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i went to a counsellor the other day and told him about my problems. He said the same thing that everyone said here, but I'm still not convinced. I'lkl go again next week.
http://vbulletin.thesite.org.uk/showthread.php?t=129286
See! everyone else my age has it sweet and why not me?
http://vbulletin.thesite.org.uk/showthread.php?t=129286
See! everyone else my age has it sweet and why not me?
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maybe one day it will sink in.
Its beside the point anyway. Maybe some people have it easier because they actually listen to what others say sometimes.
Glad to hear you went, and glad to hear you're going again. Hopefully things will get easier for you That thread really doesn't show that 'everyone' has an easy time. Please don't let this thread follow the same pattern as the last two.
BRAVO!
IM NOT STANDARD NICENESS, INFACT IM A BIT OF A SCUMMY PERSON (according to some) FROM THE NORTH EAST
STOP GOING ON ABOUT HOW EVERYONE ELSE IS NORMAL WHEN THEY ARE NOT!
IF I THOUGHT OF MYSELF AS NORMAL I WOULD HAVE TO BASH MY HEAD AGAINST THE WALL.
YOU ARE WHO YOU WANT TO BE, END OF
There is no "normal". There is no "standard" anything. You are who you are and there's no point comparing yourself to anybody else because everybody is different. If you think everybody else on here or in the world has it easy then you must be seriously deluded because that is so very, very wrong.
:yes: x 100.
There is no standard, no nice, no normal because everyone has different ideas of it. No matter what you say your a lot better off then some people.
How?
Some things come naturally to some people and some people have to work hard at learning them. You may well be the latter. Maybe some sort of group therapy where you can interact with people in the same boat without judgement and possibly make friends too
All other young people do. that's why im the odd one out. everyone else say "aww she's only young" and it's as if im some sort of scum.
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It seems you should work on your confidence/self esteem issues.
If you want this thread to stay open, then it's going to have to become a more productive discussion on your part. I think it's fine for you to talk about how you see yourself negatively, as we ALL have things we don't like about ourselves that we'd like to improve on and it's good to bounce off others to see how they've managed to overcome difficulties and improve things for themselves. But what's not helpful is comparing yourself to others so much and assuming that everyone else is better off than you - yes, as suzy has pointed out, naturally some people are in better situations than others - such is life.
If you genuinely would like to learn from people on these forums then it's important to show respect for people's points of view and acknowledge that their anecdotal evidence has value. The whole point of posting on a forum rather than on a blog/livejournal etc is to engage with what other people are saying and so it would be lovely if you could do that rather than just repeating the same thing over and over.
So, this is your chance to prove that you actually want to learn from this community. If you continue to follow the same pattern then this thread will simply be closed.
What's your definition of a 'normal life'? My life certainly isn't 'normal.'
What g_angel said is what I'm currently thinking.
I was thinking 'dumb'
If you won't be happy until you've become normal you'll never be happy as normal doesn't exist.
You have to be happy with who you are and the aspects that you aren't happy with can be changed.
Everyone else is better off though. everyone else was given a headstart in life and I was not.
OK. But I'm upset that who I am is making me sad. It's the basis of all my problems.
Why? Everyone else my age goes to town every night. And everyone else my age is getting married and has kids already.
Why?
Yes there is. Everyone I go people shy away from me when i talk to them. Everyone says i have the shittiest personality and that's why I don't get dates. That doesn't happen to anybody else because everyone is default nice. Being normal is being seen as normal and respectable by everybody else.
But I hate who I am. It's the cause of my problems.