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Dont like single life

RedemptionRedemption Community Connector Posts: 5,384 Part of The Furniture
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I’ve been feeling alone. I’ve been on and off dating apps for maybe a year, joining just to see what they’re like and then deleting them. It’s not something that’s come out of nowhere. I always think about relationships and imagine or daydream about being with someone, but I don’t know how I’m going to meet someone. I don’t know if dating apps are it. I feel like someone that good is probably going to be taken by someone way better than me. The competition scares me. There’s all competition and all that when dating someone, and when I did get someone, the fear of heartbreak, which I’ve seen in people, can hit hard. That’s if I even get dates and one. Also on dating apps, a lot of the time I don’t feel it when it’s just swiping. I see women who I maybe like but can’t date. I’d like to find someone natural, like not initially intended.

I want to find someone who likes me for who I am. Someone shorter than me ideally, non-judgemental, supportive, with a sense of humour, probably 20 to 21 plus. I just don’t like single life. I have friends but I think I want someone a bit more. I’ve never had a relationship or anything. In general, I don’t feel good enough for anyone, and I worry about being a shorter guy.

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  • AzzimanAzziman Discussion Boards Moderator Posts: 2,399 Boards Champion
    Hi @Redemption, thank you for sharing this with us here. I can hear how you're unhappy with being single, and that you've mentioned some insecurities around whether you're good and tall enough. You've mentioned that you've tried dating apps, but that the competition is scary and that the "intended" approach isn't what you prefer.

    Your feelings are valid, and dating can certainly be challenging. Looking for someone who likes you for who you are is reasonable, and looking for a supportive, non-judgemental partner seems reasonable too. You mention that you don't feel good enough for people, what makes you say this?

    I'd imagine there are many that feel the way you do too. Dating isn't easy, and dating apps have their challenges. There are other ways that might feel more natural, such as in-person speed dating events, or being introduced to new people via friends. How would you feel about those kind of ideas? We're here to listen to you.

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