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Since there’s NO SC, How’s everyone really doing?

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    Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 2,156 Boards Champion
    Hi.
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    Mel_Mel_ Posts: 574 Incredible Poster
    i have so many things coming up its probably the worst time for me to have no support to do it all ah
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    Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 2,156 Boards Champion
    edited July 2022
    Sorry to hear that @Mel_ ♥︎ sending hugs
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    Mel_Mel_ Posts: 574 Incredible Poster
    thank, havent even taking my meds for over 2 weeks and I cant be bothered with how much I've being failed with everything
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    Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 2,156 Boards Champion
    @Mel_ could not taking your meds maybe impact how you are feeling? Is there anyway you think you may be able to kinda resolve it? Is there anyone around you you could talk to? You deserve support so its good that you are able to talk here :) i also hear that you feel like you are being failed by everything, would you like to talk about that?
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    Mel_Mel_ Posts: 574 Incredible Poster
    nah, meds have never done anything for me, i literally attempted while taking them surely that's a sign they weren't doing anything.... mental health team are so bad they have failed me and are failing again.
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    Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 2,156 Boards Champion
    Sorry to hear that @Mel_
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    Amy22Amy22 Posts: 3,958 Community Veteran
    I'm sorry to hear that @Mel_ sending hugs. I'm always here if you want to talk <3
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    Millie2787Millie2787 Community Champion Posts: 5,146 Part of The Furniture
    @Ed_ it appears everyone is in this thread :)

    Sending hugs to everyone who needs it
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
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    Ed_Ed_ Moderator Posts: 1,551 Extreme Poster
    Ha, yes @Millie2787 I was debating whether to merge it all together which I think you are right, best to stick to this one. Now to test my mod skill knowledge :/
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    Ed_Ed_ Moderator Posts: 1,551 Extreme Poster
    Hey everyone, just to say I am here to mod some support chats on the boards for the next hour or so. As always, please do check out the guidelines before posting and remember that it may be a bit slower than you'd expect in chat.

    If you need a break or a bit of light hearted relief, we will be using the general chat thread too.

    So, does anyone have any ideas for an opening round?
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    Mel_Mel_ Posts: 574 Incredible Poster
    i have 4 days and i may know/have a date when I know what the outcome for the case is, I'm literally so stressed about it all
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    Millie2787Millie2787 Community Champion Posts: 5,146 Part of The Furniture
    Ahhh testing that good old memory @Ed_ 🤣 could always close the other one if you can’t remember hahaha 💜

    Super proud of the womens football team winning the euros for the first time in history for England ! We seem to be doing okay with the commonwealth too
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
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    Millie2787Millie2787 Community Champion Posts: 5,146 Part of The Furniture
    Mel_ wrote: »
    i have 4 days and i may know/have a date when I know what the outcome for the case is, I'm literally so stressed about it all

    Hey :) That seems close , have you got some people around you who you can chat to about it ? We’re always here too 💜
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
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    Mel_Mel_ Posts: 574 Incredible Poster
    Millie2787 wrote: »
    Mel_ wrote: »
    i have 4 days and i may know/have a date when I know what the outcome for the case is, I'm literally so stressed about it all

    Hey :) That seems close , have you got some people around you who you can chat to about it ? We’re always here too 💜

    idk, not really. i miss my old care coordinator, I'm constantly working next week including overtime to try not think about it as much leading up to Thursday. obv it won't be that easy though, just want it over with though
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    Ed_Ed_ Moderator Posts: 1,551 Extreme Poster
    Sending hugs @mel_ can't imagine what that must be like having this big wait for something that you can't know what the outcome will be. Are there any things that you find help you to take your mind off it at all? Perhaps we can come up with a plan for the next few days to help have some things that you can control and distract yourself?
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    Millie2787Millie2787 Community Champion Posts: 5,146 Part of The Furniture
    edited July 2022
    idk, not really. i miss my old care coordinator, I'm constantly working next week including overtime to try not think about it as much leading up to Thursday. obv it won't be that easy though, just want it over with though

    Do you find working helps to keep you atleast a little bit distracted?
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
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    Mel_Mel_ Posts: 574 Incredible Poster
    @Ed_ not really, working is what I'm doing to try to be distracted, but I know ill be overworked and then still spiral so I know I won't win either way and if it goes the direction I pray it doesn't then I'm not sure what ill be like.

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    Millie2787Millie2787 Community Champion Posts: 5,146 Part of The Furniture
    Just want you to know mel that I’m so proud of you each day . I know how heavy a court case can weigh on an individual and I’m always here to support you as and when you need it 💜
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
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    Mel_Mel_ Posts: 574 Incredible Poster
    Millie2787 wrote: »
    Just want you to know mel that I’m so proud of you each day . I know how heavy a court case can weigh on an individual and I’m always here to support you as and when you need it 💜

    thanks, its coming up to 8 months since I've reported it and even this much has been difficult, I guess this shows why the result is difficult...even though even if it does go the court route it doesn't mean he'll go to prison...so I guess this will be a long battle either way
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    Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 2,156 Boards Champion
    Sorry im a bit quiet on this thread tonight, struggling alot but dont wanna accept it
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    Millie2787Millie2787 Community Champion Posts: 5,146 Part of The Furniture
    And I know how difficult those last 8 months have been for you 💜 you should be proud of you too … small steps lead to much bigger ones in the future
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
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    Millie2787Millie2787 Community Champion Posts: 5,146 Part of The Furniture
    Chloe234 wrote: »
    Sorry im a bit quiet on this thread tonight, struggling alot but dont wanna accept it

    We’re here for you if you decide you want to chat 💜
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
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    Mel_Mel_ Posts: 574 Incredible Poster
    Millie2787 wrote: »
    And I know how difficult those last 8 months have been for you 💜 you should be proud of you too … small steps lead to much bigger ones in the future

    just feels like my recovery with it all is being delayed, I don't feel like I can truly recover until its over, but I also feel like if the case gets dropped in the next week or so and nothing happens it was all for nothing, and he's got away with it. it just too much honestly for me to handle honestly
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    Ed_Ed_ Moderator Posts: 1,551 Extreme Poster
    Mel_ wrote: »
    @Ed_ not really, working is what I'm doing to try to be distracted, but I know ill be overworked and then still spiral so I know I won't win either way and if it goes the direction I pray it doesn't then I'm not sure what ill be like.

    I definitely hear you on this, very difficult when waiting for something that both outcomes come with their own negative emotions. I wonder if it is worth thinking a bit about work and what about it in particular helps you to feel distracted? Possible we could come up with a few things that replicate that without the over-working spiral?
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    Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 2,156 Boards Champion
    Thanks @Millie2787 ❤️ its hard because i really do but i struggle to allow myself and i use support circle each tuesday which i use as my "support day" but it wasnt on last week as there wasnt enough people and i was the only one who signed up and the groups have been shut so much the past couple days im scared its going to be shut again and ill have to go through another week battling alone when im really struggling in general but my nans funeral on friday has made it worse
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    Ed_Ed_ Moderator Posts: 1,551 Extreme Poster
    Chloe234 wrote: »
    Sorry im a bit quiet on this thread tonight, struggling alot but dont wanna accept it

    No need to apologise for this Chloe, it can be definitely hard to accept that we are struggling, which is often the time that we need the support the most, but we can't quite let ourselves ask for it, so you are doing well by being on the boards tonight. We will be here to listen and support you if you feel ready to explore how you are feeling, or alternatively we have the general chit chat thread for some distraction. Either way, sending hugs <3
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    Millie2787Millie2787 Community Champion Posts: 5,146 Part of The Furniture
    Mel_ wrote: »
    Millie2787 wrote: »
    And I know how difficult those last 8 months have been for you 💜 you should be proud of you too … small steps lead to much bigger ones in the future

    just feels like my recovery with it all is being delayed, I don't feel like I can truly recover until its over, but I also feel like if the case gets dropped in the next week or so and nothing happens it was all for nothing, and he's got away with it. it just too much honestly for me to handle honestly

    I know the feeling . Hopefully with how long they’ve taken with collecting evidence etc that they won’t drop the case 💜
    Sometimes all you need is one person to believe in you , for you to begin to believe in yourself.
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    Mel_Mel_ Posts: 574 Incredible Poster
    Ed_ wrote: »
    Mel_ wrote: »
    @Ed_ not really, working is what I'm doing to try to be distracted, but I know ill be overworked and then still spiral so I know I won't win either way and if it goes the direction I pray it doesn't then I'm not sure what ill be like.

    I definitely hear you on this, very difficult when waiting for something that both outcomes come with their own negative emotions. I wonder if it is worth thinking a bit about work and what about it in particular helps you to feel distracted? Possible we could come up with a few things that replicate that without the over-working spiral?

    just keeping busy tbh, and I struggle with that when I'm at home honestly, I don't cope with being at home by myself for long periods of time, I get worse the second I'm left with my own thoughts. i don't really know how to balance everything honestly
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    Chloe234Chloe234 Community Champion Posts: 2,156 Boards Champion
    Thank you @Ed_ :)
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