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Breakup

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  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    It’s my fault and I want to be better but I don’t know how
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    I kinda of want him back but he doesn’t want me which is heartbreaking but I can’t keeping living like this
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    I think it was because I only had him but I didn’t stop him from going anywhere just didn’t feel comfortable with him having girls on his phone because of my past trauma
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    I have friends but I’m not the type of person that goes out but maybe I need to do that
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    Meet some friends
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    I give up
  • AzzimanAzziman Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 2,464 Boards Champion
    Hey @LolaPumpkin13, sorry to hear that you're going through a difficult time. We're here to listen to you and support you through this. Thank you for having the courage to keep talking about how you feel here, it can be a difficult thing to do.

    I can hear that you're finding the current situation difficult to live through, and that's understandable given the pain that you've expressed. You've mentioned meeting friends, which can be helpful to take your mind off things for a little while and get support - how would you feel about reaching out to friends to do this?
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  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    I’m just not getting any better
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,036 Boards Guru
    @LolaPumpkin13 , thank you for making these posts. How are you doing today? I noticed you said, 'I give up' - and I wondered what you mean by this? Can I check that you're feeling able to stay safe at the moment?

    I noticed you reflecting on how your experiences of past trauma might have led you to feel uncomfortable with your ex having other girls on his phone, and you're doing so well to explore this with self-awareness and curiosity. What I'm hearing is that those past traumas have been really impactful, and perhaps left you with a sense of fear around what could happen if someone you love is talking to other women. I wonder, have you ever had the opportunity to receive any support and help processing those past traumas? You're so deserving of time and compassion around those experiences, and it sounds like they might have been very hurtful.
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    I did try counselling when I was with him but because I was living in hotels moving around constantly going to work spending time with him I couldn’t do it
  • Sian321Sian321 Community Manager Posts: 3,036 Boards Guru
    I hear you, @LolaPumpkin13 , it sounds like it was hard to find a 'flow' with your counsellor due to all the changes happening in your living situation and demands on your time. Is counselling / therapy something you're still interested in exploring, or maybe not at the moment?
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    Yh I was doing it with the mix but I had some issues with my phone number and just getting up for it
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    When I’ve been told to distract myself when it was my fault in the relationship I just want to be better
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    I just want to be happy again
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    I just want to heal
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    I can’t do it anymore I’ve been waiting for therapy for months
  • KatieKatie Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 1,951 Extreme Poster
    Hey @LolaPumpkin13 do you feel comfortable explaining a little more what you mean by "I can't do it anymore"?

    I'm also hearing you was having counselling with The Mix but there were some issues with your phone number and getting up for it. Is this an option you would like to explore again?
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    I’m just tired of it all just can’t relax can’t really do anything and I would but I can’t get counselling for another six months
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    My ex doesn’t care which is heartbreaking I don’t know what to do anymore
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    I’m just so tired and no one has helped me
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    Can I change
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    I just need some help
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,208 An Original Mixlorian
    LolaPumpkin13 wrote: »
    I just need some help

    hi @LolaPumpkin13 were here for you and we’re listening. have you reached out to your gp abt maybe talking abt everything that is bothering you atm? <3
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    Don’t really see the point
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    I just want some help I’m stuck
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    Don’t think anyone is listening to tbh
  • eylaheylah Community Connector Posts: 10,208 An Original Mixlorian
    not many ppl are active during the day bc of school college and work. but ppl will be more active in the evenings. :)

    we do care abt you! the best place to start getting help is contacting your gp and asking to talk to them abt what’s going on for you etc. bc then they can refer you to places.
    ppl dont always need advice. sometimes all they rly need is a hand to hold. an ear to listen. and a heart to understand them. 🧸
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    I have tried the doctors
  • VerityVerity Community Manager Posts: 26 Boards Initiate
    Hey @LolaPumpkin13 it must be hard wanting to move on from feeling this way. You have been expressing your emotions here and that's a great start, you should feel proud of yourself for that.

    Breakup's can be so difficult and it sounds like what you are going through is really getting you down, I wonder if you have a go to film or activity that can make you feel any better for the time being? Maybe we can think of one together?
  • LolaPumpkin13LolaPumpkin13 Posts: 225 Trailblazer
    I’m in work at the moment but sure
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