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Seriously, how can you say that you are so much worse off when there are people on cancer wards and with other horrible diseases who spend their life everyday confined to a hospital ward and getting pumped with pills and medication?
How can you claim you have it worst when there are people who are so discontent that they harm themselves in different ways?
If your scale of normality and happiness is going out every night then I suggest that you go to the nearest pub or club and do just that. How hard can it be?
They just did, because everyone was default and I was not.
i think I do.
I've got no one to go with.
What were your GCSE and/or A-Level results, just out of interest? What have you been doing since then?
And go to the pub alone, if it's that important to you. No one makes friends or gets ahead in life by sitting on their ass. Everything takes effort.
I suggest you go out and do something, perhaps volounteering as has been suggested. Will do you good.
Either way this is going round in circles, and by now surely you're just writing these posts to get a kick.
Because that is sweet. It's the standard.
Why do you ask?
but everything is sweet for you and I want the same.
Don't you even fucking dare!
So I am retarded? Why?
What do you mean?
I want advice as to how to be normal like everybody else.
Everyone else here has the standard life of a young person. I want it too. And please, no mystic nonsense. I hate mysticism. Anyone who never goes out is considered a loser and I don't want to be a loser any more.
http://vbulletin.thesite.org.uk/showthread.php?t=129192
http://vbulletin.thesite.org.uk/showthread.php?t=129079
http://vbulletin.thesite.org.uk/showthread.php?t=128547
See? It's alright for everybody else.
It shows that some people out there have physical relationships.
Plenty of people don't and being one of those doesn't automatically make you a complete reject from society.
People on here (and in the rest of life) will get pissed off with you very quickly if you continue banging on about how everyone else has it sweet and you have it all wrong.
I (and many others on here have had it far worse than me) have in no way had an easy life. Yes I've been out with guys, including 4 years in one where I was effectively groomed, I've also been assaulted by one. That definitely doesn't mean I've had it easier than you.
Right now I'm not sure I'd really want to spend time with you, especially if all you do is bitch and moan about how you have it so hard rather than getting out there and doing something.
Eek - I think you've shown a fair bit of empathy here, but this is too much - really very offensive and unfair.
Try telling that to a lady I know whose husband is blind, 2 of her daughters are blind and her youngest is partially sighted. And guess what? They all get on with their life.
Rubbish. Read the self harm & depression thread. People who post there certainly don't have it easy.
The only person who change these things is you.
Yes they do. It's considered normal in society and the standard for young people.
OK. I'm sorry.
How?
I know. Which is why I want to know how to get a normal life like everybody else.
There is no normal life, and as for being young virtually everyone I know had a shite time of it when they were a teenager.
Plus of course what you think you see is false, couples act differently when they are around other people, you really have no idea how happy or otherwise they are.
Its something you might not have learnt yet, it took me a while, but the toubled people, those with complicated pasts, people who dont care about fitting in - they are quite often the most rewarding people to know.
Comparing your life to others is pretty much the most self destructive thing you can do.
Having relationships is the norm. I bet it is for you and everybody else.
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I got the same feeling about the whole 'normal' thing. I certainly consider it 'normal' to go through ups and downs. In some ways that makes the OP normal as well since she's so adamant on that no matter what people go through they're 'normal'.
I've gone alone to clubs and had a blast! Most people are too busy having fun to wonder whether you're on your own or not. Then there's endless things to try and do, sports, courses, internet meet-ups, and so on.
It's however up to the OP to decide if she's willing to do anything to get the normal life she craves. The moment you decide to do ANYTHING other than think about how abnormal your life is then you're one step closer to the normal life you want. It's all about exposure and just getting out there and giving things your best shot. As you keep pointing out to us it's 'normal' to make mistakes and even fail so you've got nothing to lose and everything to gain.
What on Earth do you actually mean? I have no idea what you think a 'normal life' really is.
Yes I have relationships, I've also had horrible times in my life when I've seriously contemplated suicide so dont think you have any idea what my life has been like.
I'm 24 and exactly the same but the difference is between me and you is I'm happy with myself.
When it boils down to it that is a massive difference and not one which is easy to change. But nothing will change if you are always comparing yourself with all the fun you think other people are having, and assuming there is one 'normal' way to live.
Everyone else is nice by default.
But doing that would make me happy and is the normal thing to do.
I want relationships and sweetness too. That's another reason why I'm the odd one out. Everyone else is seen as default nice and people fancy them but not me and I don't like that.
Not everyone else had niceness by default. I have to work damn hard at being nice most of the time as naturally I am a sarcastic bitch. Likewise, not everyone else is instantly fancied. Tell me, do you fancy every person you see? Thought not.
To be happy you need to accept that there is variety in the world. No two people are the same or do the same things - I can't quite see how you don't understand that. Ok, the few people your age you know may all be married with 2 children, but that doesn't mean everyone is by any means.
And if I was 24 and married with 2 kids I definitely wouldn't be happy