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hey @eylah hope you're doing okay this morning and that your sister is too. take as much time as you need and we are always here to support you. fingers crossed she makes a speedy recovery. and remember to take care of yourself too.

Hey @bignosegirly0

I think as a woman (unfortunately) it's not surprising to hear that you feel this way, I know for me something that helps me feel safe when I leave the house or when I'm outside is being aware of my surroundings, not having my music too loud in my headphones so I can hear what's going on, and not stopping or acknowledging strangers trying to get my attention. Sometimes pretending to be on the phone is helpful too, people seem less likely to bother someone who is on the phone. I do want to end this by saying that these are all things you can do to make yourself feel safer, but it's definitely not your responsibility to make sure other people don't hurt you. It's on them to be better people. I also think it's lovely that you've acknowledged that 99% of the time, you're safe. That's huge, and something to focus on whenever you do feel those fears creeping up. Given the world we live in, your fears are valid but that doesn't mean they will necessarily come true. I hope this was helpful

Big hugs @eylah

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Hi @TheNightmare, thank you so much for sharing what's been on your mind - I can see that you've been reflecting about why you're in your current position, how do you feel now that you've gotten this out of your chest?

It sounds like you have a harsh inner critic, which can be helpful in some occasions (like ensuring that you do your work to the best of your ability), but it can be quite damaging sometimes - it's especially sensitive when you haven't achieved success. Perhaps it would help for you to seek feedback from employers after an interview/application you submitted - most of them provide constructive feedback, and you may find that the applicant pool was quite tough, and the reason why you didn't get the job might not necessarily be because of anything wrong with your application/performance. It's also a good way to find out about what you've done well, which is important to remember.

Having said that, as you move forward in your job search, maybe celebrating your tiny victories can help you feel better, even if you didn't get a job. For example, it can be as simple as editing a paragraph in an application, or turning up to an interview and trying your best.

I hear you when you say that it's difficult to shake the fear of failure, and it can be easy to get caught up on your setbacks. But it sounds like you're learning a lot and seeing ways to improve and do even better. I sympathise with your struggle, it's incredibly hard to get a job, I think the whole process needs to be improved, especially for entry-level jobs. What are you particularly struggling with when it comes to the job search?

As well as this, taking breaks from searching is very important. It might be that you're burned out and are in need of a break. It might not seem productive, but it's so helpful to recharge so that you approach the whole process with a clear and refreshed mind.

I just want to say that we're all really proud of your growth. You're making a lot of progress and are getting close to where you want to be, even if it might not seem like it. I'm certain that someday, you will get that job that you've been wanting.

Good luck with everything and continue to reach out to us

Kai

Hey @ellie2000 you can speak to Calm on WhatsApp or webchat

https://www.thecalmzone.net/ There a text service and fully anonymous

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Thank you @eylah and @amy02 today has been better luckily

oh thats gd! i rly hope things improve for you i rly do bc your deserving of a happy life! im sending you so many hugs 🫂!

Aww I hope she gets well soon, remember to take care of yourself too @eylah
We’ll still be here for you, I hope everything works out ok 🩷