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:yes: I think some people (me included) have tried saying this.
I just can't imagine a 20 year old virgin who's never been in a proper relationship having anything else but a very hard time with their life at the hands of others.
I have heard this before many times like Sofie said, I'm sure Jomery has too, heck I agree, but I'm yet to encounter people between 16-2X who don't care. I know I'll look like the big bad saying this, but please, shut the hell up saying it already. We heard you the first time and we don't dispute that it's completly true. Read this: I could not AGREE MORE.
Why does what everyone think mean so much to ou?
Well, coming from somebody who used to be a 20 year old virgin, I do rather feel that this is bullshit. The only person I met that actually cared was myself. Ever since I got over myself it's always been a non-issue.
Maybe sex comes up in some context, but I've never had somebody give me full attention asking if I've gotten laid or how many people I've slept with and are expecting a serious answer.
Are you sure you're not focusing on those few persons that may bring it up and ignoring all the rest who don't?
And honestly, we could debate this until we're all blue in the face, but the truth is that you are the one who is going to need to change something about how you deal with things in order to change your situation.
You come across as very defensive and argumentative when people give you pointers, and whenever I meet people like that in real life that's usually a bad vibe I get. Normally there are all sorts of blokes I say I wouldn't go for but when there is somebody in front of me who is confident in themselves and are fully capable of being themselves around me -looks/career/past don't matter as much as it does beforehand.
Are you willing to do anything at all to change your situation?
Cassidy, you made a ridiculous nonsensical post before in this thread that totally got on my nerves something about me and jomery "getting a room" and you're getting on my nerves now, why don't you take a back seat and let the professionals handle this one : )
Point of interest, check out that new thread of katralla's. Most of the replies to her are to the end of, "lovez you!!!11 hugz and kisses lol "
Katralla's thread is slightly different, as she got screwed over by somebody and was venting. It's not really asking for any advice.
I agree with pretty much what everyone has said here; it's up to you. People, as much as it would be easier, won't come to you and only mid-adolescent teens are as focused on sex as you make out. If they actually are just lie about it and say you fucked a girl on holiday (or a guy - if you're gay) because their not going to check up on you. I'm not naturally confident, I tend to start off a little introvered but then I feel at ease with the person and can be myself more. How much longer are you content to stay down on your knees holding a pity party for one?
Maybe because Katralla didn't let her thread get to 21 pages of her rejecting, questioning and moaning at anyone who dared offer an opinion.
Plus she's nice.
Wasn't her thread different anyway?
Hornet - why do you blame other people for your problems? You're the only one who can solve this issue; not anyone else. If you carry on acting the way you are, then you won't get anywhere in life. Stop being so negative and stop focusing on this 'I need a girlfriend and I need to lose my virginty now' stuff. You DON'T need a girlfriend and you certainly don't need to lose your virginity.
Quite a nasty thing to say to be honest - how much do you actually know about year 7 kids who have special needs then?
Yeah, that's what I thought - so don't use such uneducated insults!
Oh, and if you are this aggressive, ignorant and abusive in the 'real world' I'm not suprised you've been reduced to psuedo hermit with no social skills.
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:yes: True
If truth be told, no I'm not like this in the real world. There are other reasons for my being pseudo hermit with no social skills.
One of the things we have disagreed on here is the idea about people out there not caring if I'm a 20 year old virgin. I'm sorry but you are wrong, they do care. If I were to tell people at my college about that, can you picture how they would react? Well, I can.
So I think we can agree that having anything to do with them at college is a no go. It's finding folks somewhere else(?) that is the million dollar thing.
I just noticed a new thread been made, I only read a bit of it. Damn now it seems even Jomery has "managed it". :nervous:
In fact I over heard them talking yesterday morning about some random person, nothing to do with me and one of them kept saying over and over in this hushed, shocked sort of voice, "he's a virgin you know!!" I mean, show me where these mythical "don't care if you're a virgin" people are and I will go forth.
The 'being a virgin deal' is only what you make it.
So wait till you find someone you want to sleep with. Not rocket science. None is ever amazing on their first time. They could be a virgin too. I never said lie to people you want to sleep with, just nosy people, if it bothers you so much.
Another discouraging factor is that where I live, there seems to be so much gossiping about people and bitching and so on (not so much me). People are bound to do so about me if and when I come out of the closet and admit some of the terrible secrets about me. No friends, 20 yr old virgin, etc.
Well go out and lose it then if you're fed up of waiting. You can't expect the ideal girl to sleep with to just land in your lap because you don't want to wait anymore. For the second time, you don't have to tell people you are a virgin ffs. You can either carry on waiting for the right girl, or just go out and lose it and get it over with. Up to you.