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Self-harm and other mental health.
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Hey guys, I'm new to the mix, my name is Madison (but I prefer to be called Maddie, as I hate my name...) And I'm 13, feel free to introduce yourself too. I struggle with self-harm, and suicidal thoughts, and its not something that can go in the click of a finger. Sadly. Despite my parents not knowing any of this, doesn't help, I don't want to talk them because I know they will have a bad reaction and not believe me, as when my older sister told them she is depressed, they did nothing much, and acted like they didn't care... So I thought maybe coming here, I can get the support instead of from my parents... Not that they try to understand.
But I was hoping someone could give some advice on any of this?
Thanks.
- Maddie, 13
But I was hoping someone could give some advice on any of this?
Thanks.
- Maddie, 13
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Welcome to The Mix! I hope that you enjoy it here. I just wanted to let you know that you are never alone with what you are going through.
I'm Kasa but you can call me Kayla. I am also 13 years old. I wish that I could give you advice on how to deal with the problems that you are facing but I just don't know what to say. One thing I can say to you though is stay strong and keep fighting. It is a difficult battle but with courage and determination, you will win. You are so amazing and appreciated by everyone even if they don't show it.
If you or your sister need any support when the boards are quiet, there is the 1-2-1 phone helpline, Webchat, telephone counselling, webchat counselling, email service and crisis messenger.
There is always support out there.
"The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
"I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous
And it's fine if you don't know what to say 😉😊.
Thanks for your message, and don't worry, I am trying to fight back! 😅
You've taken a really positive step reaching out for support here. I'm really glad you found The Mix. Everyone here is so nice and we're all here to support you through this
See you around the boards
"The way that I have found the light in my life is through the expressive arts because I know that I will be accepted for the way I am." ~ Me
"I'm going to get strong again and see you soon. " ~ Anonymous
I’m so sorry to hear that you are struggling with suicidal thoughts and self-harm. It certainly isn’t something that fixes with just a click of a finger, it’d be so much easier if that was possible.
I understand that feeling of your parents not being able to understand or care. It makes it so much more difficult if no one is there fighting that battle with you. But you’re stronger than you know and, as @Kasa2103 said, keep fighting!
I’m not sure any advice I can give you will help at all but just take it day by day, try not to stress about what the rest of the week will bring. Focus on what’s happening in that moment and when you’re having better days, try not to worry about when those thoughts of self-harm and suicide will return.
When you start to want to self-harm, distract yourself with something else. Instead of picking up something damaging, pick up a pencil or pen. Draw a picture or write what you’re feeling down, it really helps distract your mind and get your emotions out.
Have you considered talking to a counsellor? You don’t need permission from your parents. Maybe it would help, especially if you’ve been bottling up your feelings.
Apologies if that was no help. Wishing you all the best for the future
See ya around
See ya around
And it's also good to see lots of supportive people, thanks a lot!
Thanks for the welcoming, it means a lot! And I wish it would be that easy to fix! 😁
And I'm trying, and if I wasnt, I wouldn't be here, but there's one particular person who really helped, and that was my bestie, I literally wouldn't be here if I never met her!
And that's all good advice! Especially the distraction for the self-harm, I'll try to distract myself, and I do love art
A be when you ask to talk to a counsellor, so you mean online or in real life, because it it's in real life, I'd need to tell my parents, so I can actually get out the house, and I'm not really good at getting to places on foot, I'll get lost... And I'll need permission to leave my house, because I'm 13, and my parents won't let me out alone... :C
Thanks for all the advice and support, it really did help! Especially knowing that you took some of your time to respond
Take care 💙
Take care 💙
Take care ❤
Have a wonderful day.
Sorry for the late reply.
If you can’t talk to a counsellor in person, talking to one online is an option. It can be easier to talk not being face-to-face anyway.
I’m glad that your friend helped you, it sounds like she’s really supportive.
I hope that distracting yourself with something helps the next time you feel like self-harming.
Wishing you all the best!
I'm glad that I'm not the only Cool Newbie! ❤
I hope you are okay, you must have come here for something you are struggling with... You can talk to me if you wish...? I'm not forcing or pressuring you though, it's your decision, take care though! '-.^
Take care!
- Maddie