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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you are so bloody rich, (not that I condone this sorta thing) then just pay a bloody escort.

    You sound desperate so like yanno, imo, you'd have to pay a woman to spend time with you.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's obvious that Jomery needs a good seein to.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You know, it's not killing a person that makes someone evil, it's planning to kill a person. Even if they fail they're just as evil as if they had succeeded.
    Similar with you. You might not be the kind of guy who's doing it with a different woman every night and never again contacts any since you've never done it, but you're the same as him. You both just want more ticks in the box.
    Well, maybe I'm completely fed up of being the "nice guy", the shoulder to cry on when girls talk about how all men are jerks, the guy girls whinge to that they can't get a boyfriend, the guy that all girls say is so wonderful yet they wouldn't be with themselves. Time to not be such a nice guy if that's what it takes :naughty:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jomery wrote: »
    Well, maybe I'm completely fed up of being the "nice guy", the shoulder to cry on when girls talk about how all men are jerks, the guy girls whinge to that they can't get a boyfriend, the guy that all girls say is so wonderful yet they wouldn't be with themselves. Time to not be such a nice guy if that's what it takes :naughty:



    You know, I can *almost* relate to this, with regards to the 'nice guy' thing.

    For some reason, I have almost always done better with women when playing the 'not so nice' guy... Strange, and I'm certainly not being a prick, but it always works better. :rolleyes:

    Shame really, as I am a nice bloke (most of the time).
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Lacy wrote: »
    As for girls that look like everyone else...who cares! We get laid, we're happy. Shame you can't see past the superficial life you've created for yourself. You'd probably be a lot happier if you did.
    Ignorance is bliss, and correlation between intelligence and depression is rife - Cambridge and Oxford University students (and subsequently graduates) have by a long way the highest rates of depression in the country. In the client-facing areas of consultancy, banking and law, not to mention PR, marketing, people are pretentious and vain. I had a client dinner on Wednesday which was full of 40yo European guys saying how easy it is to fuck women in London compared to the continent. But given my qualifications, family expectations of me etc I have no idea what else there is I could be doing to escape the surreal world that is being a City of London yuppy (young, upper-class, professional).
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you are that unhappy, why don't you do something about it? WOW - You have a degree from Oxbridge. I know people from Oxbridge but they are NOTHING like you. As for family expectations, how old are you? Three?

    You could easily change your situation.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jomery wrote: »
    Ignorance is bliss, and correlation between intelligence and depression is rife - Cambridge and Oxford University students (and subsequently graduates) have by a long way the highest rates of depression in the country. In the client-facing areas of consultancy, banking and law, not to mention PR, marketing, people are pretentious and vain. I had a client dinner on Wednesday which was full of 40yo European guys saying how easy it is to fuck women in London compared to the continent. But given my qualifications, family expectations of me etc I have no idea what else there is I could be doing to escape the surreal world that is being a City of London yuppy (young, upper-class, professional).

    Lol why then if it's so bad do you do it? Apart from money and status (which are crap reasons), i see no reason why someone would subject themselves to a pretentious lifestyle such as that if they didn't have to. Your parents must have really screwed up at some point to produce a child that believes all there is to life is having more money than everyone else and a stunner to show off. That doesn't make you a great person, not in the slightest. I realise that i being a common peasant an all that, that you'll completely ignore my views, but i'd say the majority of people in this world are not like you and your "friends" and we're perfectly happy getting on with our lives.

    But back onto the subject, it's unfair to use a 16 year old girl as a stepping stone. Let alone slaggin her off about it, which is just bang out of order. You need to take a step back and look at yourself because being arrogant is not an attractive quality. I can't see why anyone would want to be your mate, let alone your girlfriend.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you are so bloody rich, (not that I condone this sorta thing) then just pay a bloody escort.

    You sound desperate so like yanno, imo, you'd have to pay a woman to spend time with you.

    This was posted in the 20 Year Old Virgin thread nad I think the person who said it basically got flamed. However, I do see why you (and him) both said it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Lacy wrote: »
    Your parents must have really screwed up at some point to produce a child that believes all there is to life is having more money than everyone else and a stunner to show off.
    It's not about money at all, it's about prestige/status - a section editor of a national newspaper would only make about £40k, less than most 1st year grads in the City, but they'd get a lot, lot more respect for having such a prestigious job than an accountant on £100k.

    What's quite ironic is friends from back home who went to bad state schools, they're getting back in touch now through MySpace saying how enviable they am of me supposedly 'living the dream', when I'd much rather be them if they're content living in a small town, having a 9-5 job and happy to do the same pub-on-weekdays, club-on-weekends life. Are the 'lower classes' overall more happy than the City fat cats? I mean they seem more content with a simple life, but many always seem to be depressed about being in debt / not having enough money to pay the bills and all that.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jomery wrote: »
    It's not about money at all, it's about prestige/status - a section editor of a national newspaper would only make about £40k, less than most 1st year grads in the City, but they'd get a lot, lot more respect for having such a prestigious job than an accountant on £100k.

    Lol no one cares to that extent about status in the real world.

    Thank god the City is contained to one part of the country. That way theres less chance of me bumping into any of ya.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sofie wrote: »
    This was posted in the 20 Year Old Virgin thread nad I think the person who said it basically got flamed. However, I do see why you (and him) both said it.

    Like I said, I don't condone it. I thought my sarcasm was quite obvious :p
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jomery wrote: »
    It's not about money at all, it's about prestige/status - a section editor of a national newspaper would only make about £40k, less than most 1st year grads in the City, but they'd get a lot, lot more respect for having such a prestigious job than an accountant on £100k.
    I really don't get why you even give a shit about gaining the respect of such wankers. I couldn't give a shit about people with such an inflated sense of their own importance. Ooh, section editor of a newspaper. What a big shot. :rolleyes:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jomery wrote: »
    It's not about money at all, it's about prestige/status - a section editor of a national newspaper would only make about £40k, less than most 1st year grads in the City, but they'd get a lot, lot more respect for having such a prestigious job than an accountant on £100k.

    What's quite ironic is friends from back home who went to bad state schools, they're getting back in touch now through MySpace saying how enviable they am of me supposedly 'living the dream', when I'd much rather be them if they're content living in a small town, having a 9-5 job and happy to do the same pub-on-weekdays, club-on-weekends life. Are the 'lower classes' overall more happy than the City fat cats? I mean they seem more content with a simple life, but many always seem to be depressed about being in debt / not having enough money to pay the bills and all that.


    Whereas some people (and I do pretty well for myself, Jomery) don't actually give a flying fuck about prestige/status! A job is a job. I'm always happy if I get paid more (unless the job blows), but I tend not to actually care what people do for a living as long as they're a decent sort. 'Prestige/Status' doesn't make you any less of a cunt, if that's what somebody is!

    Aye - it's circles within circles here. Only the people within your circle(s) actually give a monkeys about all that rubbish. As I mentioned, I worked within your little domain, and absolutely detested it. It was often quite satisfying to bring people down a peg or two whilst I was there.

    If you want to get down with the 'normal' people, get yourself along to a normal (proper) clubbing night and just try being 'normal' for a bit. I suspect you might just like it :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jomery wrote: »
    It's not about money at all, it's about prestige/status - a section editor of a national newspaper would only make about £40k, less than most 1st year grads in the City, but they'd get a lot, lot more respect for having such a prestigious job than an accountant on £100k.

    What's quite ironic is friends from back home who went to bad state schools, they're getting back in touch now through MySpace saying how enviable they am of me supposedly 'living the dream', when I'd much rather be them if they're content living in a small town, having a 9-5 job and happy to do the same pub-on-weekdays, club-on-weekends life. Are the 'lower classes' overall more happy than the City fat cats? I mean they seem more content with a simple life, but many always seem to be depressed about being in debt / not having enough money to pay the bills and all that.

    we live off about £1000 a month, my mum me and my brother that is. We have hardly any money and we get help off the state. My mum doesn't even earn 10,000 a year (which is what one of the dentists that my mum works in almost made in a month) but we don't really get looked down on for it. Whereas i suppose if that was mentioned to a fat cat in london, they'd immediatly think that we're scum/poor etc. It's quite amusing because you will rely on most of the jobs that the lower paid do. My mum is a dental nurse for example, they're not doing the serious work but the dentists (who are rolling in it) rely on them. And so do many people, my mums surgery also take private patients and my mum is the sedation nurse. Where people pay £200 or more to be knocked out. I don't think that the lower paid get the credit they deserve tbh. And i think an advantage i have over alot of my friends that come from quite wealthy families is that i appreciate the value of money. Alot of them get their phone bills paid for them and get a monthly allowance. Then whinge that they have no money.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    g_angel007 wrote: »
    Whereas some people (and I do pretty well for myself, Jomery) don't actually give a flying fuck about prestige/status! )

    Agreed. It is nice however to go out with someone who does actually have a decent-ish job and has some sort of ambition.

    Jomery - you really do need to get your head out of your ass and get a grip on reality. No-one honestly cares what job you do.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sofie wrote: »
    Jomery - you really do need to get your head out of your ass and get a grip on reality. No-one honestly cares what job you do.
    Once again, depends entirely on your circle. Someone just said "section editor of a national newspaper - wow big deal". For anyone who knows a thing or two about the media industry that is a massively big deal! Conversation between two girls on Friday:
    "I'm seeing a new guy."
    "Ooh, what does he do?"
    "He's at Merrill Lynch"
    "Ooooooh, you go girl!!"


    Even if semi in jest, it counts for something. Most people would be prouder to be going out with a banker than a bricklayer, a surgeon than a sewage worker, you get the picture.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jomery wrote: »
    Once again, depends entirely on your circle. Someone just said "section editor of a national newspaper - wow big deal". For anyone who knows a thing or two about the media industry that is a massively big deal! Conversation between two girls on Friday:
    "I'm seeing a new guy."
    "Ooh, what does he do?"
    "He's at Merrill Lynch"
    "Ooooooh, you go girl!!"


    Even if semi in jest, it counts for something. Most people would be prouder to be going out with a banker than a bricklayer, a surgeon than a sewage worker, you get the picture.

    so what if thats why people say!

    its superficial bull crap!

    who cares what 2 girls on a friday night are saying/thinking?

    yeah a good job is/can be impressive, but its not the be all and end all, you for some reason seem to think otherwise, and that my dear, is where you are failing with women, badly

    my fella is a streel fixer and i'd love him exactly the same as if he were a managing director of prada or a bin man, because i love HIM not his status

    status can change quickly and unexpectedly, your personality and character is yours forever
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yes I understand that.

    You really do come across as shallow and xpect far too much from women - it's no wonder you find it so hard to pull someone...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I am shallow.

    When clients, friends ask how lovelife is going, if I say I'm seeing someone, they'll say what do they do, how old are they etc. Will get further respect, or be laughed at, depending on answers. Also for work we have lots of socials, balls etc where you bring your other half. If I bring someone who's not considered that hot I'll get a lot of stick. Not great for the career.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    then you choose lousy company, why you would want to be associated with people that snobbish is beyond me

    and if you met someone you cared about who worked in adsa, what would you do? just out of curiousity
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You really need to get some sort of grip on reality and stop acting the way you are.
    yeah a good job is/can be impressive, but its not the be all and end all, you for some reason seem to think otherwise, and that my dear, is where you are failing with women, badly

    Wich is what I've been trying to tell him but he won't listen.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jomery wrote: »
    I am shallow.

    Theres your problem.

    Now stop going on. Its obvious why you haven't got a girlfriend. We've given you enough advice, its up to you whether or not you want to take it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You really just aren't getting the point, are you. I was one of the people that suggested getting an escort/paying for services in the last thread, but apparently that was defeating the point because you have to pay for it, not just get it. It seems that all you want is a trophy to look good for work, so you might as well pay for it as the appearance is seemingly all that counts.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jomery wrote: »
    Once again, depends entirely on your circle. Someone just said "section editor of a national newspaper - wow big deal". For anyone who knows a thing or two about the media industry that is a massively big deal!
    Yeah, I studied the media for 6 years, it means nothing. It means nothing because it has nothing to do with your personal life, it's a job. It's tell you nothing about what you're like as a person, and will fill about ten seconds of conversation, unless the person you're talking to happens to be in the same line of work.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah, I studied the media for 6 years, it means nothing. It means nothing because it has nothing to do with your personal life, it's a job. It's tell you nothing about what you're like as a person
    Surely it suggests how ambitious you are as a person? But oh yeah, ambition's a dirty word around here..
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jomery, Im sorry, loads of people have given you really good advice however your problem seems to be you are as plastic as the contents of my wallet.

    Shallow people are the biggest turn off. I you want a gold digger or trophy girl then hire an escort. But stop going on about not being able to meet a girl, when quite clearly you attitude says "Im looking for a trophy"

    You mentioned your friends who went to state schools, and saying how you would love to be with them, in the local pub. Then quit your job and move back home, beleieve me when your working in a local pub or doing a run of the mill office job, you will sharp loose the attitude. You seem to be trying to be someone your not.

    :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Littleali wrote: »
    then you choose lousy company, why you would want to be associated with people that snobbish is beyond me

    and if you met someone you cared about who worked in adsa, what would you do? just out of curiousity

    good question. I don't see why you're complaining about the superficial social circle you're in. If you don't like it, get out of it. Not being in that social group doesn't mean you're going to earn less money. Just find somewhere where people actually live in the real world. The only people who like people like you is yourselves. Maybe one day you'll realise that you're not better than others because you have money.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jomery wrote: »
    Surely it suggests how ambitious you are as a person? But oh yeah, ambition's a dirty word around here..

    can you answer my question please?

    by the way, there's nothing wrong with ambition, but plenty of people are ambitious without having a pole stuck up their arse
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jomery wrote: »
    Surely it suggests how ambitious you are as a person? But oh yeah, ambition's a dirty word around here..

    And being a nursery nurse suggests how you have a caring nature. It's still just a job. It doesn't really tell you anything about someone's personality. In order to find that out, you have to actually spend some time talking to them and getting to know them, and then make a judgement, rather than assuming that what they do for a living is the be all and end all of their personality. Do you actually like the attitude of these types of people, or are you just defending them for the sake of it? What do you have to gain by impressing these people? Job opportunities? Because if it's purely their admiration and acceptance, then I really wouldn't bother.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jomery wrote: »
    Surely it suggests how ambitious you are as a person? But oh yeah, ambition's a dirty word around here..

    no it isn't - get your head out of your arse. So because no one on here is shallow and only care about their bank balance, we have no ambition? But i suppose in your dictionary ambition = people who want nothing less than a 50k salary?
    Pleanty of people end up in top jobs just because they come from priviledged backgrounds and use their money to get where they want and don't actually have a clue what they're doing. And pleanty of people work hard to become something that you would probably consider an insignificant job - when you probably rely on them more than you realise. And tbh, it's probably much better than being in a world where you have to lick each others arses and impress shallow toffs with your bankbalance. You need a serious reality check.
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