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@FordRanger Of course you are a valued user here just like everyone else. You matter a lot to us even to me. I know it's easier said than done but you are not a failure. In fact no human is a failure because we have all tried. There are times when we feel like we failed but we haven't because being human is realising that we are not perfect and that we dont need to be like others especially comparing ourselves to others too. I used to compare my life to loads of people and I know how draining that can be on ourselves. However, you feel like you are lost but that is totally okay. Being in your 20's is all about self exploration and doing the things you love. Everyone is all on a different journey and they all lead different lives. Some get jobs quite easily, where others may have more difficulty getting one. But that doesn't mean that they won't have a job forever because eventually a door of opportunity will open up and then when that opportunity comes you can take it. Im always here if you need someone .

I also agree with @Past User @AnonymousToe you are deserving as much love and support as you need. Sometimes we just need to realise that actually we are capable of self worth and love. One method that I try to tend to do is how would I comfort a friend who needs to self love and then I use those words for myself too. I'll tell you something, I never used to love myself and still don't. I'm not perfect too either in fact none of us humans are really. However, every single person deserves support, love and a listening ear from time to time. Eventually, I realised that I can't help others if I can't give myself appreciation and self-love too. Sometimes it can be easier to support other people rather than other selves at times. You deserve the whole world! I also echo this to everyone else on here too!.

All human beings are worth self love, appreciation and self-worth.

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Hello @FordRanger

I completely understand your feelings as I have also experienced similar thoughts and circumstances. I also want to point out that even though other people can look like they have “everything” and happy, they may very well be feeling the same as you do.

Getting a job is very tough in this day and age. I have experienced this myself. When getting rejected from jobs it can be easy to blame yourself but most of the time it just comes down to other candidates having more experience. Have you ever tried some volunteering? You can get roles which are flexible or online even these days which would allow you to volunteer to fit around your schedule. It’s a really good way to feel like you have a purpose and gain relevant employable skills and also a reference for when you get a job!

As someone who went to university, I can say that I really don’t think you need to go to university to be successful. I actually think gaining voluntary experience somewhere can often count for a whole lot more than having a degree.

For reassurance, I am in my 20s as well and I do not have anything sorted. And I know that fact is true for all of my friends also. Remember what you see online in particular is people posting what’s good in their life and not any of the hard stuff.

@AnonymousToe I don't have much more to add to this, but I'm really sorry to hear that you're struggling with your home situation right now.

You're doing really well, even if it doesn't feel like it!

I would try to keep in mind that you will be going off to uni, as it helps to have something to look forward too, especially in circumstances that are more long-term.

Is it possible to access any sort of counselling in the meantime to help you offload your emotions on the situation or see if there's any strategies that might help you cope in the meantime, or even to address the situation from a different angle.

It sounds like you're feeling quite defeated which is completely understandable, so I'm wondering whether counselling may help you gain a degree of autonomy over the situation, even if it's just to help you process what's going on.

I hope things get better for you soon

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