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why do 12 year old girls wear thongs?
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Thas exactly what im sayin... (well, not exactly - but yeh)
If people are educated at a younger age then they grow up knowing blah blah blah. Theyve gotta learn sometimes, why not do it when your parents can punish you. Getting drunk to the extent of passing out is just stupid [for people that age]
True that girls should be spending more time worrying about work and respect than looks... but in this modern society do u think thats possible? A society where models are splashed over magazines, newspapers, billboards and novelty packs of playing cards. Then they got the puberty ting at their age and theym all randy.
Girls have to grow up sometime and as the years go past it seems that theyre growing up [not so much mentally] quicker.
I think pressure deserves a mention too... Its easy for us to say oh this is wrong oh blah oh blah, but if they feel pressured then it helps them until theyre old enough to realise, when they are old enough they can make a choice then.
last thing scenario...
12 year old Girls mom and 17 year old sister wearing thongs, theyre hangin on the washin line... silk (not lace) - and u just know whats gona happen. " Mommy! I was a tong!"... Down to the nearest Ann Summers store. Boof! 2 for 1 thong offer.
I think people should maybe think twice about dressing their children in a sexually alluring way, but i think shops should have a responsibility not to sell sexy stuff for children, or is this capitilism at its worst? It doesnt matter what you sell as long as money can be made from it.
Whether you or I find children in thongs and padded bras sexy or not is beside the point - dressing them like that IS sexualising them too young, while theyre too young to take responsibility for their choices parents have a duty to make the right choices for them.
But its only sexualising them if you find them sexy!!! thas what im tryin to say
Noone needs to be blamed because there is nothing to blame for. Its clothing.
Just an observation (dont get bashin me for this)
But if you read all the threads the majority of girls show disgust and the majority of guys show 'I see what you mean but....'
It seems that guys arent half as bothered as girls and girls claim to be worried that its giving the wrong impression to guys. It seems like girls have a sort of pride thing going where 'I wore thongs when I was 14 so you cant wear them before then'... Just makin an observation, dont bash me!
So you are saying it's okay to get a child started on the booze as early as possible? That doesn't let them learn from their mistakes it just gets them hooked at an earlier age, they'll be needing 5 pints a day by the time they're 17 :rolleyes: I first drank alcohol when I was 14. I had a mother of a hangover the next day. That day I was swearing I would never touch alky again. But by the time the next opportunity came along I was sipping away at my cider.
my parents gave me alcohol (in very small amounts) from the time i was about 5.
i'd have watered down wine with dinner on sundays, and very watered down advocat on special occasions.
it taught me that alcohol isn't some mystery thing that only adults have, it was just a drink, and because i was so used to it by the time i got to an age where my other friends were getting plastered, i never felt the need to.
it's worth noting that i have never been drunk, and after about 14 i stopped drink altogether. my brother does drink, but he knows his limits better than most of his friends, and he is never ill with it.
for example if i was putting sexual images of children on the internet, i would be prosecuted (quite rightfully) and put on the sex offenders register even if it could be proved i had no interest in the content myself, through putting children in a position where they are of sexual interest to others.
I dont really see the difference.
I can see why children WANT to wear sexy clothes, but its irresponsible for the parents to let them. I think its different for teenagers, but you can buy them for 8 year olds!!!
I still cant understand why people feel how they do about them. Is it because they dont cover up as much? They cover up what they need to dont they? And who sees them under the 12 year olds trousers etc? Aint it true that women like to feel sexy? and aint it true that when your 12 your a young women going thru the changes in personality and thinking?
I think were all takin this a tiny bit too serious. But as i said, if people arent willing to change their opinions (which is fine) then the discussion will not end.
damn i rattle on and on
Thas good
I had the luck to be brought up in a bar. I cant remember never being around drink... maybe I was breastfed it :eek:
My mom was always determined to teach me that alcohol wasnt such a big thing and shes succeeded. I have been drunk and learn that its not really worth it... until the next time
I think [thongs concerned] we draw the line at 12. I think that the year between 11 and 12 is one of the most significant in that they go up to a new school, they hit puberty, their personality really starts to develop. I think that the secondish year of secondary school there is no problem, which sounds very precise but thats what I think.
It is not for us to judge the children because they are someones children. Their responsibility. We are an irrelevant factor if you like, and irrelevant factors have trouble debating when we are not effected by a 12-13 year old girl wearing thongs.
I dont see what makes its so that adults can wear them and young adults cant. They have to learn one way or another... and theres nothing you, or me, or anyone can do bout it.
Simple, sex (in v broad terms) is for responsible adults, not prepubescent children.
One thing always leads to another. You can't draw the line for wearing thongs at 12 years old. It'll get younger and younger. You'll get the 12 year old's ten year old sister demanding she gets to try on a thong etc.
sex hasnt got alot to do with thongs though has it? Its easy for you to say that sex isnt for prepubescent children, but only until you think about it abit more...
Sex is for people who are capable (physically) of having a child and reproducing... meaning that girls have started their periods basically. They dont NEED breasts to reproduce. All they need is an egg supply. When we hit a certain age, prolly about 19th century people started caring about the emotional side to things. Theres no way a 12 year old can cope with a child nowadays, not with school and their constant need to go clubbin and have fun... We are here to reproduce, thats what the body does... you think when god made the universe he decided "hmm, well... theyll have to be a good 16 - 17 years old before they can have a kid"...
Remember that people were lucky to live that long centurys and centurys ago. So be careful how you use the word for
I know that'd happen but that bit doesnt concern me because im not against people wearing what they want.
WTF? Holding onto their childhood properly? Since when did wearing thongs turn you into an adult?
Why? 'Cause you think it means they can't hold onto their childhood properly? They still do the same stuff every other 12 year old girl does. They don't put on a thong and are suddenly overcome with an irrist urge to drink, smoke, have sex and go out clubbing.
Yeah well, they do, and they're still going to continue worrying about it whether you let them wear thongs or not. It's the times we live in, and there's nothing you can do about it, short of banning celebrities, pop stars, magazines, models, and whatever else they're exposed to on a daily basis.
Who said the two are mutually exclusive? :eek2:
WTF? Explain to me how thongs are in any way linked to drinking.
I wasn't talking about the act exclusively, I was talking more about sexuality. About looking sexually attractive.
You dont wear them on your head. You cant see em
They don't, but thongs are sexual. They reveal too much for little girls.
No that's not what I meant. Thongs are just too sexual and adult for little girls.
To me, that doesn't make it alright to think "oh fuck it, since they're under all this pressure I'll let my little girl wear a bit of string for knickers"
All the schools I went to taught that it's alright to bully others because it'll be the victims that get punished, and it's okay to make yourself look like a slapper as long as you don't normally look like a normal little girl and then suddenly decide you want to wear a bit of brown eyeshadow. But that's another story. You learn respect from your parents.
Reveal too much to who?! Revealing part of your body does not make somethin sexual. When someone takes their top off in the street its not sexual, when someone wears no underwear under their trousers, its not sexual.
we are talking about underwear. U-N-D-E-R-W-E-A-R - theyre only sexual to you and a few other people. How many people see a 12 year old girls thongs. It simply makes her feel better about herself.
Lots do, like grown women wearing thongs. They poke out of the tops of their trousers and skirts all the time.
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Laura
Thats grown up women.
Seems like its mainly if not only women who have a problem with young girls wearing thongs. And seems guys aint really intrigued of the thought of a 12 year old wearing thongs. They aint livin their life for nobody else, theyre doin what they want without breakin any rules. I wanna wear jeans, ill wear jeans. They wanna wear thongs, they wear thongs.
But, I disagree with 12 year olds wearing thongs. To me, there is a sexual connotation to them (if that even makes sence!) because lets be honest, the majority of men find thongs attractive. They don't tend to like knickers so much. I'll be honest - I wear thongs for the male attention side of it all. I know 12 year old girls probably aren't wearing them for male attention - but it's still wrong.
Grr, I can't explain it properly, it's just wrong.
Thongs are a touch 'naughty'... they do reveal parts of your body, even if it is only your bum, but it's just not right in my mind that a 12 year old should be wearing them.
To be honest, I never wanted a bloody thong til I was like 16 - they can be really uncomfy sometimes (especially at first)...
It's all about kids growing up too fast. Bloody plunge bras, and thongs on CHILDREN... wrong wrong wrong
For all the people who don't see a problem with it - would you let your 12 year old wear a thong?! I think/hope not.
Me neither! But I guess that just shows that times have changed since then. When I was 10, I didn't really care about boys etc, so I never even thought about what pants I put on in the morning, let alone if they were sexy!
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Laura
Yup
Yup
What can the wrong reason be then?
They do not reveal your bumb, they dont cover it... having no trousers on and thongs would reveal your bum
Id have to think about it... Its not a health risk like smoking or drugs. Its not doing anyone any harm... Noone knows about it and if they do so wha... If they do it because it makes them feel good about themselves i cant see the problem... they aint showin em off to the world. Im tryin desperately hard to understand your views but I just cant. I cant accept that thongs shouldnt be worn by 12 year olds because they are just another item of clothing.
And if you haven't got a problem with it, then why would you have to think about letting your kid wear one? If you didn't care at all, then you'd just let your kid wear them, wouldn't you?!
Right.
Thongs make me 'feel better about myself' to attract lads. Now, are you saying little girls are trying to attract male attention? Because other 12 year old lads couldnt give a shite about thongs... they're into football and crap, hunny. The people taking notice are going to be older lads, men even.
And yes, you can see a thong, they're made so they're seen abpove trousers and stuff when you move about, i.e. bending down. Kids play a lot... they're gonna be seen.