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You sound desperate so like yanno, imo, you'd have to pay a woman to spend time with you.
You know, I can *almost* relate to this, with regards to the 'nice guy' thing.
For some reason, I have almost always done better with women when playing the 'not so nice' guy... Strange, and I'm certainly not being a prick, but it always works better. :rolleyes:
Shame really, as I am a nice bloke (most of the time).
You could easily change your situation.
Lol why then if it's so bad do you do it? Apart from money and status (which are crap reasons), i see no reason why someone would subject themselves to a pretentious lifestyle such as that if they didn't have to. Your parents must have really screwed up at some point to produce a child that believes all there is to life is having more money than everyone else and a stunner to show off. That doesn't make you a great person, not in the slightest. I realise that i being a common peasant an all that, that you'll completely ignore my views, but i'd say the majority of people in this world are not like you and your "friends" and we're perfectly happy getting on with our lives.
But back onto the subject, it's unfair to use a 16 year old girl as a stepping stone. Let alone slaggin her off about it, which is just bang out of order. You need to take a step back and look at yourself because being arrogant is not an attractive quality. I can't see why anyone would want to be your mate, let alone your girlfriend.
This was posted in the 20 Year Old Virgin thread nad I think the person who said it basically got flamed. However, I do see why you (and him) both said it.
What's quite ironic is friends from back home who went to bad state schools, they're getting back in touch now through MySpace saying how enviable they am of me supposedly 'living the dream', when I'd much rather be them if they're content living in a small town, having a 9-5 job and happy to do the same pub-on-weekdays, club-on-weekends life. Are the 'lower classes' overall more happy than the City fat cats? I mean they seem more content with a simple life, but many always seem to be depressed about being in debt / not having enough money to pay the bills and all that.
Lol no one cares to that extent about status in the real world.
Thank god the City is contained to one part of the country. That way theres less chance of me bumping into any of ya.
Like I said, I don't condone it. I thought my sarcasm was quite obvious
Whereas some people (and I do pretty well for myself, Jomery) don't actually give a flying fuck about prestige/status! A job is a job. I'm always happy if I get paid more (unless the job blows), but I tend not to actually care what people do for a living as long as they're a decent sort. 'Prestige/Status' doesn't make you any less of a cunt, if that's what somebody is!
Aye - it's circles within circles here. Only the people within your circle(s) actually give a monkeys about all that rubbish. As I mentioned, I worked within your little domain, and absolutely detested it. It was often quite satisfying to bring people down a peg or two whilst I was there.
If you want to get down with the 'normal' people, get yourself along to a normal (proper) clubbing night and just try being 'normal' for a bit. I suspect you might just like it
we live off about £1000 a month, my mum me and my brother that is. We have hardly any money and we get help off the state. My mum doesn't even earn 10,000 a year (which is what one of the dentists that my mum works in almost made in a month) but we don't really get looked down on for it. Whereas i suppose if that was mentioned to a fat cat in london, they'd immediatly think that we're scum/poor etc. It's quite amusing because you will rely on most of the jobs that the lower paid do. My mum is a dental nurse for example, they're not doing the serious work but the dentists (who are rolling in it) rely on them. And so do many people, my mums surgery also take private patients and my mum is the sedation nurse. Where people pay £200 or more to be knocked out. I don't think that the lower paid get the credit they deserve tbh. And i think an advantage i have over alot of my friends that come from quite wealthy families is that i appreciate the value of money. Alot of them get their phone bills paid for them and get a monthly allowance. Then whinge that they have no money.
Agreed. It is nice however to go out with someone who does actually have a decent-ish job and has some sort of ambition.
Jomery - you really do need to get your head out of your ass and get a grip on reality. No-one honestly cares what job you do.
"I'm seeing a new guy."
"Ooh, what does he do?"
"He's at Merrill Lynch"
"Ooooooh, you go girl!!"
Even if semi in jest, it counts for something. Most people would be prouder to be going out with a banker than a bricklayer, a surgeon than a sewage worker, you get the picture.
so what if thats why people say!
its superficial bull crap!
who cares what 2 girls on a friday night are saying/thinking?
yeah a good job is/can be impressive, but its not the be all and end all, you for some reason seem to think otherwise, and that my dear, is where you are failing with women, badly
my fella is a streel fixer and i'd love him exactly the same as if he were a managing director of prada or a bin man, because i love HIM not his status
status can change quickly and unexpectedly, your personality and character is yours forever
You really do come across as shallow and xpect far too much from women - it's no wonder you find it so hard to pull someone...
When clients, friends ask how lovelife is going, if I say I'm seeing someone, they'll say what do they do, how old are they etc. Will get further respect, or be laughed at, depending on answers. Also for work we have lots of socials, balls etc where you bring your other half. If I bring someone who's not considered that hot I'll get a lot of stick. Not great for the career.
and if you met someone you cared about who worked in adsa, what would you do? just out of curiousity
Wich is what I've been trying to tell him but he won't listen.
Theres your problem.
Now stop going on. Its obvious why you haven't got a girlfriend. We've given you enough advice, its up to you whether or not you want to take it.
Shallow people are the biggest turn off. I you want a gold digger or trophy girl then hire an escort. But stop going on about not being able to meet a girl, when quite clearly you attitude says "Im looking for a trophy"
You mentioned your friends who went to state schools, and saying how you would love to be with them, in the local pub. Then quit your job and move back home, beleieve me when your working in a local pub or doing a run of the mill office job, you will sharp loose the attitude. You seem to be trying to be someone your not.
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good question. I don't see why you're complaining about the superficial social circle you're in. If you don't like it, get out of it. Not being in that social group doesn't mean you're going to earn less money. Just find somewhere where people actually live in the real world. The only people who like people like you is yourselves. Maybe one day you'll realise that you're not better than others because you have money.
can you answer my question please?
by the way, there's nothing wrong with ambition, but plenty of people are ambitious without having a pole stuck up their arse
And being a nursery nurse suggests how you have a caring nature. It's still just a job. It doesn't really tell you anything about someone's personality. In order to find that out, you have to actually spend some time talking to them and getting to know them, and then make a judgement, rather than assuming that what they do for a living is the be all and end all of their personality. Do you actually like the attitude of these types of people, or are you just defending them for the sake of it? What do you have to gain by impressing these people? Job opportunities? Because if it's purely their admiration and acceptance, then I really wouldn't bother.
no it isn't - get your head out of your arse. So because no one on here is shallow and only care about their bank balance, we have no ambition? But i suppose in your dictionary ambition = people who want nothing less than a 50k salary?
Pleanty of people end up in top jobs just because they come from priviledged backgrounds and use their money to get where they want and don't actually have a clue what they're doing. And pleanty of people work hard to become something that you would probably consider an insignificant job - when you probably rely on them more than you realise. And tbh, it's probably much better than being in a world where you have to lick each others arses and impress shallow toffs with your bankbalance. You need a serious reality check.