If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.
Options
Take a look around and enjoy reading the discussions. If you'd like to join in, it's really easy to register and then you'll be able to post. If you'd like to learn what this place is all about, head here.
Comments
Good post. While it's not that common to be naked around the opposite sex, most Icelanders don't bat an eyelid at getting naked in the changing rooms in the local swimming pools or at gyms. It's just one of things we do and people don't think anything about it. I've been stripping down naked in front of others since I was a kid and it's never been an issue.
It just boils down to what you're used to.
Why should she have had to go through all that hassle in order to not be stared at by you? Naked or not, it tends to be good manners not to stare at people.
I didnt assume they were pervy or exhibitionist. I just assumed that it was more common to be naturist or at least not particularly phazed by nudity in Austria.
I think it sounds like more of a healthy attitude tbh, but it isnt that common in the UK, so someone stripping off in front of you would probably have more connotations
I wasn't staring (although what sort of timescale contitutes a 'stare'?) I just looked her for as long as anyone would if someone got naked in front of you and you weren't expecting it. I 'looked up' more than 'stared'.
To strip off in public and expect no reaction whatsoever is pretty much cloud cuckoo-land talk. If it was a group of only women then that's understandable. But there were 2 fellas there, one her own brother (who wasn't even looking, he was 'concentrating' on one of the other ladies) and myself.
I can understand her not having an issue stripping down in front of you, but it's noway near a sure 'invitation' if you get what I mean. Especially if other people were around...
Just don't try to read too much in it. If you want to develop something with her, work on it, if not, then not, but don't use this strip as reasons to do it (or not).
Oh alright, I thought you were just kidding anyway :razz:
agree.
If she wanted to make a statement towards you, she probably would have more thoroughly (She doesn't seem like the shy one). I don't want to interpret her comment on you looking at her as good or as bad, but as unvalued. I don't think she had a 'plan', other than stepping into the jacuzzi.
Ah man I don't want to develop anything from it, my original question was why does she seem to think the fact I've seen it all before would be enough reason for me not to be taken aback at her getting naked.
I didn't say you do.
Maybe she doesn't. Maybe she just wanted to play it off, because she saw you ogling, maybe she took the piss to make you uncomfortable, whatever it is...
He didn't quite get it and asked, "so who was there? The Ex, the brother? She? and other girls?" - "yea." - "so she just stripped off before the ex and the brother? Where exactly is the problem now?"
I have two sisters as well, but I wouldn't want to be seen naked by them :no: So it's a personal decision/custom.
Why did you two break up ?
A.
We decided to stay on good terms and pretty much have done ever since.
Has she now travelled the world?
Would she be interested in trying again?
I must admit to intrigue with regard to her nakedness in the pool but the two factors I cannot comment on are 1. the female side and 2. the foreign side... Austrian girl.
I'm very much wanting to quote Lloyd from Dumb and Dumber about the shrimp and the barbi but I'll refrain.
Your options appear to be, pursue it based on your history and what you know or drop it. Pretty logical and black and white but I'd recommend against a veritable "fuck buddy" scenario as the chances are one of you may not like the situation. But that's by the by and an after though by me.
A.
We're different people now, very different. She's rather arty and middle-class, I'm typically blokely and working class.
I don't really mean to make it sound like a class thing but we are different in many ways, too many ways for it to work - and I've never had luck with recycling lovers.