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How to dump the mad bitch...
BillieTheBot
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I've got a problem involving a mate. Well, I say "mate", what I actually mean is a nasty little bitch who isn't worth anyone's time. She's someone who puts me down at practically every opportunity, rubbishes anything I try to do... basically makes me feel like absolute crap. For instance, when I come out of therapy sessions on Tuesday, she's usually sent me some nasty text, or left me a voicemail derogating something or other about me. And it's not just on text, it's face-to-face. If anything, she's even nastier in person.
I've told her about this, she knows how I feel, but nothing's changed. If anything, it's getting worse. Until now, I've been fearful of doing anything about it, because I was worried I'd be left all on my own. But now, frankly, that seems a better option than having this psycho in my life.
I can't believe I'm about to ask this, but are there any good ways to dump a total waste of space for good?
I've told her about this, she knows how I feel, but nothing's changed. If anything, it's getting worse. Until now, I've been fearful of doing anything about it, because I was worried I'd be left all on my own. But now, frankly, that seems a better option than having this psycho in my life.
I can't believe I'm about to ask this, but are there any good ways to dump a total waste of space for good?
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You could just ignore her totally and delete all messages and texts and if you see her walk straight by not even glancing at her?Harsh but generally people like that need a taste of the nasty treatment.
Oh,and if she says something she thinks is funny giving a condescending look and wrinkling your nose and just looking away works a treat............
Your best bet is just to ignore her. Delete her number, avoid her etc. The only way people like that learn is to cut them out. Playing her at her own game will only add fuel to her fire so to speak, i wouldn't advise it.
I'd rather learn to enjoy my own company, than have a "friend" like that.
But,quality is much more important then quantity.
1. If she's just a friend, tell her in a cold way you think she's a bitch and to stop conatcting you about anything, if she dosnt then go on to
1B (3) walk up top her right in her face say loundy but not shouting, "stay the fuck away from me dont contact me about for any fucking reason got that"
(3) if she's not realy a friend than do the above (1B)
(4) If you happen to be sleeping or have a romantic realationship with her then you could denigrate her attractivness, its possible to be realy nasty with this (your disgusting do you think I could fancy you) so only do it after youve made it plane you dont fancy her, and have told her to fuck off.
I'd say you have to options use the same tactics against her or tell her to piss off and leave you alone. Either way if shes like this now she might be worse when you try to get rid of her.
hope it works out. No-body should have to put up with that sort of behaveir from a friend or anyone really
are you sure your not being over sensitive and or not assertive enough,
I think you need to address each text or comment she sends you in a confident manner, turn each comment round to her why are you saying that or your only underlining your own insecurities.
Just be more direct with her, remember if someones being nasty than a very good technique is just to point out to them why their being nasty.
Don't: talk to her, answer her calls, reply to her emails, open the door to her (get a spyhole installed). Just ditch her, and ditch her good...it's really not that hard to do.
As suggested by everyone else on the board, you don't need this abuse so here is a link that I hope will help sort out this problem.
Fairly useful article, I must admit.
Ah - she can't handle the rejection.
She probably can't help being a bitch. It's her defence mechanism, and she's probably upset. Not that you should tolerate any bullshit from her because of that though. If she doesn't realise she's wrong and change her ways, fuck her off and find someone else.
I had a friendship similar. A same sex platonic friendship the woman was unstable, but she was also very jealous of me and tried to belittle me whenever she could. I quickly dumped her even told her why in no uncertain terms. I dont think the got the message entirely though because she still tries to ring for a chat.
and go to the police