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This. Some people love taking offence. It's such an overheard cry as to be almost meaningless these days.
There's that anecdote about Dr Samuel Johnson, the compiler of the first comprehensive English dictionary IIRC, being congratulated by the Ladies of London who were delighted to find there were no swear words in his compilation. And his congratulatory response to them on knowing where to look for them.
I had to explain to him that not only was it nasty to call people names, i had to explain what it meant and that there was nothing actually wrong with that, and that it could hurt people who were actually gay because youre implying that to be gay is all of those bad things.
Its one thing when we're an adult and can make sense of it all, but people are growing up and thats the first meaning of the word gay they learn. No good if a young kid IS actually gay, or has someone close to them whos gay
In several years we may see 'gay' used more commonly as a word for crap than a word for homosexuality. It may become the norm.
I think you've hit the nail on the head with that one. Young kids learn a lot of sweary words in the playground without knowing what they really mean. So words lke "gay" and "retard" get used out of context. Its kind of a viscious circle.
No reason why not I suppose :thumb:
Yes it is, dyslexia is classed as a learning disability. Google it if you don't believe me.
Yep, it is. And for people with dyslexia, that's a good thing. For uni students, for example, it gives them an entitlement to disabled students' allowances and extra support through the University, depending on the severity of the dyslexia. Dyspraxia is the same.
She does have a lot to answer for:
Look up "talentless squawky tool" in the OED and her face looks out at you.
Mind you, there shall be no knocking of Katy Perry when I'm around. Knocking off to Katy Perry? Now that's just dirty.
Having a learning difficulty per se doesn't give anyone entitlement to disability funding, having a condition or a disability (whether physical or mental) that affects study and requires levelling in the form of additional support gives someone entitlement...diabetics can qualify for example. Categorisation as learning disabled does not equate to eligibility.
The one that really got me fuming was the person who apologised to me for having been using the expression, as he hadn't know I was gay.
:rolleyes:
Quite, but until very recently it wasn't acknowledged as a disability, rather as a sign of laziness, so people struggling with dyslexia and dyspraxia got fuck all.
I have gay friends who use the phrase, themselves, even. No one gets offended at calling something "retarded", except the people who obsess over being entirely PC, and "gay" is no different to me. It's understood that no bashing of gay people is intended. Tons of words have multiple meanings. "Gay" already means happy/giddy as well as homosexual, so why not add a third slang meaning?
I don't get offended when someone says, "Gawd, so-and-so is being so bipolar lately," when they mean that they're being bitchy and emotional. I don't feel the need to stop them and be all, "You have no idea what bipolar disorder even is, don't you dare say that." Likewise, I don't understand people who feel the need to stop someone for saying "That's so gay". Especially when the offended person isn't even gay themselves and has even less reason to be offended.
Those "knock it off" commercials make me laugh, though. "That is so 16 year-old boy with a cheesy moustache" is my favorite.
idk. I always found political correctness prty gay.
What a helpful contribution. Did it ever occur to you that kids are being beaten up and committing suicide because of homophobic abuse and that going around calling things that are rubbish 'gay' is just buying into that culture?
I think you're making a bit of a leap there. I'm pretty sure that my occasional use of the phrase 'that's gay' when among friends isn't me 'buying into a culture' and hasn't contributed towards, or caused any, homosexuals to commit suicide. Now I accept it's a crude use of language - a hangover from childhood that I should have made more a deliberate effort to shake off - but if you really want to advance the argument and have people take stock and be a little introspective, intimating that their behaviour is tantamount to homophobic bullying and buying into oppression, isn't likely to achieve that. Moreover, it's simply not true.
Sorry, was in a horrible mood, but I don't think it's an unreasonable leap to say that by sanctioning homophobic attitudes society as a whole contributes to the problem.
It goes alongside the attitude that exists in the media that gay jokes are more acceptable than black jokes. I do think there's a cultural legitimacy given to a certain level of anti-gay attitudes behind which some really serious issues can be seen.
Having said that, it is clearly a more serious issue in the US where there was a series of high-profile suicides this summer relating to homophobic bullying.
No worries, it's an interesting debate to have.
I don't think uttering 'that's gay' is always indicative of or sanctioning homophobic attitudes. Sometimes it's just vestigial language or non-thought. Or irony, even.
I think the debate starts to dovetail out here as the issue of homophobic discrimination ceases to be the only thing in focus. What kind of anti-gay attitudes do you think are being given popular cultural legitimacy?
I don't know whether it's more serious there than here - the media spotlight may just have rested on a case in the U.S. Regardless, it's still clearly a serious issue, as someone seeing suicide as preferential to maintaining the status quo of their life, is desperately sad.
I will respond to the rest of what you said but my brain isn't functioning too well right now!
Sucks to be them then.
I see. Compassion isn't your strong point?
I don't have compassion for taking your own life. If I didn't have compassion at all though, I wouldn't have been the guy who whipped the bullies' asses in High School.
What an uncompassionate cunt you are
Hopefully you'll fuck off again soon, probably get hit by a big truck or get involved with one of those mass shootings they have in America
Such anger in your heart. It's okay. I still love you.
Alternatively he could move to Cumbria, Dunblane or Hungerford
Homophobia :mad:
Xenophobia :yippe: