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Potential TW :warning: Adoption and BP

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  • AislingDMAislingDM Moderator Posts: 1,666 Extreme Poster
    edited September 18
    No worries at all ! Have you already started a thread about it? @Past User

    Ah, that makes a lot of sense (I appreciate the spoiler). Half the time doing that is just a way to help us to cope with the kind of unimaginable pain you are in, or when you are deeply confused or scared like you can be during hallucinations :(

    Stopping is very wonderful, equally I know it can be hard when you need another coping mechanism to replace it. What do you tend to do instead? xx
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  • AislingDMAislingDM Moderator Posts: 1,666 Extreme Poster
    edited September 18
    That's alright, sometimes it's immensely tough to figure out how to even talk about our own pain without inadvertently triggering someone else in the process, and the fact that you are always so respectful of others' is deeply impressive @Past User <3

    Equally, you deserve space to talk about the honest truth of how you cope.

    I'm here to talk more about this, if you feel able xxx
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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    edited September 18
    We believe in you @Past User and can see how much purpose you have. It might just be a case of you also finding your purpose. We are all here for you if you want to talk to us more about this or anything else <3
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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    edited September 18
    Your purpose is anything you enjoy, your strengths, your personality and all your interests @Past User. We can see your full potential <3
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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    edited September 18
    Lies, we see all the above in you @Past User. You are lovely and supportive, for one, you always brighten up The Mix's community. That is just one example, there are many more :)
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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    edited September 18
    You are lovely @Past User and I, on behalf of The Mix, will argue this all day! <3
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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    edited September 18
    You are none of what you have listed @Past User. You are everything positive, and none of those negative things.

    Is there something in particular that is causing you to feel like you annoy people, are stupid, an idiot, worthless etc. at the moment? <3
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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    edited September 18
    I will let you into a secret @Past User, having the courage to ask what things mean is how we all learn and become 'smart'. No one has the right to do or say such things and you really deserve to be treated better. We do not believe you are any of the things you have mentioned, even if you feel you do <3
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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    edited September 18
    I bet that's not true @Past User. What does "becoming dumber" look like for you? <3
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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    edited September 18
    I always say, "if they can't learn the way we teach, why don't we teach the way they learn?". Have you tried other methods of learning @Past User or reached out to your teacher(s) to explain it in a different way? :)
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  • AislingDMAislingDM Moderator Posts: 1,666 Extreme Poster
    edited September 18
    Do you know what I really appreciate about you @Past User ? Your ability to clearly explain yourself and how you feel about your personality in such an insightful way. To be clear, I could not agree less with you, I am entirely with Laura here, you are one of the most wonderful people I have ever had the pleasure of 'meeting'.

    Your kindness on here never goes unseen, not just to us as moderators, but to every single member that joins up to talk about their pain. You give people a vehicle to discuss their sadness in a very encouraging way, and that's certainly not something that everyone can do.

    Regardless, I know just hearing it from us cannot be 'enough' to change your mind, especially when you've gotten so used to feeling so negatively about yourself, it's definitely a very tough pattern to break, right? Plus when you have important people in your life (like teachers) reinforcing that negative pattern, it's only natural to begin to believe it even more.

    I think you make a very true point, that these teachers are simply unkind and are not treating you with the support and guidance you deserve as a young person :(

    Sometimes I like to look at the traits I don't like about myself and imagine them on my favourite TV characters or best friends and think about how differently I would perceive them if those traits didn't belong to me. For example, sometimes I find my overenthusiasm to talk about certain topics very annoying, but when I see my sister so happily talking about her passions I am just so thrilled to see her joy.

    Again I know this ^ idea is much easier said than done, but it can definitely be a starting point?

    <3<3<3
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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    edited September 18
    That sounds really difficult @Past User. Though, I would have to disagree with your teachers - you can learn anything you want to at your own pace.

    You deserve so much more patience and understanding too. You have been the brave one, in saying you are struggling, and they are supposed to be there to support you through this.

    You are doing so well in trying. We hear it is a work in progress, and the voices of others probably don't help, but we have faith in you. We are here to reassure you and listen to you <3
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  • AislingDMAislingDM Moderator Posts: 1,666 Extreme Poster
    edited September 18
    No, 1000% I do get what you're saying! If life could be as simple as 'just feel better and love yourself' then I'm sure the rate of mental health needs would absolutely plummet. Yet, here we are stuck in this confusing place of hearing kind words but never being able to fully accept them. And, do not worry at all, I know you are trying your absolute hardest to trust in us that these words are true, yet your brain just will not allow it to be the case which is a certain type of frustrating that really can't be explained :(

    I wish so much more peace and happiness for you than you are experiencing @Past User , you deserve a much softer world than the one you've been given, and so it's really no wonder you struggle to deeply internalise kind words no matter how many times they are said!

    I will certainly continue to give you the reassurance, because the bottom line is, it's true! You bring such a specific warm energy to The Mix, especially on Support Threads where you ensure that others feel heard and supported, no matter how much pain you are experiencing. It's a very individual kind of gift and in years to come you will see this as the truth too, I just know it. But until then, I'll keep reminding you, as you deserve <3

    Haha, it's like when we spoke on the Sunday thread , finding people with whom you feel comfortable being vulnerable around is extremely important and the strength you are able to find in order to be honest with me is something I value greatly. I hope you know how happy I always am to see you reply back because you always make sure to keep us in the loop, it's beyond wonderful and we are so lucky to have you!! xxx
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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
    edited September 18
    Sending you hugs @Past User. Do you want to talk about it? We won't let you give up <3
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  • Laura_tigger82Laura_tigger82 Moderator Posts: 5,307 Part of The Furniture
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    You don't have to pretend with us @Past User. In fact, please don't pretend with us. We are here with you <3
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  • AislingDMAislingDM Moderator Posts: 1,666 Extreme Poster
    edited September 18
    It just leaves you so debilitated @Past User , right? like you are pushing yourself harder than ever before just to get through each day but nothing is helping and all you can think is 'something's gotta give', like this can't be the permanent state that I am left in for my life!

    How have the last few days been? xx
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