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Hey @AnonymousToe - I can hear how this situation is affecting your emotions. Being around people who are pessimistic all the time can affect our own emotions too, whether that's family or friends, so it's quite natural to feel how you do about this situation. I can understand that it's hard when it's your parents though, because you live together. That being said, you absolutely deserve to be heard and supported, because your wellbeing is important!

While your mum might only be able to speak to you, it's important that you give yourself some time for yourself, friends, and other hobbies/interests. Looking out for someone with poor mental wellbeing is great and kind - but it doesn't make you responsible for your mum's emotions. There's a difference between the two!

Whether it's through a counsellor, using a support service like Samaritans, or sharing your emotions here, having an outlet for yourself can be really helpful in this situation. We're here for you through this experience, so please feel free to use the boards to express yourself and share your experiences as you've done here!

Hi @AnonymousToe - I'm sorry to hear you feel this way. It can't be easy to feel like you are responsible for the emotions of everyone else and that you feel your mum treats you more as another adult as opposed to being a mum. I can relate to how you feel especially as the older sibling in the house, so you're definitely not alone in your feelings and I'm sure there are others who can relate as well. As hard as it might be, remember that your feelings matter too and at the end of the day, it can be okay to sometimes put your emotions first, whilst still being able to support your mum too.

Remember you are not alone and you can talk to any of us on here whenever you need to.

I hope you're feeling a bit better this afternoon and sending you lots of hugs
Sinead