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My mates kicked me out then had group sex
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Evening all
This all happened a few weeks back, and I've felt really weird (at best) since. Basically, some friends (two girls, I'm a bloke) I work with had a party and invited a few people. It ended up with two couples and me there. Things started getting a bit heated, shots were drunk and we all ended up naked, but I didn't do anything with anyone (they looked disgusted at the prospect of me doing stuff to them for dares, ffs why did they play if I was there)
One of the girls from work called me a cab and I went off home, knowing they were going to end up shagging the hell out of each other and I was going to end up at home with mr lefty for company.
I found out today the lads swapped GFs and the girls had sex with each other and it's left me feeling really fucked up and pissed off that so little consideration (IMO) was given to me.
I'm also 26 and the owner of a shiny set of v-plates (hell, I've never done ANYTHING with a girl) and I just feel like I'm never going to do anything either and I might as well not exist. IMO I'm a fairly nice, intelligent bloke, but I suffer from social anxiety after getting bullied like owt at school.
I know there's no way I'm going to sleep for the next week, thinking about it. Why was I invited in the first place?
Help.:crying:
This all happened a few weeks back, and I've felt really weird (at best) since. Basically, some friends (two girls, I'm a bloke) I work with had a party and invited a few people. It ended up with two couples and me there. Things started getting a bit heated, shots were drunk and we all ended up naked, but I didn't do anything with anyone (they looked disgusted at the prospect of me doing stuff to them for dares, ffs why did they play if I was there)
One of the girls from work called me a cab and I went off home, knowing they were going to end up shagging the hell out of each other and I was going to end up at home with mr lefty for company.
I found out today the lads swapped GFs and the girls had sex with each other and it's left me feeling really fucked up and pissed off that so little consideration (IMO) was given to me.
I'm also 26 and the owner of a shiny set of v-plates (hell, I've never done ANYTHING with a girl) and I just feel like I'm never going to do anything either and I might as well not exist. IMO I'm a fairly nice, intelligent bloke, but I suffer from social anxiety after getting bullied like owt at school.
I know there's no way I'm going to sleep for the next week, thinking about it. Why was I invited in the first place?
Help.:crying:
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Maybe they just didn't fancy ya?
I doubt it was their first time together, and if they had an idea you were a virgin they probably felt that you'd feel uncomfortable losing it that way.
Maybe they didn't fancy you. It happens. I wouldn't dwell on it too much. You're being a bit paranoid, and a bit presumptious.
That's the thing, it was. One of the girls had sex that night with the other girls BF who she hadn't even done it with yet. Sorry to keep coming back with stuff.
But you can't expect people to fuck you, when they don't want to, just to save your feelings from getting hurt.
Don't worry about it, you don't wanna have lost your virginity that way anyway...you'd have been scared stiff in that sorta situation. IMO
Are they deliberately winding you up with the details? If they are, they don't sound like friends to me.
Well in that case...they sound like a bunch of cunts to me.
Yup.
Look mate, the whole situation sounds kinda fucked up. I would just try to not think about it and get on with your life.
Yeah it's not really the sort of thing you offer up to a virgin is it.
Hmm sadly not the thing I was offered when I was at school No!! :chin: :no:
I'm sure it wasn't as good as it sounded!!! :thumb:
Why don't you get your social anxiety sorted out? Go see a doctor and explain your problems and they should be able to help you with medication and therapy.
Good luck man
Swaping gf's is ok but when there's another involved it might not have seemed right. In my head it makes sense.
Definatly don't dwell on it, just go get your freak on with someone else. Go to myspaz or faceparty for some sexy time.
matt
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It does sound like a pretty horrible situation and I'm inclined to agree with Kermit that those kinds of parties are rarely as fun as they look - especially if you're not entirely comfortable with the people. You definitely deserve better.
It sounds like broadening your friendship group is the most important thing, as growing confidence will be far better for you in the long run than having meaningless sex. What do you get up to outside of work?
Also, as Lipsy mentioned there is help available for social anxiety which you may or may not have already explored.
Take it easy
Absolutely. Remember though, there's really no rush to lose those V-plates. I was in a rush to get rid of mine and it really wasn't a good idea.
DG - not really, I just wish I didn't know anything about what happened after I left - I'm a bit cheesed off that everyone at work thinks it's dead funny that the girls got it on. I'm really open-minded but I just feel sick thinking about it.
Helen
You're right, I prolly could do more outside work...I'm going for an assessment to do with the anxiety in September (seems a long way in the future)
And don't worry about being a virgin, I wish I waited until I was older/married. (don't regret doing it, just the time i did it)