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Oh my god I've done it!!!!!!!!!
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Things are over with me and my evil boyfriend!!!
He really took the piss the other night and stayed out in the pub all night when he was ment to be coming and seeing me and something inside me snapped, i told him it was over! He tryed to get me back the next morning but i said no! I found myself weakening last night and was going to call him and ask him to come round but he sent me a nasty text one of his female friends had sent him about me, it was obvious he had been slagging me off to her, so in a way i am glad that happned, it stopped me ringing him. I still have weak moments and get upset but i just buy a bottle of wine and go round a friends.
My new job is going well! all the people are lovely and i am enjoying it! I've even met a really sweet gorgeous guy there whos been really friendly to me. I have even aranged a viewing of a room in a house share tomorow evening!!!!!!!!! I am excited and scared at the same time.
I really hope i don't back out of all this and go running back to my ex as i DO still love him and think about him constanly, but i KNOW this is the right thing for me but sometimes i find it so hard. when i feel low i put on some hapy music and try and think about all the good times i'm going to have in portsmouth.........
He really took the piss the other night and stayed out in the pub all night when he was ment to be coming and seeing me and something inside me snapped, i told him it was over! He tryed to get me back the next morning but i said no! I found myself weakening last night and was going to call him and ask him to come round but he sent me a nasty text one of his female friends had sent him about me, it was obvious he had been slagging me off to her, so in a way i am glad that happned, it stopped me ringing him. I still have weak moments and get upset but i just buy a bottle of wine and go round a friends.
My new job is going well! all the people are lovely and i am enjoying it! I've even met a really sweet gorgeous guy there whos been really friendly to me. I have even aranged a viewing of a room in a house share tomorow evening!!!!!!!!! I am excited and scared at the same time.
I really hope i don't back out of all this and go running back to my ex as i DO still love him and think about him constanly, but i KNOW this is the right thing for me but sometimes i find it so hard. when i feel low i put on some hapy music and try and think about all the good times i'm going to have in portsmouth.........
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Everything is going uphill now. A good job, an interesting guy and a flat share. That's exactly what you need now. A lot of cool people around you, to distract you, until your "boyfriend" is nothing more than a fart in the wind.
Sometimes you just have to make the leap out of the quicksand you are slowly sinking, even tho you do not know where exactly you are leaping. Sounds to me you made it. Delete his number out of your phone, he is in the past now.
huge congrats! I knew you would do it. I'm mega proud of you!
now, you have every reason to go to portsmouth and start up this brilliant new life i'm sure you can see on the horizon!
you go girl!
I actually have a huge bottle of champers i was saving for a special occision! im going to take it with me to portsmouth and drop it off at my mates house before viewing the house then come back and celebrate with them!
I really hope i get the room, i spoke to the landlord and he said he had interviewed a few people so far and none of them were "right" :nervous: so i am going to have to make a good impression. i will be shattered if he says no as i have to get away NOW.
And i want to say thank you to all you guys for helping me through this i know it must of been frustrating reading all my posts but there is light at the end of the tunnel now
It is always scary coming out of a long relationship, even if it was a shitty one. Stay strong and in a couple of months you'll be wondering what the hell took you so long!
Good luck
Good luck with the room. It sounds like you have a new life beckoning!!
Well done!! :D:D
Just keep hanging up on him. Don't even answer the phone - it will drive him nuts. The less you actually speak to him, the less he will be able to try getting back in there. Focus on your new job, the lovely new man you've met, the new room, the new LIFE you can have!
This is showing him up as the weak, pathetic excuse for a 'man' that he is. I think you should enjoy seeing him on the back foot for a change. Try feeling empowered about the whole thing, and see him for what he really is. He will never change, and he will only try smashing you back down, mentally, as it's the only was he knows to feel 'strong'. I would put money on the fact that after a few calls with you not answering, the tone will turn nasty. Nasty voice mail, nasty SMS. His true colours will shine through, once again.
STAY STRONG.
Im really proud of you, and hope the flat viewing goes well
So you should! He's left it waay too late!
Best of luck! =]
but im going to be in portsmouth so hopefully it wont effect me
Viewing three places gives you options, and a possible fall back if your first choice doesn't work out. That is a good plan. :thumb:
Ignore the fucker. Don't even read his texts. Just delete them.
exactly. I was just about to say "who cares? You are gone in a bit." before I read your last sentence in this post.
He thought he could keep you on the short leash with his tyranny. Unfortunately this never works in the long run.
Now he sets his "female friends" on you. scaaary... fuck 'em I say.
The first step is always the most difficult but you're past that now! He will never change, don't fall for his bullshit.
Onwards and upwards as they say All the best x
As the others said, stay strong and dont let him wiggle his way back in. When he gets no response from you he'll give up.
So, so proud of you :thumb:
Hope everything goes great in Portsmouth
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I'm so proud of you .