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Re: What do you wish you knew in school?
I agree with financial literacy. There's so much I've had to learn that might've been easier if it were taught in school. Budgeting and learning to work out what the best deals are is good. But so too is understanding credit cards, credit scores, loans, how interest works, different types of savings accounts and very importantly tax!
A basic life skills curriculum would've been good too. We had cookery lessons, and while that was interesting, I think a focus on preparing meals, healthy eating etc., would've been helpful to know. The same for textiles technology, it was good learning to use a sewing machine, but knowing how to sew a button, stitch up a pocket, how to follow instructions for washing and ironing fabrics would've good to know too.
We did have careers lessons back when I was in school. But I actually don't remember learning how to write a CV or cover letter. It would've been really good to learn more about different careers in general, as well as a more personalised approach for helping you to choose the right career for you.
For me, personally, the biggest thing really is that I wish I knew that even though I struggled making friends and felt like I didn't fit in, that there wasn't something wrong with me (which I believed at the time). I wish I'd know that I just hadn't found the right people to fit in with (but that they are out there!)
A basic life skills curriculum would've been good too. We had cookery lessons, and while that was interesting, I think a focus on preparing meals, healthy eating etc., would've been helpful to know. The same for textiles technology, it was good learning to use a sewing machine, but knowing how to sew a button, stitch up a pocket, how to follow instructions for washing and ironing fabrics would've good to know too.
We did have careers lessons back when I was in school. But I actually don't remember learning how to write a CV or cover letter. It would've been really good to learn more about different careers in general, as well as a more personalised approach for helping you to choose the right career for you.
For me, personally, the biggest thing really is that I wish I knew that even though I struggled making friends and felt like I didn't fit in, that there wasn't something wrong with me (which I believed at the time). I wish I'd know that I just hadn't found the right people to fit in with (but that they are out there!)
Maisy
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Not feeling 100 percent well
I just get so stressed and overwhelmed often because I'm just job hunting. I'm trying, but it is not easy. I do feel fine, but I think and worry a lot about the job hunting process and get negative about it, which stresses me out and brings me back down again. I think within the past few months, I have been becoming more stressed about it as time goes on. I think it's just the uncertainty of it, and also I think I just have a lot of pressure from myself to get sorted. I'm trying a bit to make improvements to myself too. I think I have improved since maybe a few months ago or maybe a year or two plus ago and still am trying to make improvements. The odd person has said I have made improvements too, but getting settled into a job would be great, and I could just go from there in terms of careers, routine, saving, etc. The stress and negative emotions are just getting to me. I was in bed the other day, feeling rock bottom and extremely behind in life.
Shaken up in class
Does anyone else get things chucked at them in class, or have people shove them and get really scared? I'm not sure if it's part of my childhood trauma dealing with bullies, but I get really frightened if someone acts against me in class. It's like settling down, and then suddenly everything's on alert and you just don't feel safe. I have a five minute pass from class, but sometimes when it happens I feel more like if I just stay sitting down, and keep attention drawn away from me, it'll b better than getting up and walking out. I still get really scared, and feel almost like I might get hurt if the person keeps going. Especially if it's physical, that terrifies me, and I end up going almost utterly silent.
Re: What do you wish you knew in school?
I wish I knew that grades weren't the be all and end all and that my mental health is much more important.
I also wish that I didn't compare myself to everyone else as much both academically and also socially
I also wish that I didn't compare myself to everyone else as much both academically and also socially
Re: How do I stop being asexual???
@AnonymousToe
There is nothing wrong with you. I used to search my class for people to have crushes on, because I thought that was just something that was normal and necessary. When I saw a video by Jaden Animations about how she did that too, I was over the moon because I felt so weird doing it. I'd pick someone out, and try to develop a crush on them, and because I kept tricking myself into thinking they were so pretty or nice or something, I would, but it would be over time. Now, I'm not saying you just need to 'wait'. I understand it doesn't work like that.
If you're ace, you're ace. If you're trans, you're trans. If ya gay, ya gay. All I'm saying is that I get how you feel, and it's not weird or wrong. Don't pressure yourself into becoming something you aren't. Your purpose is to do exactly what you want to, and nothing else. There's nothing set in stone about who you have to be. Life is about whatever you want it to be. Asexuality does exist. Me and my brother are both on the spectrum, so we get it. It's hard, and people call us fakers, or broken, but who the hell cares what they say? They aren't us. We are who we are.
There is nothing wrong with you. I used to search my class for people to have crushes on, because I thought that was just something that was normal and necessary. When I saw a video by Jaden Animations about how she did that too, I was over the moon because I felt so weird doing it. I'd pick someone out, and try to develop a crush on them, and because I kept tricking myself into thinking they were so pretty or nice or something, I would, but it would be over time. Now, I'm not saying you just need to 'wait'. I understand it doesn't work like that.
If you're ace, you're ace. If you're trans, you're trans. If ya gay, ya gay. All I'm saying is that I get how you feel, and it's not weird or wrong. Don't pressure yourself into becoming something you aren't. Your purpose is to do exactly what you want to, and nothing else. There's nothing set in stone about who you have to be. Life is about whatever you want it to be. Asexuality does exist. Me and my brother are both on the spectrum, so we get it. It's hard, and people call us fakers, or broken, but who the hell cares what they say? They aren't us. We are who we are.