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If you held on and didn't do it you would be closer to the pain ending in life. No pain lasts forever. Things will get better, no matter how long it takes. You feel disgusting and worthless right now but you are not. Keep in there. It will all get better. Think of your parents, your friends, the people who are just rooting for you because they know how low you have felt (I'm one of them btw). I know you are in a dark place but it will all get better, and you will be a stronger person that will do great things. PM me if you want to.
I got too nervous to go so I stood outside. They'll not do anything, other people I know have said that they can't do anything because I've not broken a bone so it isn't as important.
Starry night is right you are so deserving of support. If you weren't you wouldn't have so many standing beside you on thesite.
Do you really want to suffer? Or is that the depression talking? Because it's in our heads we tend to believe it in our hearts, why would we think these things if they weren't true. But they're not, it's the illness taking over, making you believe you deserve pain, that no one cares, that they and you would be better off dead.
It's not true. You should be happy, live a long life, be surrounded by loving friends and family, and you can have that as long as you don't give up. Keep fighting. xx
it really depends how long after. i only had sex at 16 and the abuse ended at 11 or so.
but i think it feels normal. just don't drink before fixing problems. it will make u reminisce the past and connect it to present.
how to get help? you can't just jump steps. if u don't press charges you'll get stuck in a conflict with time.
then after u press charges the rest of whoever handles this will advise you.
word of caution; pressing charges can be more horrible then the abuse in itself, but it's a necessary step.
be sure before you talk, request ONLY female integrator.
then next step is hospitals or ,well depends how you'll handle the next step.
good luck.
oh and yea, i don't advise u trying to have sex before getting help.
simply don't.
Sex after a sexual assault is the most difficult thing to deal with. It is perfectly okay for you to feel like you want to. The assault was not a reflection on your character and most certainly not your fault. Whether it was 10 years ago, or yesterday it is important you receive the help and support you deserve.
I was assaulted 8 years ago and I didn't tell a soul until 6 months ago. I haven't personally had sex yet, and it's been really difficult to want to do it with my partner but he's understanding and has gone at my pace. If you want to talk about it and really feel like you need professional support, I would recommend your local Rape Crisis. I recently finished some counselling with them and they were wonderful. They didn't make me talk about what actually happened. They helped me through the emotions following it. You can talk to them about it too if that is what you want. Anything that is said to them is kept confidential and they do not push you to report anything. They take you seriously and believe you 100%. I received support from an ISVA (Independant Sexual Violence Advisor) within the organisation and she met with me and a police officer to discuss what would happen if I were to report it. Reporting is not for everybody, but it is very important to consider. I personally chose not to report what happened to me but it will always be your choice and you will ALWAYS be in control no matter what. I think the only time they would not keep it confidential is if you were under the legal age of consent at the time (16) and the offender was over 16.
If you have any questions, don't be afraid to ask!
Take Care,
ShatteredSecrets
I am made entirely of flaws, stitched together with good intentions.
Thanks for posting and sharing your experience
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Thanks for posting and sharing your experience
I'm just dropping by to let you know that we generally tend to avoid posting in threads that haven't been active in a while. This is for a few reasons, which you can read in our Good Manners Guide. The last post in this thread was around 3 years ago, so I'm going to close it now.
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