's actually an idea that I'm getting used to- some friends or people will only fulfil you in different ways and that doesn't have to be a bad thing, like... friends who fuel you academically and encourage your pursuits, and like i said, friends who are able to give you a good time- these people may be different but you can appreciate them equally for different reasons. Finding friends who check off multiple of these boxes are just extra special to me personally, but I've stopped trying to expect this in all my friends and to appreciate what each friendship offers- of course its only natural that you trust and are closer to some than others. I guess what friendship means to people is quite subjective anyhow.
I think if you're not ready, you can maybe slowly distance yourself? Some days sit with them, some days don't, and usually, people get used to natural drifting in the long term. I think separating yourself from people who don't fit you doesn't have to be a negative thing at all and not even personally against them. Again, you might be more comfortable doing something else but this is just a suggestion
This is a bit vague and I apologise because each person's experience with this is so different but I feel like the more you know yourself, the more likely you'll find friends that are good for you, but this takes a lot of hit and misses, and also generally takes a long time- sometimes it means spending a lot of time with yourself before letting others into your life. With others talking first, maybe joining a club will surround yourself with people who are more open to talk with you as you share a similar interest?
No need to apologise at all!
It's actually an idea that I'm getting used to- some friends or people will only fulfil you in different ways and that doesn't have to be a bad thing, like... friends who fuel you academically and encourage your pursuits, and like i said, friends who are able to give you a good time- these people may be different but you can appreciate them equally for different reasons. Finding friends who check off multiple of these boxes are just extra special to me personally, but I've stopped trying to expect this in all my friends and to appreciate what each friendship offers- of course its only natural that you trust and are closer to some than others. I guess what friendship means to people is quite subjective anyhow.
I think if you're not ready, you can maybe slowly distance yourself? Some days sit with them, some days don't, and usually, people get used to natural drifting in the long term. I think separating yourself from people who don't fit you doesn't have to be a negative thing at all and not even personally against them. Again, you might be more comfortable doing something else but this is just a suggestion
This is a bit vague and I apologise because each person's experience with this is so different but I feel like the more you know yourself, the more likely you'll find friends that are good for you, but this takes a lot of hit and misses, and also generally takes a long time- sometimes it means spending a lot of time with yourself before letting others into your life. With others talking first, maybe joining a club will surround yourself with people who are more open to talk with you as you share a similar interest?
No need to apologise at all!
Re: Adjusting to university life - tips from The Mix
@JJLemon18 , i would agree with @sinead276 , you do not want to overwhelm yourself but having the opportunity to meet new people, socialise and try new things is such an important part of university. I have just started 3rd year and think in the first week i signed up for 6 but only ever attended 2 of them lol and now i tend to just go to a few of the socials for my subjects society. I do wish that i had stuck with maybe one more but honestly you have just got to see how much you can fit in and enjoy doing. There is no harm in signing up for loads and trying a few things out and seeing which are best for you!
Katie12
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Re: Stitch and primark
@Past User Omg okay okay my favourites are the eyelash curlers (because who doesnt want eyelashs curled by Stitch?????), the fluffy hoodie thing, the bag with scrump and the fluffy slippers (FLUFFY THINGS + STITCH= BEST). Heheheh you should count all the Stitch things you own I want to know what the number of things is (never enough!)
leyla26
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Re: Autism and ADHD
Well as someone who has a long line of family members with adhd and asd, you can have both conditions. So the statement you can't have both at the same time is a myth. Unfortunately with ASD and ADHD the services in most areas are stretched with many not taking on new referrals due to the back long that the tiktok trend that has come about over covid about adhd and being diagnosed and the myths etc surrounding it.
No where will accept a self-referral (believe me I've tried) unless you go private and then sadly the NHS tends not to recognise private diagnoses (this is what I am aware from family who have done this).
Only thing you can do is read the NICE guidelines, speak to family about when you was younger look for patterns of behaviour, for ADHD there is a scale thing (I'll try finding it later) take the evidence written down so you don't forget and relay why you believe having this diagnoses will help and the impact these 2 conditions INDIVIDUALLY has on you and your day to day life. Expect to wait, expect knock backs, expect being told your referral has been sent when it hasn't, expect being told the waiting lists are closed at this time. But just try different GP in your surgery. I've been through 3 GPs in 3yrs and I'm still waiting for my ADHD paperwork to be accepted my a clinic, ive been lied to multiple times about this which is why I know all this.
No where will accept a self-referral (believe me I've tried) unless you go private and then sadly the NHS tends not to recognise private diagnoses (this is what I am aware from family who have done this).
Only thing you can do is read the NICE guidelines, speak to family about when you was younger look for patterns of behaviour, for ADHD there is a scale thing (I'll try finding it later) take the evidence written down so you don't forget and relay why you believe having this diagnoses will help and the impact these 2 conditions INDIVIDUALLY has on you and your day to day life. Expect to wait, expect knock backs, expect being told your referral has been sent when it hasn't, expect being told the waiting lists are closed at this time. But just try different GP in your surgery. I've been through 3 GPs in 3yrs and I'm still waiting for my ADHD paperwork to be accepted my a clinic, ive been lied to multiple times about this which is why I know all this.
