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Time to vote on some new nominations... :thumb:

First nomination from Jo7

Scary Monster wrote: »

The key thing about dealing with life, is you need to be able to do it pretty much on your terms, and you need to be doing it for you. Having a supportive partner is great, but it's not a long term sustainable solution to being the only thing to keep life on the straight and narrow.

Second nomination from that Indrid.

StrubbleS wrote: »

Wasn't for me. I am a drug lightweight and taking speed wasn't making the dating experience any better for me. I barfed in her lap and punched someone, before being escorted from the premises.

Third nomination from baa ram ewe and hmmm7

RubberSkin wrote: »

That's a bit unfair. The people who got the vibrators are bound to come first.

Fourth nomination from **Angel**

**Summer-Raindrops** wrote: »

the thought is always scarier than the reality, and the reality is that you need help, lots of it and in a supportive environment that is geared towards your needs. Being at home is not helping you. Being at school is not helping you. If you really want to get better maybe it is worth trying something different that can help you. The scarier thing to me if i was you would be carrying on the way you are and living your life as it is, always hurting, always in pain, always scared.

I know it is scary, i felt exactly the same as you when it was brought up for me at your age but i honestly wish now that i had taken the chance to get better then, rather than lie to people and pretend i was ok when i wasn't and as a result waste my teens and twenties and my education which is what happened. The residential units are usually the last step for really intensive therapy and if you start being honest with people and truthful then maybe it needn't be the step that you need but people can only help you when you start helping yourself by being truthful.

Try not to scare yourself with reading stories and listening to what other people say as you will only hear the bad side of things. Try and focus on the positives of what it can do for you rather than the negatives. There are lots of people it has helped too and they have had positives changes as a result of it but you don't hear about that so much.

i fully sympathise with how scary all this is for you but people cannot help you if you won't let them. xx

*hug*

Fifth nomination from Frankipanda

Skive wrote: »

The longest I've been unemployed since leaving education is 2 months, and that's not because I've been in the same job, I've had several. I just hate not working.

After leaving college I went through several jobs where I didn't use any of the qualifications I'd gained, some of them were shit jobs too (factory, Tesco, Mcdoanlds) but it kept me working.
I've also suffered a redundancy from one job I liked, and had to go back to shelf stacking whilst looking for another job I truly wanted

It's so important to work and keep busy, I think being unemployed makes you feel more shit than doing a job you think is beneath you. At least you're keeping busy. Being unemployed is soul destroying, it takes all your energy and self worth and you can become easily depressed leaving it even harder to find a job.

Better to be in a shit job whilst looking for a good job.

Sixth nomination from **Summer-Raindrops**

StrubbleS wrote: »

I remember walking my dog a few summers ago on the riverside of the Donau. There were two girls topless sunbathing and they had a little dog with them too. My dog went up to that little dog to play and my reluctant, half-assed attempts to pull him away to keep walking were vehemently resisted. So I had to hang around two gorgeous topless ladies who sat up to make conversation with me, while our dogs played.

Best wingman ever.

Seventh nomination from Steven Robert Gill

Miss_Riot wrote: »

Its totally unreasonable to withdraw benefits from disabled people who won't take up jobs that would put their health at risk. I know people who have chronic anxiety issues who have been pushed into retail jobs, been sacked within the matter of weeks, and ended up back in the same position. Yes, people should be expected to look for work, but the goverment needs to put more money in making people more employable, and also have specialist advisers who can find suitable jobs that work with someone's disability rather than against it. The ESA medical is way too harsh! I've been to one myself with my mother, and she was in tears pretty much through out it. It was horrible to watch as a bystander, let alone go through it myself.

The goverment have got their priorities totally wrong about pushing people into work at any cost. Surely it would be cheaper to pay for people to be better prepared for the workplace, but also to help people find work that they can do and will enjoy/feel rewarded or whatever you call it.

Eighth nomination from **Angel**

RubberSkin wrote: »

New from Cillit Bang, Dictator Bang


BANG and the dictator is gone.

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