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But now you know how some people could be taking your posts do you think you could maybe change the way your posts are coming across?
To be honest you sound as though you have some very good information with regards to people losing weight, but when youre coming across like a Sergeant Major youre not really helping are you
"That's awfully kind, that you're trying to offer advice, but try doing it in a subtle way next time."
I'll just answer that with one of my favorite quote:
"Wanting people to listen- you can't just tap them on the shoulder anymore. You have to hit them with a sledgehammer."
Now, I know it's not my job to single-handedly cure obesity and overweightness, and obviously some people are getting very offended, so I'll rest my thoughts here. I am not trying to offend anyone, only be truthful and honest in order to help them. And I believe Crescendo is only trying to do the same. I don't go around picking on or making fun of overweight people, heavens no. But people on these boards all seem unhappy with their weight and appearance. I am simply offering up facts about why being overweight is unhealthy, and that one should try to live a healthy lifestyle in order to cure this disease (obesity is now starting to be classified as a disease). Now, if it were healthy and there was nothing wrong with being overweight, it wouldn't be called a "disease". I can alert people to the danger they are in; I can offer tips on how to live a healthier lifestyle. You can listen to me or ignore me, it doesn't really matter. What you choose to do or not to do will not affect my life, only yours. But to say I am trying to offend people and that I might cause them to have an eating disorder by merely saying that being overweight is an unhealthy way to be - that's ridiculous. I don't know any of you, I never will, and I have no reason to be mean like that. Good luck to everyone trying to change their lifestyle for the better and become healthy.
Remember, the yogurt is only ONE of the reasons. There may well be other reasons that I don't know about, but lets not get into too much detail, unless u want to............
And what do you mean by 'allowing'? I am telling you the facts, SIMPLE. i.e, If you want to get slim this is what you have to do. Don't blame me, I didn't create humans and the way the react to certain foods.
And also, can I just point out that the reason why I, as you say, 'have a problem' with your diet and exercise (which I don't) is only because you didn't think that what I said was true (about eating healthily and keeping active = getting slimmer). Can I also point out that what I said was particularly aimed at overweight people. You are not overweight.
Despite not being fat, you still want to be slimmer. There is nothing wrong with this, but I'm afraid your gonna have to work a bit harder if you want to achieve that, i.e, doing vigerous cardiovascular exercise (running instead of walking), maybe a bit of weightraining, and eating even more healthily.
I AM NOT FORCING YOU TO DO ANY OF THIS, I AM JUST TELLING YOU THE FACTS.
Peace
Your thin, fit - maybe happy.
Then there's other people who is over-weight + happy.
As for the ones who are over-weight and are unhappy, let them speak to a professional and get some advice, preferably not from you, no offence.
It's just so hurtful, the things you come of with. If you're trying to offer advice, listen to yourself before anyone else has to. Coz the things you have came of with are pretty harsh.
I know a beautiful little girl (8-9yrs old), called Emma. You could say shes over-weight but not because, she lives on fried food or chocolate or that she's lazy.... she has a medical problem. Her mum is so strict on her, making sure she eats the right food, and as a little girl, shes always playing round her neightbourhood then she has people like you, cricticising her parents (Oh, how could they let her get soo fat) and then the other kids from school, calling her names.
It's not right - And you're not helping, by making this post that is out off line from your comments you have made - You only know 'Some' of the facts.
Crescendo you have not replied to this yet? I wonder why? I wonder is it because im slim (as I already pointed out) so you are not interested at all in me, all your interested in is having a go at the larger people.
I do not think you are helping anyone here by the comments your constantly coming out with, the only thing you appear to be doing is giving them an even bigger complex problem.
As I have already said you do seem as though you have some very good information but your using it in the wrong way, you seem as though you have got a thing about overweight people and its as though youre angry with them? It would be nice if you could use your knowledge in a more constructive way rather than the way you are currently putting things across.
When walking down the street and you see an overweight person do you stare at them? Do you think to yourself 'look at that fatty, they must really *want* to be thin'?
Why do you care so much what other people do with their lives? Why interfere?
At last! What we have all been saying for the last 5 pages has begun to sink in!