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Hey @bignosegirly0

I’m sorry for the way you’ve been treated in the past by men it’s awful and it sounds like they have the personality of teaspoons. You don’t deserve people poking fun and making you feel like you’re not worthy because what they say simply isn’t true.

I know this might be frustrating to hear right now but I do really believe that beauty is subjective and there are loaaaads of people who aren’t shallow eejits like the ones you’ve unfortunately come across. You know? I don’t think beauty looks the same for everyone.

Your posts are really sad to read because it’s clear how much you’re hurting but I also think it’s clear to me and everyone looking in from the outside just how hard youre being on yourself. Sure, if we keep telling ourselves that we’re “ugly” and we’re this that and the other we’re going to start believing it. I really believe that no one is ugly. People just conform to look a certain way because society and media pushes those ideas… and just because someone looks different doesn’t make them any less beautiful. Humans feel uncomfortable sometimes with what’s different but being unique isn’t a flaw, sure isn’t that beauty in itself?

I know people have treated you cruel and you’re feeling hurt but maybe once in a while you can try and pick someone thing out about yourself that you do like. I know it’s hard not to see the negatives, like when you posted how to look better outside, when I looked at those pics the first thing I noticed was how blue your eyes are! I’ve never seen eyes that blue and they’re so nice and vivid. I know you might overlook these things in yourself but they are there and I promise ye not everyone is looking at ye and trying to search for imperfections💚

I genuinely despise being a femcel.

Are you actually in any femcel forums / communities or watching any femcel videos?

Sure, be gentle with yourself when you can. You didn’t deserve the harshness you’ve faced and you definitely don’t deserve it from yourself. Try and give yourself the kindness others failed to give you because you’re more than what they tried to make you believe .

Sheesh, ya incel & femcel communities can be really harsh sometimes. I guess they’re just full of people who are deeply hurt and desperate to show that in someways.

It must’ve felt nice to find someone to relate to but I do think they’re best to avoid. They seem really toxic and almost brain washing in a way. I’m glad you don’t use them anymore, sure for your own mind. You don’t need to read that crap.

I know this post is about feeling frustrated with trying to find love, I feel like now a days people tend to use dating apps to find people they like / who like them. Have you ever tried that?

I do hear your frustrations and I’m really sorry you’ve been made to feel this way. You didn’t deserve any of this. No one should be left feeling so horrible about themselves.

For what it’s worth, I’m glad you’re alive . I do believe you’ll find your way out of this darkness

Ohhh im excited for Paddington! Also to start the Xmasy movies in a few weeks haha

Ooh @Sian321 I'm also hoping to see the new Paddington for some cosy vibes

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Gosh i feel even more depressed. Seriously hate just existing.
The only thing that keeps me going is that, according to islam this life isnt important and its the afterlife that is and in heaven you can have anything you want as long as it isn't anything bad. But then it doesnt help me when people tell me that im a horrible person who will rot in hell.

sry to hear this hru now? you arent a horrible person you are going through a tough time rn but that doesn’t mean your a bad person bc your not! hugs 🤗

Honestly ngl i just feel alot more pessimistic than usual. Thank you for your kindness I really dont deserve it, I actually am a terrible person.

i hear you like @Sian321 said do you feel safe atm? you do deserve kindness you rly do bc you are going through a tough point atm and you are deserving of help through that. from my perspective you arent a bad person youve done nothing to make you a bad person i hope your feeling little better? im here for you 🫂

Ahhh, okay adding 'Crisp morning walk' to my list now, and hot chocolate too. There's actually a cute little caravan in the park near me that does the best hot chocolate with toasted marshmallows. Maybe I should go get one of those!

Thank you @eylah !