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Re: The truth about who I am
Aw you don't have to apologise for anything! I hope this isn't because of what I talked about on my thread 
I agree with everything lunarcat said, but want to add that I know many many people relate to most of what you said here, including myself! Hating who you are, being indecisive, relying on the internet (that one I specifically relate to a LOT haha), and using AI. And I doubt you would hate other people who would do these same things would you...
To me you're a really kind and caring person! You got to treat yourself with the same respect you treat others!
Sending a big virtual hug (or a virtual cookie if you prefer that
)
I agree with everything lunarcat said, but want to add that I know many many people relate to most of what you said here, including myself! Hating who you are, being indecisive, relying on the internet (that one I specifically relate to a LOT haha), and using AI. And I doubt you would hate other people who would do these same things would you...
To me you're a really kind and caring person! You got to treat yourself with the same respect you treat others!
Sending a big virtual hug (or a virtual cookie if you prefer that
)
Re: Rebuilding Bridges that I Burnt by Accident
Hey @Radical I really appreciate you sharing this with this with the community. It takes a lot of strength to be this vulnerable and honest. I can hear how much you want to make this right for yourself and this person.
Here is something which has stood out to the me most in your message- you clearly care a lot about this person, and even though things didn't go the way you'd hoped, you're still taking responsibility for your actions, which is really great. It's also completely understandable that you'd be feeling so anxious and confused after all this time.
Although it might be difficult, it sounds to me that the best way to show respect now is to continue to give her space, even on the other account. This is the best way to show her that you respect her boundaries and needs
You mentioned seeking help for your mental health in the past, which is really positive. I am hearing that this situation seems to be triggering some old anxieties it might be worth thinking about talking someone again to help manage this specific stress and moving forward in a healthy way.
I also really want to zoom in on self-forgiveness here. It sounds like you were in a really tricky place with your mental health and the thing that matters now is that you've apologised and sound really self aware of what happened and why. Not feeling great about doing something out of character is healthy and natural but there comes a point where self compassion is important for moving on. You deserve to be happy and accepting of yourself
How does that sound for you?
I wonder if focusing your energy on building friendships with people who are currently available and open to connecting with you is the healthiest path forward? You really do deserve positive connections, and I am sure there are people out there who would love to get to know you.
It might take some time, but with some self-compassion and effort, you can definitely move past this and build strong, healthy relationships in the future.
If you'd like to talk more about any of this, we are here for you.
Here is something which has stood out to the me most in your message- you clearly care a lot about this person, and even though things didn't go the way you'd hoped, you're still taking responsibility for your actions, which is really great. It's also completely understandable that you'd be feeling so anxious and confused after all this time.
Although it might be difficult, it sounds to me that the best way to show respect now is to continue to give her space, even on the other account. This is the best way to show her that you respect her boundaries and needs
You mentioned seeking help for your mental health in the past, which is really positive. I am hearing that this situation seems to be triggering some old anxieties it might be worth thinking about talking someone again to help manage this specific stress and moving forward in a healthy way.I also really want to zoom in on self-forgiveness here. It sounds like you were in a really tricky place with your mental health and the thing that matters now is that you've apologised and sound really self aware of what happened and why. Not feeling great about doing something out of character is healthy and natural but there comes a point where self compassion is important for moving on. You deserve to be happy and accepting of yourself
How does that sound for you?I wonder if focusing your energy on building friendships with people who are currently available and open to connecting with you is the healthiest path forward? You really do deserve positive connections, and I am sure there are people out there who would love to get to know you.
It might take some time, but with some self-compassion and effort, you can definitely move past this and build strong, healthy relationships in the future.
If you'd like to talk more about any of this, we are here for you.
ella
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Re: 🟩 Support Group Break (April 8 - 21)
Great question @Chloe234
We'd love to still run a quiz, we'll all be back together as a team tomorrow so we'll keep you all updated about when it will be soon
We'd love to still run a quiz, we'll all be back together as a team tomorrow so we'll keep you all updated about when it will be soon
Aoife
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Re: Admitting defeat and getting back on track….
Hey @independent_ thanks for sharing how you are with us, I hope getting things written down and out there helped somewhat. We will always be here to listen 
Regarding posts on here there's absolutely no rush to get back to things - take all the time you need to sort things through and there'll always be someone here when you get back.
I'm sorry to hear you're struggling a bit at the moment, it can be so tough to have so much going on and feeling like you're falling behind where you want to be. Perhaps the training course will be a good way to slowly get back into things? It definitely doesn't mean you've failed or been defeated - sometimes we all need a break and to reset It sounds like you're struggling to switch off after using so much brain power at work - do you have different hobbies or activities that you feel calm you down? Doing things absolutely unrelated could help relax your thoughts when it gets too much.
Remember we are here to listen and support you whenever you need
Regarding posts on here there's absolutely no rush to get back to things - take all the time you need to sort things through and there'll always be someone here when you get back.I'm sorry to hear you're struggling a bit at the moment, it can be so tough to have so much going on and feeling like you're falling behind where you want to be. Perhaps the training course will be a good way to slowly get back into things? It definitely doesn't mean you've failed or been defeated - sometimes we all need a break and to reset
It sounds like you're struggling to switch off after using so much brain power at work - do you have different hobbies or activities that you feel calm you down? Doing things absolutely unrelated could help relax your thoughts when it gets too much.Remember we are here to listen and support you whenever you need
amy02
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Re: Hello!!!
Welcome to the community @celestial_dog! It's so lovely to have you here. I love David Tennant too!
At The Mix, we're an organisation that supports young people under 25 in the UK. You're more than welcome to reach out for support here, however our signposting is tailored to those in the UK so if you do currently live in Australia, it may not always be relevant to the support you're looking for. If you're looking for support in your country, Befrienders Worldwide has information for helplines all over the world.
I love David Tennant too!At The Mix, we're an organisation that supports young people under 25 in the UK. You're more than welcome to reach out for support here, however our signposting is tailored to those in the UK so if you do currently live in Australia, it may not always be relevant to the support you're looking for. If you're looking for support in your country, Befrienders Worldwide has information for helplines all over the world.
Gemma
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Re: Hello!!!
Hello @celestial_dog! Welcome to our community! I hope you're well I'm also so obsessed with Good Omens and David Tennant! I love love love the series and David Tennant is just an amazing actor! It's really cool that you're studying art and that you're also interested in animal care
I hope you feel comfort in this wonderful space, and I'm sure that you'll meet people here who are similar to you! I look forward to seeing you around the boards
I'm also so obsessed with Good Omens and David Tennant! I love love love the series and David Tennant is just an amazing actor! It's really cool that you're studying art and that you're also interested in animal care I hope you feel comfort in this wonderful space, and I'm sure that you'll meet people here who are similar to you! I look forward to seeing you around the boards
kaii
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Re: Something I am overthinking
@amy This is not stupid at all! It's completely normal to want to follow people you connect with or relate to on social media. It's great that you're being so thoughtful about who you follow, though!
Finding people with similar lived experiences, even if they're younger, can be super validating. They might be tackling things from a slightly different angle, but having that shared understanding can be really powerful.
Finding people with similar lived experiences, even if they're younger, can be super validating. They might be tackling things from a slightly different angle, but having that shared understanding can be really powerful.
ella
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Re: The people I used to look up to - a mini little rant
@Amy22 Glad I could help clear it up for you!
Re: Might report my mother to the police tomorrow (TW: abuse, si)
just wanted to say you're really brave for what you're going through - and I hope you're doing okay today.
I'm personally not the best for actual advice, but what Gemma said looks informative for you.
Like she said, keeping reaching out to us when you need to and remember we're all here to support you however we can
Sending hugs
Sinead
I'm personally not the best for actual advice, but what Gemma said looks informative for you.
Like she said, keeping reaching out to us when you need to and remember we're all here to support you however we can
Sending hugs
Sinead
Re: Might report my mother to the police tomorrow (TW: abuse, si)
It's really brave of you to have taken the step to go to the police station @Distraction and to open up about what happened. It's positive to hear they were helpful and that you got your answers. But I'm hearing that it could have been a warmer and more comfy experience for you if you had been met with some more understanding and kindness. We'd like to think that would be a given.
It's also a positive step that you have written everything down on paper. What happened to you is valid and should be taken seriously, no matter how long or short your story is. That can't have been easy but it's so powerful that you're making these steps towards healing and accountability like @ella mentioned.
Just wanted to pick up on this question^. As you mention going to your local police station, I imagine you are reporting this to Police Scotland right now. So I believe in this first instance you could contact advice lines / legal lines that are based in Scotland as these are applicable to all Scottish residents. These kinds of organisations could help chat through any questions you have about the legal process - if things are being taken further, I imagine Police Scotland will liaise with the relevant authorities and the details of the crime will be forwarded to the relevant area in England for investigation. I imagine they would then provide you with some advice on getting legal support going forward. If it is to be heard in an English court then they may provide you with advice on getting legal support in England.
I'd maybe suggest contacting Victim Support Scotland if you wanted to chat things through with them for now - they can talk to you about any worries you have and how they can help. You can get in contact by calling their helpline – 0800 160 1985 (Mon – Fri, 9am – 8pm) or they also have webchat service: https://victimsupport.scot/contact/
Young people between the ages of 11 and 25 can also get free, confidential advice on legal issues, 24 hours a day, from the Young Scot Law Line (tel. 0808 801 0801).
The Scottish Child Law Centre also provides free legal advice, guidance and information about the law for and about children and young people.
Keep reaching out - you're not alone through this. We're here for you.
It's also a positive step that you have written everything down on paper. What happened to you is valid and should be taken seriously, no matter how long or short your story is. That can't have been easy but it's so powerful that you're making these steps towards healing and accountability like @ella mentioned.
Distraction wrote: »Just a quick question see the legal resources, what happens if it happened in England but I stay in Scotland, which ones would I go through, if I was to?
Just wanted to pick up on this question^. As you mention going to your local police station, I imagine you are reporting this to Police Scotland right now. So I believe in this first instance you could contact advice lines / legal lines that are based in Scotland as these are applicable to all Scottish residents. These kinds of organisations could help chat through any questions you have about the legal process - if things are being taken further, I imagine Police Scotland will liaise with the relevant authorities and the details of the crime will be forwarded to the relevant area in England for investigation. I imagine they would then provide you with some advice on getting legal support going forward. If it is to be heard in an English court then they may provide you with advice on getting legal support in England.
I'd maybe suggest contacting Victim Support Scotland if you wanted to chat things through with them for now - they can talk to you about any worries you have and how they can help. You can get in contact by calling their helpline – 0800 160 1985 (Mon – Fri, 9am – 8pm) or they also have webchat service: https://victimsupport.scot/contact/
Young people between the ages of 11 and 25 can also get free, confidential advice on legal issues, 24 hours a day, from the Young Scot Law Line (tel. 0808 801 0801).
The Scottish Child Law Centre also provides free legal advice, guidance and information about the law for and about children and young people.
Keep reaching out - you're not alone through this. We're here for you.
Gemma
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