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Accepting that you have a problem is the first major step in the road to recovery. Well done for that.
As for your relationship, only you can decide if it is worth it or not. Think about the overall picture and think about how he will be when you need help the most - when you are on the road to recovery.
You are doing fab, sweetie. Go make that appointment and take it from there.
after seeing how worried my mother got when i did have cuts on my arms i stopped it, i have small scars on my fingers from slicing the top of them.
im feeling in the same mood as i did when i was 15, for the first time since, my friends are moving off and im staying in school, i feel lonely and some stuff aint working out as well as i would like.
i originally did it when iw as at school and was on the verge of getting kicked out, i never seeked any medical attention at all but to me i dont want to be at counsuling, i just want to be left alone.
on that note i do have a lot to look forward this year and thats what im concentrating on. for example im going on holidays with my life long friends for a week, we have never been out of the country together so that should be fun. i was meant to go to america as well with my cousin but i may have to do resits in the month of august wich may put that on hold for another year
Secondly, write everything down. Think long and hard about what all you want to tell the doctor and write it down. Tell them that you are feeling really low, that you cut yourself, that you have even had suicidal thoughts and don't want to be here. They will take you seriously and if you write everything down then if you get side tracked then it is all there for you.
oh yes, very normal.
Mine does it, i hate it. We used top have horrible,awkward silences for about a year.
I thought i had nothing to say and didnt want to talk, but at the end of the day you're not helping yourself. Theyre not telepathic.
I made the decision to do something or stop wasting her time so i thought the only i could communicate was keeping a diary for her to read.
Its working better.
You are more than welcome
It is such a hard thing to do, to admit that you have a problem and need help. Let us know how you get on xx
Yeah, its normal practice for them to do so I found.
If you lie quietly for too long they'll ask why, but they will wait for you. It's all about you.
Sometimes the stuff they are linking to isn't forgotten. As my therapist said, I obviously can remember things, because I'm behaving as I do, and I picked it up from somewhere.
If you don't want to talk then don't. But expect to be asked why you don't.
Normally its just about finding the right way into it. Sometimes I went with loads to say, sometimes things had to be coaxed from me. Don't fall into the trap of only feeling you need to talk about sad things. Talking about happy things, talking about nothing things, is all part of the therapy experience.
Oh yes, and don't get completely plastered tomorrow.
What use is that statement?
Does your counsellor have a couch?
My therapist had a couch, and it was so much better as I didn't have to look at her. I just laid back with my eyes closed and talked for an hour.
If she has one, you should try using it.
Well, exactly.
Pirate, do you have anyone you can talk to seriously about your drinking habits. You don't need anyone else to tell you you're damaging your mind and you're damaging your body, but people always need other people to help them.
Don't be ashamed to say you've got trouble. Tell someone what you've told us. Please, mate, its not that scary. I know it seems it, but its not. Not really.
You're sound enough, don't drink it away. Do something about it.
the likely hood that I will is very high.
SG, its just a set-back, everyone has them from time to time. I felt really bad when I slipped up with the s/h, but I have managed to get back on track again. Just try on focus on the positive and if they get worse go back and see your doctor.
Pirate, you're a dude. People here care about you and think you rock, you don't need to get drunk to try and wipe yourself away, but Kermit's right it would do you some good to talk to someone about what you're doing.
Parents dont tend to take it to well, I've never told them that I SH but I think they might have guessed, the only person who does know, isn't happy that I do it, and was really upset when I slipped up a couple of weeks ago.
Oh I had that last time, I.e I'll tell your parents and I'll send you off to a shrink. He does that I'll never speak to him again.
I have been self-harming for just under seven years and have never told my parents.
Things have been getting worse and worse and I have tried six different ADs without any luck and counselling and pyschotherapy. I have been seeing a consultant pychiatrist at the hospital in outpatients and she has asked for a review meeting and she has asked me to bring a parent (i.e. my next of kin). So I have told my father (last week) that I have felt depressed, have disturbed sleeping and have tried some medications without success but I did not mention the self-harm (tbh he didn't have a clue about any of it before I told him last week). The meeting is next week so he's going to find out that too I guess. When my mother finds out she will be really upset (but she's abroad at the moment but she'll find out sooner or later).
Not much point to this post, just a rant really...