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Re: I really need you guys right now (TW)

@dyoverdx firstly I wanted to say thank you for reaching out on here as well as to the other services - it really is a brave step to be able to talk so openly about difficult things going on in your life and in your home

I also wanted to say I'm sorry the services let you down. It sounds like it was really painful not to get the type of advice, support or respect you were hoping for when taking that step in reaching out for help. I would definitely say that despite how the situation was handled by them, if you ever do feel like there is danger for yourself or any of your family members the the police and other services should definitely still be first port of call so calling 999 is the right thing to do there. We're definitely here on the boards to support you through such a hard time

I've linked a few other support services in case they are helpful for more specialised support which you might find useful:

There is an organisation called Family Lives which offers information, advice, guidance and support on any aspect of family life. You can call them at 0808 800 2222 on Monday to Friday 9am-9pm and Saturday to Sunday 10am-3pm. They also run an online forum and have a webchat service on their website: www.familylives.org.uk open on weekdays 1:30pm - 9pm. You can also email askus@familylives.org.uk

Respect Not Fear is a website which provides information about domestic violence. They provide access to other websites and helplines for further, direct support. For more information, you can visit their website www.respectnotfear.co.uk

ManKind provides help and support to male victims of domestic abuse and violence. They provide an information, support and signposting service to men suffering from domestic abuse. Their confidential helpline is open weekdays 10am-4pm on 01823 334244. You can find out more on their website https://www.mankind.org.uk/

I know you mentioned you were moving on to university soon - do you feel like distance will be good for you personally or are you still mostly worried about that change and how it will impact the dynamic in your house?

EmLiz

Re: A goodbye from me

I know this was a bit ago @Jellyelephant but couldn't not say anything! So much to say, so little time. I remember when you joined and it's wild to think about your timeline of events since then.

As a moderator I've always appreciated the times where you were a voice of reason in a difficult or chaotic situation, and your ability to genuinely connect with people and somehow say exactly the thing they need to hear. You've also been a wonderful person for our more junior members to look up to, and it's nice to see you taking the talents you have for leadership and emotional support and building a worthwhile career with them (you'll make a great CPN!)

We'll be cheering for you. If you do fall into hard times, trust that you're able to move through them and rebuild once the dust settles. You've shown that so many times.

JustV

Recent comments & Drafts

The general chitchat thread is broken for me. I can only see comments from page 1045 but we're on 1048 now . It was like it a couple hours ago but I left it to see will it fix itself but its still broke. @Chloe234 said it happened on the counting thread for them so I don't think it's just the chitchat thread. Every other thread works for me though

also, don't drafts automatically save anymore? I really liked that feature it was so helpful and I liked to write stuff and never post it lol but they arent saving for me automatically anymore. It was good for when you accidentally click off the page. Saves you writing it all back out.

MOD EDIT:

JustV wrote: »

Hello everyone! I come bearing tidings of great joy (tech updates)

Draft autosave: Something has broken here so the techies that maintain the software we use are investigating and will let us know of any new developments. We could fix it by switching the type of text editor we use, but that would come with accessibility drawbacks, so for now we're going to stick with BBCode until the issue resolves. We'll keep you all posted on that.

Timeout errors: These were related to a bug that has now been fixed, so you should see less of these. Some timeout errors are inevitable with any website so don't worry too much unless you're seeing them a lot more than usual.

Thread pages are empty: Turns out this is because the 'true' number of comments in the thread is higher than the amount you guys can see.

For a bunch of different reasons, sometimes posts are hidden from view. For short threads, that doesn't really matter because it's usually only one or two. However, for big threads like Count To 10k, the amount of hidden posts is high enough that it covers multiple pages. That's because the thread covers so much time and so many different accounts, so the hidden posts mount up.

That means you're seeing the 'true' number of pages for the discussion, but a much lower post count, which results in empty pages being shown at the end of the thread.

BUT, the most recent posts you can see are actually the most recent posts.

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Thanks for keeping us on our toes, as always!

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