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preganancy and drugs
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Hi just wanted to ask peoples opinions, my sister is 17 and she's 5 months pregnant, she's been smoking hash for about a year and i recently found out she hasnt giving it up even though she's pregnant.
I tried talking to her about it but she just says its too hard to give up, i really think she's been selfish and so does her b/f who's not talking to her at the moment because of it..
I do take pills and coke occasionally but have never really been into hash and although i take drugs there is no way i'd ever take anything if i was pregnant,
is she right saying its too hard to stop and should we just leave her alone to get on with it or have it out with her?
I tried talking to her about it but she just says its too hard to give up, i really think she's been selfish and so does her b/f who's not talking to her at the moment because of it..
I do take pills and coke occasionally but have never really been into hash and although i take drugs there is no way i'd ever take anything if i was pregnant,
is she right saying its too hard to stop and should we just leave her alone to get on with it or have it out with her?
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Im not sure if the risks of smoking cannabis are much higher for the baby than they would be for smoking tobacco on its own.
Has she tried to at least cut down?
http://www.alspac.bris.ac.uk/abstracts/p116.shtml
http://www.biopsychiatry.com/canpreg.htm
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/health/1746958.stm
Is your sister being candid with her midwife and/or doctor about her habit? I think if they aren't aware of it then you should encourage her to discuss it with them, or just try and discuss it calmly and rationally with her yourself. It's not guaranteed to work, but if she was better informed about what she could be doing to this child then she might rethink her ways a little. It's not supposed to be a scare tactic, but basically for practical reasons so that she can better understand the potential risks she is subjecting the baby to.
Is she happy about the pregnancy? I imagine that as she's so young that it may all be hitting her very hard, and if she maybe used smoking cannabis as an escape/relaxation method previously then she's still very dependent on it in that way. Maybe even more so. It's so easy to imagine that when a woman [and especially a young woman, who maybe isn't as grateful for her new situation as a more mature woman might be] gets pregnant she immediately feels naturally inclined to lead a healthy, virtuous life for her own sake and that of her child. That isn't always the cases, and addictions are hard to kick at the best of times - let alone when you may well be going through a time where you really feel you need that emotional crutch. Especially if she feels alienated by her boyfriend, which is going to drive her further into her shell. Being pregnant myself I can imagine if I hadn't been able to quit drinking, smoking and drugs then I would be feeling very upset about the fact and as if I was failing. But even those feelings aren't enough to stop people sometimes, and as I said they may even make her feel that escaping her problems through drugs are an even better idea than before.
At the end of the day it is her body, and the danger is that we get into a situation where we start telling women what to do because the baby inside them becomes a more important issue. Of course everyone must be really concerned about the child, but I think it might be worthwhile sitting down with your sister and talking to her really openly and frankly about how she feels about the pregnancy. There aren't many people who love a smoke SO much that they'd risk their child's health to do it, so I think it's likely to be a symptom of unhappiness... or at least uncertainty. Or basic dependency on it. She's young and seemingly a bit immature, and more than likely feeling pretty scared by the entire situation.
She hasnt told her Doctors and when she went for her scan the other day she wouldnt bring her b/f cos he told her he was gona tell doctor what she's doing.
straight after she had her scan she went to her friends house and got stoned, i understand that she's prob scared but she could be doing the baby real damage
i totally agree
Does your mum know she is doing this? Having a good telling off by her could make her realise the risks. If not maybe try talking to her friends and encouraging them to tell her not to. Any decent friend would do that, if mine was being so stupid i know i'd have something to say about it.
there are so many mothers to be who cont. to smoke tobacco during a pregnancy (or weed and tobacco) which can adversely affect the development of an unborn baby. it is stupid but end of the day its her choice. there are worst things she could be doing tbh. and if she is 5 months now, if any damage has been done, its been done already. and weed isn't that hard to quit.
Its really a mixed bag as to what is more harmful, cannabis has more tar for example, and is usually smoked without a proper filter. And of course its usually smoked with tobacco.
Tried this she just told me its her body and baby and to stay out of it:banghead:
Unfortunately in real terms it is, and there isnt a massive amount you can do. Just try to keep the pressure on without nagging.
tell ur sister to get her act together man and take some responsibilities, sorry to sound so harsh but thats the facts unfortunatlly
That's quite a harsh post...
First off, she never asked anyone's opinion on what they thought about her sister getting pregnant.
Secondly (and I'm not defending her sister at all here) THC can become addictive, that's still no excuse to smoke it when pregnant, but get your facts right...
right firstly i was getting at all young teenagers who have sex unprotected, bot just her sister man
secondly thc can become mentaly addictive, most would say more of a habbit and no way is it physically addictive, so i suggest u read up and get ur so called facts right mate
By that logic crack isnt addictive. Habitual use of any intoxicant can easily be addictive and that addiction can be hard to break, especially if the person is using it as an escape from emotional problems (which this girl may well be doing).
how the fuck is that like saying crack issint addictive? there completely different drugs, i know what ur saying and yes u can become addicted mentally to something, with it being drugs or say ur favourite band.
now crack and opiates are completely different as they are both addictive in a mental and physical way, the physical addiction is by far the worst as u get Withdrawal symtons that cause nausea, tearing, yawning, chills, and sweating. u dont get whitdrwaal from weed cause its not truely addictve.
There is more than one type of adiction mate!
The physical addiction stops when the body gets it out of its system, but with a psychological addiction it can take years and years, or often you might never be properly over it.
Totally...
I can sort of relate that to when I have tried giving up smoking, it doesnt take that long to get the nicotine out your system, but its the habbitual use thats a killer!
:yes:
Where were we told she had unprotected sex? Just so you know, one woman in a hundred using the pill exactly as prescribed will statistically fall pregnant over a year.
Wrong.
Crack and cocaine are not physically addictive, yet crack remains one of the most addictive substances there is.
An addiction is an addiction, whatever way you look at it.
Mentally addictive / Physically addictive = Still addictive.
With addictive being the key word here:banghead:
no mate ur wrong, i use to smoke crack and the withdrawal is a cunt with all the cold sweats, fevers, anxiety, if thats not physical then what is mate?
well come on mate u telling me a 17 year old meant to fall pregnant? may of but i doubt that very much.
the pill there for noy being 100% efective and i know the condom isint either but thats 1 in something like 100,000