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Time to stop buying my girlfriend expensive presents...

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Why does it matter about the cost of the present? She got you a present so appreciate that.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    squeal wrote: »
    Why does it matter about the cost of the present?

    :yes:

    To say that your day was mediocre simply because you got $60 spent on you instead of the $200 you got when you graduated is a bit draft to be honest.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Why do you feel the need to spend so much just for it to be a good day? I spent £13 and my boyfriend spent about £8. We had a lovely evening

    You have totally missed the point of valentines day
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    you sound like a spoiled brat

    so what if you spend more on her, or she spends more on u?

    i cant believe u actually sat there and estimate how much the things she bought you cost

    with that attitude, i wouldnt buy u naff all

    harsh, maybe, but so is putting a price on a special day
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    $60 is a lot!

    $110 is way excessive.

    You do sound rather spoilt.
    Its the thought behind the gift, not how much it cost you, unless of course you think you can put a price on love.

    Why dont you tell her you think shes cheap and should have spent more on you. See what her reaction is.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Surely the thought is more important than the price? TBH, I'd rather have something cheap that I liked and could make use of, rather tahn something expensive that I didn't like and would just be sat in the box never being used.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    How shallow are you?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You do sound rather spoilt.
    Its the thought behind the gift, not how much it cost you, unless of course you think you can put a price on love.

    I completely agree.

    I made my boyfriend's gift and card this year and I am pretty sure he liked it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    you seem really bothered by the value of the gifts you recieved when it's the sentiment of the other persons action that matters.

    I didn't get a pressie from my boyfriend this year but he did make the effort to drive over 80miles to see me at uni and that was far more important to me!

    You should just enjoy being together and stop worrying about the materialistic side of pressies - sometimes the smaller things are more important.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Serves you right for spending so much on her
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    This post is pathetic!

    Surely it is the thought that counts here and not the cost. Seems like you quantify love with cash value, that leaves you with a problem.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    silverhalo wrote: »
    This post is pathetic!

    Surely it is the thought that counts here and not the cost. Seems like you quantify love with cash value, that leaves you with a problem.

    I love that word:

    Quantify.

    :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I spent £15 on my fiance. I bought him a ticket to see a band called Within temptation, he was made up. I'd be really upset if he took the same response as you and called it mediocre.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    unless you have excessive amounts of spare cash, there's no point spending that much money on her.

    if you think the best thing about being with your gf on birthdays and valentines days etc is the presents, I think you're really missing the point.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dont get me wrong, i dont think there's anything wrong with giving presents or being excited about getting them

    what i do think is wrong is that fact that you're so ungrateful....

    its not like she got you a bath bomb, a t-shirt and a wallet is quite sufficient as well as practical
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    so shallow
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What a mong.

    If I was your girlfriend, I'd be waving you goodbye by now.

    How ungrateful of you.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's not that I feel like she didn't spend enough money on me, don't get me wrong...I feel like she put no effort into choosing a gift for me. I kind of felt like she went to the mall and was like, "oh yeah, this should be good enough." Plus she was pissed at me cuz the flowers I got her had no roses :( I figured she would rather have a large bouquet of mixed flowers than three roses for the same price. She also was mad because I wore my snow boots (there was about 6 inches of snow on the ground outside) to her house and my socks were ugly (?) To be honest, I didn't even get an "I love you" from her yesterday...

    I understand why everybody was pissed at me, I didn't really explain the whole story here.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ibanezdude wrote: »
    I understand why everybody was pissed at me, I didn't really explain the whole story here.

    Wow. You take the harsh comments well for someone who's not a frequent visitor to the place! :)

    As for your girlfriends reaction, maybe she was just having a bad day? As much as it was Valentines Day, people are less likely to force themselves into being happy if everythings gone haywire, because it's not as big a holiday celebration-wise as others.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My boyfriend got me a card, and took me to the cinema. I got him a card and a pair of furry handcuffs for a laugh. We'd agreed we weren't spending much - might be worth setting a limit in future. Perhaps you should go shopping together a bit, pay attention to what grabs her, and encourage her to do the same for you. Useful for xmas too.

    TBH, I preferred after the cinema anyway, it was relaxing, we watched a girly film, I realised the handcuffs were a bad choice of present (I hate being tickled - in a good/funny way - and I couldn't stop him!), and we ate ice cream. :heart:

    Much better than a bunch of flowers. :p
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ibanezdude wrote: »
    It's not that I feel like she didn't spend enough money on me, don't get me wrong...I feel like she put no effort into choosing a gift for me. I kind of felt like she went to the mall and was like, "oh yeah, this should be good enough." Plus she was pissed at me cuz the flowers I got her had no roses :( I figured she would rather have a large bouquet of mixed flowers than three roses for the same price. She also was mad because I wore my snow boots (there was about 6 inches of snow on the ground outside) to her house and my socks were ugly (?) To be honest, I didn't even get an "I love you" from her yesterday...

    I understand why everybody was pissed at me, I didn't really explain the whole story here.

    It's a shame that you didn't explain yourself better. You would not have received so much unfriendly abuse. Remember 'writing' stuff isn't the same as 'talking' about stuff so we tend to take what you say at 'face value'.

    I'm glad that you are not a selfish, meanspirited, ungrateful, etc etc after all. ;)

    Maybe she has something on her mind? Talk to her. Ask her. Tell her how you feel. Communication is the best basis of a relationship.
  • **helen****helen** Mod malarkist Posts: 9,235 Listening Ear
    Just dropping in to put a link to your other thread ibanezdude so people who might missed it can see it: http://vbulletin.thesite.org/showthread.php?t=112210
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