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Re: I really need you guys right now (TW)
@dyoverdx firstly I wanted to say thank you for reaching out on here as well as to the other services - it really is a brave step to be able to talk so openly about difficult things going on in your life and in your home 
I also wanted to say I'm sorry the services let you down. It sounds like it was really painful not to get the type of advice, support or respect you were hoping for when taking that step in reaching out for help. I would definitely say that despite how the situation was handled by them, if you ever do feel like there is danger for yourself or any of your family members the the police and other services should definitely still be first port of call so calling 999 is the right thing to do there. We're definitely here on the boards to support you through such a hard time
I've linked a few other support services in case they are helpful for more specialised support which you might find useful:
I know you mentioned you were moving on to university soon - do you feel like distance will be good for you personally or are you still mostly worried about that change and how it will impact the dynamic in your house?
I also wanted to say I'm sorry the services let you down. It sounds like it was really painful not to get the type of advice, support or respect you were hoping for when taking that step in reaching out for help. I would definitely say that despite how the situation was handled by them, if you ever do feel like there is danger for yourself or any of your family members the the police and other services should definitely still be first port of call so calling 999 is the right thing to do there. We're definitely here on the boards to support you through such a hard time
I've linked a few other support services in case they are helpful for more specialised support which you might find useful:
There is an organisation called Family Lives which offers information, advice, guidance and support on any aspect of family life. You can call them at 0808 800 2222 on Monday to Friday 9am-9pm and Saturday to Sunday 10am-3pm. They also run an online forum and have a webchat service on their website: www.familylives.org.uk open on weekdays 1:30pm - 9pm. You can also email askus@familylives.org.uk
Respect Not Fear is a website which provides information about domestic violence. They provide access to other websites and helplines for further, direct support. For more information, you can visit their website www.respectnotfear.co.uk
ManKind provides help and support to male victims of domestic abuse and violence. They provide an information, support and signposting service to men suffering from domestic abuse. Their confidential helpline is open weekdays 10am-4pm on 01823 334244. You can find out more on their website https://www.mankind.org.uk/
Respect Not Fear is a website which provides information about domestic violence. They provide access to other websites and helplines for further, direct support. For more information, you can visit their website www.respectnotfear.co.uk
ManKind provides help and support to male victims of domestic abuse and violence. They provide an information, support and signposting service to men suffering from domestic abuse. Their confidential helpline is open weekdays 10am-4pm on 01823 334244. You can find out more on their website https://www.mankind.org.uk/
I know you mentioned you were moving on to university soon - do you feel like distance will be good for you personally or are you still mostly worried about that change and how it will impact the dynamic in your house?
EmLiz
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Re: A goodbye from me
I know this was a bit ago @Jellyelephant but couldn't not say anything! So much to say, so little time. I remember when you joined and it's wild to think about your timeline of events since then.
As a moderator I've always appreciated the times where you were a voice of reason in a difficult or chaotic situation, and your ability to genuinely connect with people and somehow say exactly the thing they need to hear. You've also been a wonderful person for our more junior members to look up to, and it's nice to see you taking the talents you have for leadership and emotional support and building a worthwhile career with them (you'll make a great CPN!)
We'll be cheering for you. If you do fall into hard times, trust that you're able to move through them and rebuild once the dust settles. You've shown that so many times.
As a moderator I've always appreciated the times where you were a voice of reason in a difficult or chaotic situation, and your ability to genuinely connect with people and somehow say exactly the thing they need to hear. You've also been a wonderful person for our more junior members to look up to, and it's nice to see you taking the talents you have for leadership and emotional support and building a worthwhile career with them (you'll make a great CPN!)
We'll be cheering for you. If you do fall into hard times, trust that you're able to move through them and rebuild once the dust settles. You've shown that so many times.
JustV
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