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Mowbray you are full of crap, as Miffy has pointed out you told us you've got a criminal record, and here you are contradicting yourself saying you made out it was her that was the deluded one, surely your new employers would know about your criminal record and therefore know that you are the stalker so why the hell would you need to make out that she was the deluded one.
This thread began with you asking for advice about a girl that you clearly don't care for and now its turned into a thread for telling us about how important you are and how shit people who work 9-5 jobs are, people who go to the pub must be mindless, yeah sure whatever you say! You are mindless for judging a whole class of people based upon what you see on tv and read in the papers, I mean you work in some high flying job apparently, you studied at oxbridge apparently, you get featured in the guardian apparently and certainly don't drink in pubs, so when the hell do you ever get the opportunity to sit down and talk to people that have the lifestyle that you despise! The fact is on this forum you are no more important than the next person.
Saying things like this is just plain weird, why tell someone how much you can save an hour, its not like you are the only person in the world with a good salary or from a rich background, we don't all go around saying shitty things like this though, and for me it really sums you up as a person.
Which no-one is telling you to do.
Anyway, you really should start getting to know girls your own age (give or take a few years) and just try being friends with them. Don't go out with the intention of pulling or whatever.
Is your problem that you've got friends but no-one will go out with you or was that Hornet?
So did you lie then?
Nah that wasn't him, that was Mowbray.
dude if you have so much money and so little respect for women then go somewhere like hong kong/philippines where you can get a different girl every day of the week and all the practise you want.....
Yes there are shallow people out there that will only date good looking, rich people with jobs that are considered suitably powerful enough, educated at the right school with a suitable family history. Hopefully some of them will actually be happy and will have moved on past the initial attraction and realised they have lots in common with the people they date, perhaps ballet, opera or a secret addiction to neighbours.
My point is that if you dont want to be with someone that doesnt meet your exacting standards, why on earth be with a 16 year old girl ? You are hardly likely to take her to meet your friends or family. If you talk about having a relationship/casual encounter recently won't your friends think you are making it up as they have never been introduced to her or bumped into her in the local hot spots that you frequent ?
You know you are doing the wrong thing with this young girl but yet you want to use her for experience. I'm sorry but you dont need physical experience as much as you need to take a look around you at what makes other peoples relationships work. Firstly you need to stop thinking about women as things you can buy, we arent. We will date people that meet our exacting requirements and obviously you are missing something that makes you desireable to the people you want. It could be that for all your very desirable on paper assets, you dont have the personality or people skills. Can you actually connect with people when discussing things other than work or money ?
Arrrrrrrgh. Back to square one. That's the whole point of why I'm here, trying to figure out why I'm unwanted when there's so many people exactly like me who have all the luck. People more arrogant, more selfish, more nasty, more shallow etc have no trouble. I have beautiful girls (my own age) left right and centre having me as their best friend, shoulder to cry on, guy to talk to about their lovelife troubles and it pisses me off.
Not posting here again, and I mean it, this site's just frustrating me even more with those sort of responses, not helping.
Thank fuck for that :thumb:
Oh, and by the way, most people kiss the bottom lip - it feels better.
Fucking brilliant.
I can only reflect the first thing I ever said to you in the other thread.
You pretend to be something, that you aren't. You don't have to go that route. If your primary goal is to have xxx millions to your account you maybe have to go that route. You are trying to fit in, but you fail. Trying to be one of the big baddies, but you are just a tiny little depressed man. You aren't cut out to be cherry on the whipped cream.
Mmmm cherries, Mmmmm whipped cream
While I don't think everybody wading in to have their turn to call you a twat is especially helpful, you seem to have ignored the good advice you've been given and instead decided to nitpick irrelevant points about Alan Sugar.
Part of this is about changing your attitude and the way you approach your life. Nobody can do it for you, especially when you don't even seem willing to accept the fact that your mindset needs to change in order for you to be happy.
We've given you loads of advice which you've chosen to ignore.
:yes: Anymore people who just come into this thread to be outrageously insulting - just stay out of it. Jomery, I think there has been some good advice here so don't let the comments you don't like over-shadow the ones that have given you reason to visit TheSite in the past.
You don't have to go from one extreme to the other, as I think you know.
There's no point in sticking with a job that makes you unhappy and sets these ridiculous ideals that have to be met. Work to live instead of the other way around.
You might want to extend your social circle as well. If you hang around workaholic city types...well, birds of a feather stick together. It confounds me that you're in a situation where your job is the deciding factor on who you can date. It's just ridiculous. Seriously, stop and think about that for awhile. I can't actually believe it's true...but benefit of the doubt and all that...
ETA: And, for the record, I think Jomery has been given a far better reception than someone who convinces other people that the girl he stalked was deluded, just to keep a job, may actually deserve.
Anyway I'm gonna close it now.