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Completely unfanciable. I'm going to top myself.
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Go out tomorrow to town take a different route to what you normally take go to a record shop say hi to girl "could you give me some advice I wanna buy something for mum", or whatever, "can you give me a hand I was thinking or getting x what do you recommend or should I get y". She might think your crazy, so what or she might be nice and respond. You don’t have to fall madly in love with her or ask her out its just a way to get your talking with the opposite sex and not feeling awkward around them. When you walk done the street and you see a girl who catches your eye, give her a smile (not like help I’m lonely I want a shag smile) just a friendly smile with a nod of the head maybe. If she smiles back don’t panic just keep walking. Once you’ve passed her look behind you quickly to see if she does the same if she does good if not doesn’t matter.
Maybe, just maybe that’s the problem do something different for a change. On the weekend have a late lunch with a male friend cos spending time with these girls hasn’t changed your luck. Hit the shops not window shopping just a different environment my open up different opportunities. Or you could catch film, that’s normally the time girls go out with there girl friends. You never know, you mate see a girl who catches your eye.
Both of you relax please stop stressing we girls can smell this a mile off
I ain't stressing. To be honest I didn't come on here to impress you with how mellow and relaxed I can be. I regret that this is all you're seeing of me though. Like I go around in real life and only whine about how my life is shit and it's all "their" fault. This place is like the only outlet for this.
I know we've both been told many times now some stuff to the effect of "it will sort itself out" and "nice people will show up when you least expect it", but it's been years of lonely limbo now and nothing like that has happened. It could another five years, another ten, or it could could even be like this forever and that, is a scary thought.
....what in the name of
I don't see why this is going round and round in circles.
Just chill out man... I mean at the end of the day a lot of women can sense a desperateman a mile off and try to avoid them. So you got your high flying job, a nice flat yadda yadda... If you want to boost your self-esteem why not invest in a new haircut, or go to a style consulatant, or get some new clothes (not saying you need them, but it can boost confidence at least for women)... Take up a new hobby, go to some new clubs...
go away then, you're not helping
You somehow expect to find your dream girl somewhere randomly, "pull" her and presumably take her home and ..well.
But you're ignoring all the women who are already in your life. All these women who want to be your friend. You dismiss them as nothing because they have said they want to be your friend. To me, these should be the most important people in your life. If you actually devoted time to any of these girls, you might just find that a friendship becomes more than that - a real, proper, relationship. But that will never happen whilst you persist in seeing women as objects to be conquered for your own needs.
Maybe that should give you a few tips. As my mum says, there are two types of people in this world, the quick and the hungry! Maybe if you'd have had the confidence to kiss her it would have been you two 'embracing passionately'.
Thats a generalisation but most of all, dont go looking for it. Just do what you are doing and when you see something worth going for, go for it and see where it leads
I agree with the confidence part, sometimes "shy" people can get tiresome because they make you do all the work (some people I know pretend to be shy because they like being chased or fought for). Atittude is important too as well as sense of humour.
I don't believe in fate though, it's nice to think "ahh well it wasn't meant to be", but imo that's obviously a nice way of convincing yourself that you were meant to lose something through divine intervention. Maybe taking the attitude "that went shit, but I've learnt for next time" is healthier.
I've skim read a lot of this thread over the past few weeksand from what I can tell you have a perfect life apart from not having a bird, yet you're not happy. That really suggests to me that your life isn't as perfect as you make it out to be. Your 'dream' job isn't actually 'your' dream job maybe or your flat is great but you're lonely. Being single is just one part of your life that you're focusing on but it's probably not the only thing that is wrong with it.
As others have said, go out and enjoy yourself with friends of your own sex. Go and play footie rather than going to the gym; it's much more sociable. Go down the pub and shoot some pool instead of swanning around with your gal pals and giving off the whole 'gay' vibe.
I'm certain that there is nothing wrong with you except maybe an air of desperation. You need to enjoy your life and be happy with who you are before anyone else with see how great life with you could be.
The OP's trouble seems to be a lack of confidence and a fairly misogynistic attitude. Yeah, its depressing when you don't get laid, but if you consider a girl as a prize then you won't get laid. Girls do like being wined and dined but they don't like being bought.
Spot on... Women should be treated as ends, not means to an end.
http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php?t=107856
however Mowbray claims to be 24 and Jomery only 23 so perhaps they are different. Seem to have similar stories though. Similar background too.
"Public school" is generally all-same-sex and I guess both have grown up with little contact with the opposite gender and still find them in some way mysterious and hard to relate to in a normal way.
I also feel that Jomery in particular seems to lack certain skills in interacting with women and particularly in reading their signs properly. My guess is that he may even put off women who might be interested by attempting to kiss them too prematurely. His lack of confidence may also put them off.
Women should be treated as people.