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This !!
Let me just preface: I think this movement is deplorable and gross, their views on dating and sexuality are hideous and skewed and their methods are debasing for both the person who pulls and the person who should be pulled, BUT! they will tell you EXACTLY what you want to hear what nobody on here wants to tell you. Mind, you will most probably not have any success with it, because of your circumstances: you are simply uninteresting, stubborn, obsessed, below average in any sense, but they will tell you what you want to hear (stupid catchphrases, methods, basically a manual that you can follow to the t) so you can keep your head in the sand and not face the reality of how sexuality and interhuman relationships work and maybe realize that you won't have any success this way either. They are big on objectification of women and seeing sex as a transaction, you'll love them.
I find it bizarre that anyone who chooses to join a dating website (or anyone who calls herself Blondie) would be offended/deterred by the use of terms of endearment. Some dating website members don't give their names on their profiles. If I shouldn't use terms of endearment, how should I address them?
Woooah there. You're getting even more judgmental now?
As for the addressing - you don't have to address them as anything in particular. Just be like "hey
And are you implying that Blondie means I'm a slag? Mate you're fucked up beyond any realistic expectation on normality or abnormal you're way off the scale and as for intelligent fucking hell I don't know how you class yourself as intelligent with your attitude!
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I admit that I don't know how to flirt, chat up and seduce. That's why I'm asking for advice here. There's a perception among many of the people who've posted on the threads I started that I'm domineering and arrogant. The truth is that I'm an anxious, insecure introvert who hates myself and struggles every day merely to stay alive.
I'm not saying that you're promiscuous. I'm saying that you're choosing to identify yourself by an aspect of your appearance and by doing so you're drawing attention to it. You should also then not be offended if anyone (including strangers) calls you Blondie; you're inviting them to do so. You don't call yourself BrainyLiz, PopularLiz, ConfidentLiz, or anything else based on your personality, where you're from or what achievements you've accomplished - yet you appear to dislike me fancying girls based on their looks. Imagine how you'd criticise me if my screenname were Sexy Adam, Athletic Adam etc.
You cannot come onto an online community and insult members because you don't like what they are saying. All I can do is repeat how utterly disgusting I find your views on women.
Adam, maybe TheSite isn't the place you need to get support.
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What does hair loss have to do with someone calling herself Blondie? If she lacks hair, she wouldn't draw attention to that. In any case, it would have nothing to do with its colour.
I know there are articles on other topics, but this section is for people who are interested in sex; people who are sex-positive; not people who are anti-sex.
Actually you're wrong.
This section is for many things..Including people who are Anti-Sex, in-fact I myself have put a post up about not wanting sex....its also for people who are struggling in their relationships, To speak about pregnancy, To get advice on breakups....
You like taunting and hating virgins. If you hate virgins, tell me how to get sex, then I won't be a virgin any more.
Actually I don't hate Virgins...So please don't accuse me of things. You're given classic examples of why you're still a virgin....its because you're such an Arsehole....
Try being less like a dick, then maybe you'll get some.
I couldn't careless if you stay a virgin for the rest of your life, or become some raving sex addict.
Thanks for your support everyone
And Adam for your information I am not blonde so your views are incorrect and invalid, much appreciated your very observant lack of skills
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You've chosen to go on what is clearly a sex-positive site, then have started an anti-sex thread. That's like going onto a sports forum to tell them that you don't like sport.
The Site thinks sex (including casual sex) is great; The Site loves sex. If you don't, why do you choose to go on the Sex and Relationships section of it, where you will obviously encounter many sex-positive people?
You wouldn't a be Virgin if you weren't such a promiscuous twat. I have every right to insult as you've kindly insulted me too
May God be with you in this hell! Oh I forgot God doesn't live in hell. May the devil be with you
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My former colleague was an arsehole - he almost had NPD. He never cared about anyone but himself. By your reasoning, he must be a virgin. The fact is that he frequently had casual sex with many girls.
You choose to call yourself Blondie. I don't lack observational skills, as I can't see what you look like. You've been misleading.
How is that misleading? It's a username. You got a problem with that, I'm sure get over it.
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Are you a psychologist or professional now? You can't diagnose someone has NPD. You're the only arsehole about this world.
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It's you who should take your anti-sex attitude and leave this sex-positive site. I'm asking valid questions; you're hating me because I want to have sex.
You wouldn't call yourself ThinLiz if you're fat, or OldLiz if you're 20. Why choose to mislead people?
The Site is an online community for people who need help and support and everyone is welcome on here no matter what race, sex, religion, gender and disability. I think The Site would agree with me in that respect.
There have been a lot of hateful things towards people on here and that's got to stop. It's more classed of bullying then just the odd word whatever.
No one should be calling anyone names or threatening them in anyway. Everyone is allowed on this site no matter what. I've seen a lot of horrible comments on here people have said to one another and it really isn't right! No one should be ganging up on anyone.
I can see that this thread is going round in circles and its part of the reason why everyone is feeling angry and frustrated. There needs to be a compromise or something as this going round in circles again and again.
Have said many times on this thread that asking for sex isn't the way to go about it. That's why going up to someone and asking them for sex is wrong and I agree with those who said its portraying womenin the wrong way.
That's why the advice and questions have already been answers but shows he seems to not get it. Have told you many times and don't understand.
You need to go out and meet people by approaching someone first and getting to know them and seem interested in what they got to say. Again you don't have to go to bars or clubs etc but maybe joining a pub quiz, going to garden parties, attending date nights or events. That's what you need to do.
I dont think the dating sites are working as I said again and again but for you to change your ways you need to put in your messages to girls hi how are, I saw your profile and wanted to get to know you more but not can I have sex with you. That's the problem.
You need to think about the mistakes before and change them when you next act upon it.
This is going round in circles
Why call yourself Adam? Are you Adam and Eve did you make earth?
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