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My boyfriend is quite keen on trying anal sex. I don't have anything against it so don't mind giving it a go. We've spoken about it, and when we try it we're going to take it slowly, and if I want to stop at any time we will etc. Am just a bit anxious (if that's the right word) that it's going to hurt?...(have read about people's bad experiences before! )
Was just wondering if anyone has any tips/advice for trying it? and if it's one of those things that feels better the more you try it? maybe....
Any help would be appreciated. Thanks xx
Was just wondering if anyone has any tips/advice for trying it? and if it's one of those things that feels better the more you try it? maybe....
Any help would be appreciated. Thanks xx
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Good luck!
Get him to initially start with lots of lube and to gently rub your 'opening' and then, when you feel ready, allow him to slowly slide in his little finger.
He should slide that in and out slowly so that you get used to the feel of a foreign body in there .. and after a while, get him to use a larger finger. And then from there, to put in two fingers - all the while keeping you well lubricated.
At some stage, when you can take two to three fingers up there and you are completey relaxed and lubricated, he can slowly attempt to insert his penis ...
If he encounters resistance because of your tension, he can withdraw slightly and then slowly reattempt it. Just keep it slow and unhurried and sooner or later, you will get the knack of it. It should initially be uncomfortable rather than painful if done correctly.
Be aware it really feels strange. you kinda feel like you need to go to the toilet lol.
Good luck
Blaze
Yeah just don't let him proper ram it in. Thats another thing that hurts :yeees:
The trick really is to stay relaxed, it hasn't hurt me as long as i've managed that.
Haven't tried it since but that was when we first started getting sexual, so will try again at some point once I'm more experienced with other things.
Is there any chance the girl gets off of anal sex? Are there any important erogenous zones in there (other than the sphincter, I guess). Is anal sex merely a courtesy towards the boy, or do girls really get something out of it.
thanks.
Everyone is different. if you dont do it right it can be excruciatingly painful and a bad experience can put someone off for good.
my advice is to lie on your front and get him to give you a really good massage so your really relaxed and slippy, and that way he can give your bum some attention to see if things are going to progress without the "bend over...hang on...yep......yup my fingers up ur bum is it comfy...?" scenario.
i reckon u should probably make sure he wears a condom, because getting things from the back passage in to the urinary tract is a great big cause of urinary tract infections like cystitis (which is why girls wipe from front to back...) in which case beware that you use a lube/massage gel thats safe to use with rubber.
my biggest fear was that his penis would get dirty with...yeah...but dont worry, i doesnt not in my experience anyway.
have fun.
It really does not appeal to me