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Lets rephrase the question. "Why would we rather remain single with no action than have a bit of fun with a guy that has no interest in anything but his dick, and even then he prefers showing off to his mates?"
Doesn't take a rocket scientist.
I've very little interest in pulling, fucking or doing otherwise with randoms. But then I'm not oversexed and ruled by my dick rather then my brain. I've never got my so many men find neraly every songle woman they meet attractive.
Same here
i still reckon this is Jomery in disguise.
Cant be, jomery didnt seem able to pull.
Hmm, thats why i was suspicious....cuz his thread is completely the opposite and the fact he seemed to post in all the same places Jomery did. I dunno...
Also, there is an issue of morality here. When you say having sex with "anyone", do you really mean that? There's quite a few people I wouldn't want to get it on with, that's for sure. :yuck:
Wow, I want to live where you live. D'you hang around fashion show after parties or something?
Also why do people not just have sex with friends? Well why are you ever going to be friends with a member of the opposite sex in the first place? Because one or neither person finds the other one attractive, but they enjoy each other's company. If they did find each other attractive, then they'd just go out with each other like normal people.
Sorry to break this to you. If you would fuck most of your female friends, but they wouldn't fuck you, it's nothing to do with society's influence, it's because they don't fancy you.
:yes: I was going to say something along these lines. The reason I've not pulled or slept with my male friends is because either I don't fancy them or they don't fancy me. Simple as.
I'm also a pretty horny guy, I'm always on the look out for girls, but I ALWAYS get attached, which means I can't do one night stands without getting hurt.
I've got it on with loads of my female friends, doesn't seem to affect our friendships though because we all know it's a bit of craic, especially when drunk.
When you're a little bit more mature, you soon realise that the difference with adult relationships are the boundaries. As an adult you engage in adult relationships - you differentiate between friend and sexual partner - you can't have your cake and eat it. Friends are platonic, that's the whole point of a friendship.
There's nothing wrong with fucking one of your friends if you're both lookign for a bit of fun. I've got it on with loads of girls I'm friends with without it negatively affetcing our friendship.
The whole point of friendship is having people you can trust, I don't see how sex would affect that.
Well it all depends. You have to make sure you both know its for fun otherwise somebody could get hurt. All I did was kiss a friend once and he declared his love and wanted to get together.....we haven't spoken for many months now:(
because *shock horror* not every girl wants to be pulled/fancies you and the casual sex thing isn't for everyone either
My personal fundamental philosophy is that life's too short and it's really important to make the very most of it, especially in your prime (age 18-30ish) when you have so many opportunities. Which is why I want to have sexual experience with lots of people, why I've travelled 5 continents and still want to explore a lot, haven't overly focussed on work or study etc.
Anyway, this thread's seems to've shown something I didn't know before - how few guys girls are attracted to, whereas guys are less 'picky' / are attracted to a lot more people. Was talking to a girl who previously rejected me this morning, she says she finds less than 5% of men 'attractive'. Definitely makes me feel better about how many girls have rejected me!
That's rich coming from you.
I don't see nothing wrong with hooking up with your mates as long as you both only see it as a bit of fun.
Because you have no experience whatsoever with the opposite sex, maybe one snog iirc? How can you tell what's right and wrong and what's "juvenile" when you don't have any experience of what you're talking about?
:yes:
:eek2: What's that supposed to mean? I still get kissed by friends of mine, but it's all on the understanding that when they do something like that to me (same goes for hugging I guess) it doesn't mean anything to either of us.
Some do, some don't.
Some do, some don't
Erm... they do otherwise we'd all be single and not dating...
Because [I can't believe I'm just about to type this] life is about more than sex.
There, I've done it now, let the cat out of the bag.
because people have standards?
Not so much a rant as a collection of slightly surreal comments.
Was that kiss in this relationship or did you not kiss in your relationship?
And I don't much mind your strawman argument, comparing relationships and war is just plain dumb. You said people going with their friends is just "juvenile" and something "15/16 year olds do," well until you know anything about forming relationships and being intimate with someone then just shut your mouth. End of story.
Though relationship advice from someone who's never had a proper relationship is a bit hard to take.