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Honestly i do understand even if i've never been in that place myself. All i can say is that you're not in control. You've just admitted that your weight/disorder has controlled you for ages.
Proper control is proving to yourself that you can eat a well balanced diet and exercise and look healthy and feel good on it. I think if you honestly soul search you will find that you feel tired, have no energy, have no love of life anymore and that all that is driving you is your obsession with making sure that the next piece of food past your mouth is smaller than the last one and a huge guilt if you don't follow this regime. Think of all the things you've probably had to give up because of your mindset. Fun with friends, going out for meals and having a good night and a giggle. :no: I know whatever we say probably won't make much of a difference because addictions never do but even if it means you trying to talk about and venting then that's what this place is for.
It takes over with the fact I try and avoid going out with friends or even just to town because I don't want to inflict my 'fat' self on people. So basically unless I am with my bf I rarely leave apart from to go to the gym
Not eating or eating so few calories may work in the short term but is it something you can keep up. Probably not, your body will crave food you will binge and then put weight on. And the cycle begins again. It gets you nowhere!
If you want to loose weight the way that works is healthy eating and exercise, unfortunaly there are no quick fixes. Trust me I have probably tried everything to get rid of weight, some of them not nice!
Have you though about trying something like Weight Watchers or Slimming World? They do it in a healthy way and the group meetings offer lot's of encouragement
Not eating won't get you anywhere fast it will just make you miserable, give you bad skin, bad hair and in the long term risk bad teeth and bones due to lack of calcium and lack of other vitamins!
I'll leave you to decide that.
C-A x
Just being picky here - nobody asked you for that information, you volunteered it without prompting.
C-A
*sigh*
I meant the "400 calories a day" information which started this whole tangent. :yeees:
C-A x
I was pointing out that you weren't asked for that information, which you claimed to the contrary. Apology accepted. Calm down. Again.
crying-angel thanks for this post, I think what you meant is cleared up and you accept that giving specifics can be harmful. As you say, let's put it behind us and concentrate on notanotherusername's needs, as she actually started this post.
Putting my two cents in, I assume being an Extreme poster you've read lots of the content on TheSite that Jo linked to earlier about healthy and unhealthy eating? You said you were trying to get a wider perspective, so perhaps doing as some people have suggested and contacting B-eat or your GP or getting some other information from a range of sources would help you work out for yourself whether or not you have a problem?
Any GP would be delighted, I am sure, to see someone in your postition come in and ask for some health advice, rather than someone who has taken things too far already.
Soph
Is this all because i asked how long it went on for and took an interest in the apple lucozade?
c-a x
It's a pretty standard rule, across the boards.
Even if you don't find it triggering, you have to think how many other sensitive people are reading this right now, and who might come across the thread in the future.
Plus, imagine for a second that Crying Angel said she'd eaten under 400 calories a day for 4 months. What if then someone (not necessarily you) decided, as she's still here to tell the tale, that that would eat the same for the same amount of time. Only now imagine that they did themselves serious damage, or even died. How awful do you think Crying Angel would feel?
That's why we're telling her not to give specifics. Not because we think either of you are stupid.
C-A x
Fair point, sorry,.
anyway, if i did go down to 400 calories i wouldn't do it straight away, i'd probably work my way down to it.
C-A x
Do not even go there. That's less than four slices of bread.
:yes:
Crying angel - your so young, i cant understand how youve been through everything a person possibly can in life, no disrespect, i just remember the days were i was your age, it was nothing like that. Im not trying to be nasty by the way, i like you
I know... I wish I was still playing with barbies :grump:
C-A x
should we maybe try and not get into the young thing again. Even tho your not being nasty...
Notanotherusername - do you know what 400 calories a day actually is? I ate a mini malt loaf earlier and even that was 700. A carton of orange juice has about 400 calories. Hell, even a nutri-grain has 90-something.
Without trying to sound mean - if you did go down to 400 calories a day I WOULD think you were stupid. Not because of how you view your body, but because you know the dangers and the side effects EVEN IF YOU DO COME OUT OF THE OTHER SIDE. You won't be beautiful, you'll be skeletal and you'll have shitty teeth and shitty skin, and your hair will be coming out in handfuls. Working your way down to a set calorie amount is a really good idea, but only if it's a healthy calorie amount. Even then, you need to think about fat content and sugar and salt (my downfall).
I'm sure g_angel (who knows lots about this kind of thing and is very clever but won't take any crap) or somebody else who knows their shit would be willing to help you with diet and exercise questions. Do you really want to end up as just skin and bones with everyone staring at you for the wrong reasons?
C-A x
Its okay, i always like reading what you have to say.
It's the fact that you're even talking about it that is concerning. It suggests the idea is actually in your head, and you did say "I would work down to it", which means it is indeed in your head.
Fair point, but ofcourse its going to be in my head considering that my weekly average is about 1290, and i'm happy with that. But it doesn't mean i'm going to do it. I'm not *that* stupid