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@Lottie5433 I completely understand, you don't have to share anything you don't want to. Thanks for opening up about drinking, would you say you are using alcohol to help better cope with emotions or/and is it more in social settings?
I’d say more so to cope with the emotions and thoughts @Verity
I hear you @Lottie5433 emotions and thoughts can feel so disruptive and uncontrolable at times, it sounds like drinking brings some ease to these thoughts and emotions for you, would you agree?
yeah at the moment the alcohol numbs out the thoughts @Verity
@Lottie5433 You have a good plan here to so far to
a) discuss the letter and the last few days you've been struggling with N on Wednesday
b) Speak with J and go for a swim tomorrow
c) potentially reach out to N in the meantime via email (I know you said you're uncomfortable sending the entire letter but you don't have to do this to reach out to N, you can just share the other thoughts/feelings you've been having the last few days)
I can see how hard you're trying, Lottie, and you are doing amazing. I'm sure it doesn't feel like it, with everything you're going through and dealing with on a daily basis. You are a valued member of this community, and you deserve to have to peace. Can you tell me more about what other plans you have / things you are willing to try (no matter how small!) to keep yourself safe until you've had a chance to share everything with N on Wednesday?
I’m not really sure what to try @Sabah loke there are some things that I’ve been told about in DBT like TIPP skills but I honestly don’t know what to do right now
Hey @Lottie5433 how are you feeling today? there's so much to take in about DBT and TIPP, I completely get how it might feel like a lot to proccess, do you want to share some of the things you do know and we could discuss them together?
hey @Verity im not sure how I feel today really 🤔- N said I need to challenge myself and name emotions and not be scared of them (this was said in session on Wednesday). To be honest I just feel numb, exhausted and tired.
well I haven’t learnt many skills in DBT yet like at the moment I’m learning about “what” skills, this basically means I have to observe, describe and participate (all to do with mindfulness), then it’s like we’ve spoke about “wise mind” which means your suppose to find the middle path between rational and emotional mind, this can be done through breathing exercises and purposeful focus on the thoughts and letting them just be thoughts it. That’s all I’ve learnt at the moment. However me and N have spoke about how the TIPP skills might be beneficial as change in temperature helps bring me back to reality I suppose. We’ve also spoke about physical grounding so standing outside without my shoes or socks on. And then breathing work, but I’ve said this doesn’t help me.
To be honest going for a walk or swim or being active helps more.
At the moment I’m just filling out my diary card that I got sent and I know I need to be honest on it but part of me doesn’t want to write that I did SH and that I was suicidal and that. Even though it will help N support me the most.
I don’t think I’ll be seeing J today or going for a swim there