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I lost my virginity, now I don't know if I regret it

I lost my virginity recently. I am 19 he was 26. We we're dating but I don't think I was ready to have sex. I think I regret it mostly of the age difference, I don't know if that's me over thinking. But I also realised that it is not the right time and we are both going through stuff so I ended it. I only had sex once but I feel ashamed, depressed and that how could I be so weak and this lowers my standards and my value as a person. I just want to know how I can stop thinking these thoughts I know most of them I am overthinking. But u just thought I would be with the one I lost it too.

Comments

  • ShaunieShaunie England 🏠Posts: 6,181 The Mix Elder
    Hey

    I understand losing viginity can be a big deal. But it doesnt mean the other times after the first cant be as important. Most peoples first times arent the greatest and are painful ect anyway.

    Facts are you cant change what has happened and that there isnt really anything to be ashamed of. It wasnt illegal but understand you feel shame. But it doesnt lower you standards. I think many people regretfully having sex sometimes- but maybe can find things you can learn, if any? Is it just now youre regretting it or did you feel ready in that moment?

    I think with time you will be thinking about it less and gradually come to terms with what happened?

    Your sex life doesnt define you as a person and you are not any less value for it

    All the best
    “If we could look into each other’s hearts and understand the unique challenges each of us faces, I think we would treat each other much more gently, with more love, patience, tolerance, and care” Marvin J. Ashton
  • AzzimanAzziman The Mix convert Posts: 514 Extreme Poster
    Hi Kim98,

    To be honest, it's happened now, and no amount of wishing or thinking is going to bring it back. I think it's time to accept that what's done is done, and move forward. Your standards and values aren't any different just because of one action!x

    Much love <3
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