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  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,235 An Original Mixlorian
    LolaPumpkin13 wrote: »
    I just can’t do it anymore

    are you safe?
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 229 Trailblazer
    No
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,235 An Original Mixlorian
    pls call 111 option 2. or msg shout. unfortunately i cant give you crisis support that you deserve rn. or call 999 pls.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 229 Trailblazer
    No I’m ok they won’t do anything
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 229 Trailblazer
    No one listened I did speak to the mental health when I was with my ex and nothing happened
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 229 Trailblazer
    Absolute waste of time
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 229 Trailblazer
    My thoughts have got extremely worse
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 229 Trailblazer
    If people would of just listened this wouldn’t of happened
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,104 Boards Guru
    Hi @LolaPumpkin13 , thank you so much for reaching out. I can really hear just how distressing things are right now, and you're coping with some extremely difficult thoughts and feelings. We hear you and the seriousness of your situation. The staff team are going to drop you a Direct Message so that we're able to assess your safety today.

  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,104 Boards Guru
    We're mindful that this thread has at times become a crisis space, or that you've been struggling to cope @LolaPumpkin13 .

    This sounds so overwhelming, and please know that while we cannot hold space for you here safely if you're feeling unsafe, if you text THEMIX to 85258 you can access 24/7 in-the-moment 1:1 support from our crisis service.

    Other spaces that operate 24/7 include:
    https://peerchat.link/Samaritans
    https://peerchat.link/papyrus
  • RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 6,121 Master Poster
    @LolaPumpkin13 here's some support services that might be helpful, you are never alone
    https://www.papyrus-uk.org/

    https://www.thecalmzone.net/suicide-prevention-helpline

    https://www.samaritans.org/winter-2025-paid/?campaign_name=&utm_source=google&utm_medium=psearch&utm_campaign=winter-2025&utm_content=pmaxbrand&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=21616511647&gclid=EAIaIQobChMIiq2Uvv-AkQMVBZlQBh11JiAgEAAYASAAEgI-gvD_BwE
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,235 An Original Mixlorian
    hru today @LolaPumpkin13 ?
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 229 Trailblazer

    I’ve had a hard day but had a laugh with my dad

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 229 Trailblazer

    I don’t know what to do anymore

  • AzzimanAzziman Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 2,469 Boards Champion

    Hey @LolaPumpkin13, just checking in, how are you doing? What's on your mind today? We're here to listen to you and support you through this.

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  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 229 Trailblazer

    I’m ok had counselling yesterday but just trying to relax

  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,104 Boards Guru

    Hey @LolaPumpkin13 how are you doing? I wonder what your counselling session was like? That sounds really positive that you've been able to get some further support to explore your feelings, as it sounds like its been an extremely difficult past few months.

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 229 Trailblazer

    I don’t know how any of this helps all I do is distract myself but I didn’t think I’m being listened to which isn’t helpful to me and scary to me

  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 229 Trailblazer
    I really need some help plz
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 229 Trailblazer
    I can not do it anymore I’ve tried getting help but nothing I’m tired of living like this
  • LeylaLeyla Community Manager Posts: 536 Incredible Poster
    Hey Lola, I absolutely hear you and see how much you are reaching out and how let down you might be feeling right now. You truly do deserve to be heard and to feel supported and like there can be differences to be made for you - could you please clarify a bit more on what not being able to do 'it' anymore might mean for you right now? Thank you for opening up to us here, we're here to listen
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 229 Trailblazer
    I’m tired of explaining myself all the time
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 229 Trailblazer
    I’m finding it really hard
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 229 Trailblazer
    I don’t know how much more I can take
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,104 Boards Guru
    Hi @LolaPumpkin13 , how are you doing? It sounds like this last week has been extremely tough, and you don't know how much longer you can take. It really does feel like you've been coping with some very difficult thoughts and feelings, and I hear how isolating this has felt too.

    May I ask, what's been the hardest part of this past week? We'll be reaching out to you via a DM too to check in around your safety.

    You're doing so well to be posting about this and reaching out for help. You deserve to have your feelings seen and heard.
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 229 Trailblazer
    I’m not really feeling the best tbh just lonely sad tired
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,104 Boards Guru
    I hear you, @LolaPumpkin13 - that sounds so difficult right now. I really hear how lonely you're feeling, and just how sad you are. It sounds like you've had to carry so much on your own shoulders. When you feel most sad, what do you tend to need most in those moments?

    You mentioned feeling tired too, and that's so valid. It seems like you've had so much to process, which can feel exhausting sometimes. How have you been taking care of yourself this past week?

    We're here to listen.
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 229 Trailblazer
    Just tired of asking for help and not getting it and I’m trying my best to take care of myself
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 229 Trailblazer
    ive spoken to shout a dozen of times especially in the reletionship just seems like no one is listening
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 229 Trailblazer
    i dont want to keep on going through this pain
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