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Thank you <3
So. Its been a year since I joined the mix, minus one month. But my life started turning around since this time last year with a situation with my neighbours (that I mentioned once I believe), and a wellbeing person at uni that I was discussing this with noticed how I was super anxious, and since then I finally decided reaching out for support with my mental health, not knowing how bad it actually was. One of the resources I was given was a link to a mh site where I could talk about what I'm struggling with with other people who are also struggling. But turns out that site was no longer supported by my university so I couldn't log in, I was so devastated. And upon reaching out to tell them, they instead recommended me a site called The Mix... and here I am.
So getting that origin story out of the way. I really wanted to thank this community for everything; all the support, all the advice, all the listening ears and all the kind words. All the fun quizzes and random laughs throughout the year. This community has completely changed my life, more than any therapist could (though tbf if I had a therapist available for free 24/7 then I guess they would also help a lot
though still not as much). I've learnt so much, about myself, about life, about so many things!
Sorry if this sounds weird or cringey but I'm serious, I never thought talking to random people on the internet would change my life so much. I never thought so many lovely people even existed! And come to think of it, you guys aren't so 'random' after all. I genuinely appreciate every single one of you. And I mean every, single, one. Those who have been replying to my posts, those who have been reacting, those who have been sharing their own struggles, those supporting others. Even those who are reading this thinking "who on earth is this guy?" I appreciate you too. Even the many people who will never see this message, cause of leaving the mix, or not reading posts on the boards, or it getting buried deep in the archives of the internet beneath all the other posts. I appreciate you all the same. You have all made this community this great place that it is.
So truly, from the bottom of my heart
thank you.
And wishing you all a very happy new year! Here's to another great year eh? Hoping that its much better than the last! (And hoping that I don't spend as much time on here anymore lol)
So getting that origin story out of the way. I really wanted to thank this community for everything; all the support, all the advice, all the listening ears and all the kind words. All the fun quizzes and random laughs throughout the year. This community has completely changed my life, more than any therapist could (though tbf if I had a therapist available for free 24/7 then I guess they would also help a lot
though still not as much). I've learnt so much, about myself, about life, about so many things!Sorry if this sounds weird or cringey but I'm serious, I never thought talking to random people on the internet would change my life so much. I never thought so many lovely people even existed! And come to think of it, you guys aren't so 'random' after all. I genuinely appreciate every single one of you. And I mean every, single, one. Those who have been replying to my posts, those who have been reacting, those who have been sharing their own struggles, those supporting others. Even those who are reading this thinking "who on earth is this guy?" I appreciate you too. Even the many people who will never see this message, cause of leaving the mix, or not reading posts on the boards, or it getting buried deep in the archives of the internet beneath all the other posts. I appreciate you all the same. You have all made this community this great place that it is.
So truly, from the bottom of my heart
thank you.And wishing you all a very happy new year! Here's to another great year eh? Hoping that its much better than the last! (And hoping that I don't spend as much time on here anymore lol)
JJLemon18
11
Twixtmas Blues
Hi folks,
Could do with venting a bit. Am struggling a little bit in this between-Christmas-and-New-Year period (as I'm sure many people are).
Feeling like next year I need to start trying to get out and be in the world more again, but I feel so hopeless when I think about it. All I can see is my mind’s eye are exhaustion and panic attacks. I feel like a failure. Like I'm trapped in a child's mind and can't grow up. I really want to have close, comfortable friendships and maybe even be in a relationship, but it seems so remote a possibility. I've been told again and again that if I face my anxiety and do the things that make me anxious, my brain will learn to feel safe, but for some reason that rarely seems to work for me. I've had panic attacks on buses over and over again until I couldn't face getting on a bus any more, and therefore lost a large part of what little independence I had (I can't drive, the idea of that terrifies me as well). Imagining being in a job always feels frightening and depressing, like I'd be trapped and have high expectations placed upon me that I can't meet. That and the unpredictability of my anxiety (sometimes I can cope, sometimes I fall apart, sometimes I can only cope for a short while) had made seeking work impossible so far. When I imagine what my life could be like if I could function in the world properly, it seems like the possibilities would be endless and exciting, and I frequently feel inspired for a while. Often I then have another bad experience and feel as though I can't face the world ever again. Expectations and demands feel so heavy that I can't carry them. I don't know how to take my fleeting feelings of ‘I want to feel like I'm living, I want to push forward and find what I need, I have potential’ etc and make that last.
Could do with venting a bit. Am struggling a little bit in this between-Christmas-and-New-Year period (as I'm sure many people are).
Feeling like next year I need to start trying to get out and be in the world more again, but I feel so hopeless when I think about it. All I can see is my mind’s eye are exhaustion and panic attacks. I feel like a failure. Like I'm trapped in a child's mind and can't grow up. I really want to have close, comfortable friendships and maybe even be in a relationship, but it seems so remote a possibility. I've been told again and again that if I face my anxiety and do the things that make me anxious, my brain will learn to feel safe, but for some reason that rarely seems to work for me. I've had panic attacks on buses over and over again until I couldn't face getting on a bus any more, and therefore lost a large part of what little independence I had (I can't drive, the idea of that terrifies me as well). Imagining being in a job always feels frightening and depressing, like I'd be trapped and have high expectations placed upon me that I can't meet. That and the unpredictability of my anxiety (sometimes I can cope, sometimes I fall apart, sometimes I can only cope for a short while) had made seeking work impossible so far. When I imagine what my life could be like if I could function in the world properly, it seems like the possibilities would be endless and exciting, and I frequently feel inspired for a while. Often I then have another bad experience and feel as though I can't face the world ever again. Expectations and demands feel so heavy that I can't carry them. I don't know how to take my fleeting feelings of ‘I want to feel like I'm living, I want to push forward and find what I need, I have potential’ etc and make that last.
sputnik
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