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Because somebody said you look like a 'toff'... Does that mean uncool? Too well groomed?
I'm on the right. My core group of mates are on the left. As you can see we are very much alike, yet they pull all the time and I never have.
Thats a cute pic of you there.
She just likes them rough thats all :razz:
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You know, most guys face that. Since its mostly the men who make the first move, its gona be them that experience the most rejection. I bet your mates have all felt it many times - its just something you don't boast about.
Blue top with a white shirt?
nothing wrong with being a virgin .. but I can't believe you've gotten to 23 and not even kissed a girl?
Noticed from the pics you seem to be a smoker - that might put some women off giving you a snog.
Do you take that scathing approach to anyone who has a bit of a poke at you? If so, that may explain your lake of progress with the ladies.
If I were a girl, I would not go out with you. You look alright, but from the things you have said on here, and what I see as your attitude, I would be unlikely to approach you or your group unless I was with my friends, and I would have no interest in being alone with you. My guess is that you come across as being somewhat aloof, and I'd see that as intimidating and offputting.
You're unlikely to be able to change much of that, so you may just have to wait around for the type of girl who finds all of that stuff attractive.
Oh yes :yes:
Mate, you remind me of one of my pals. The last few times I've been out with him I've had him in floods of tears at the end of the night because he's not pulled and he's got a similar attitude to you. He doesn't seem to go out to have a drink a dance and maybe a flirt, he just wants to pull somebody, anybody. You don't like hearing this, but if you go out with the main priority of having a good time, you'll come across as being so much more relaxed and girls pick up on it.
It's not like you'd even be genuine about the whole thing, cause you only seem to want to pull for your own satisfaction and use the girl just so you felt better about yourself and got the monkey off your back.
Have you spoken to your mates about it? You're maybe coming across as being creepy, too intense or anything without even realising it.
Threads develop. Don't discuss it if you don't want to.
This would certainly put me off.
Agreed. Personally, I don't fancy you. You do come across as one of those who expects far too much as well.
Done and there's no need to be rude. :yeees:
You're actually a nice looking bloke. I've never talked to you before in real life, so it's hard to see where you're going wrong... You do seem to objectify women though and to look down on people who don't earn as much as you.
I'd rather date somebody who was on 20K and had worked their way up and worked hard and who was content and laid back than a private school person who went to Cambridge, is on a shitload of money and who thinks they're more worthy of a partner than the nice down to earth person who earns less. Which is the vibe I've got from your posts.
Women aren't trophies.
This is probably where he's going wrong - he comes across as though he thinks he deserves someone...
Well, you do come acorss as one of those people who think that because they've done this & that, they deserve a girlfriend...
and he has his own thread as well I think.
and this thread is basically turning into a repeat of it
Jomery's story looks familiar - there was someone who posted here 3 months ago who was in trouble for stalking a girl and his story reminds me a bit of that one.
With regards to hornet, I had similar problems so I can relate. You need to find the circle where you are comfortable. You could also probably do with some social skills training because it sounds like you desperately need it. Do you suffer from Aspergers by any chance?
I might possibly be an inverse snob, but that doesn't alter the fact that i don't find toffs remotely attractive, which is all i stated in my post - as well as saying that you might be going for the wrong type of girls.
You sound like a snob yourself with that comment. Not really attractive is it.
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I really hate snobs. I could NEVER go out with one.
But again this isn't the problem, I primarily hang out with other Cambridge grads working in London, so meet other Oxbridge/London grads working as lawyers, investment bankers, management consultants etc, most of whom also from public schools, just as naturally 'snobby'.
Gnite
Well then something else must be wrong if your all the same.