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Time to stop buying my girlfriend expensive presents...
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To say that your day was mediocre simply because you got $60 spent on you instead of the $200 you got when you graduated is a bit draft to be honest.
You have totally missed the point of valentines day
so what if you spend more on her, or she spends more on u?
i cant believe u actually sat there and estimate how much the things she bought you cost
with that attitude, i wouldnt buy u naff all
harsh, maybe, but so is putting a price on a special day
$110 is way excessive.
You do sound rather spoilt.
Its the thought behind the gift, not how much it cost you, unless of course you think you can put a price on love.
Why dont you tell her you think shes cheap and should have spent more on you. See what her reaction is.
I completely agree.
I made my boyfriend's gift and card this year and I am pretty sure he liked it.
I didn't get a pressie from my boyfriend this year but he did make the effort to drive over 80miles to see me at uni and that was far more important to me!
You should just enjoy being together and stop worrying about the materialistic side of pressies - sometimes the smaller things are more important.
Surely it is the thought that counts here and not the cost. Seems like you quantify love with cash value, that leaves you with a problem.
I love that word:
Quantify.
if you think the best thing about being with your gf on birthdays and valentines days etc is the presents, I think you're really missing the point.
what i do think is wrong is that fact that you're so ungrateful....
its not like she got you a bath bomb, a t-shirt and a wallet is quite sufficient as well as practical
If I was your girlfriend, I'd be waving you goodbye by now.
How ungrateful of you.
I understand why everybody was pissed at me, I didn't really explain the whole story here.
Wow. You take the harsh comments well for someone who's not a frequent visitor to the place!
As for your girlfriends reaction, maybe she was just having a bad day? As much as it was Valentines Day, people are less likely to force themselves into being happy if everythings gone haywire, because it's not as big a holiday celebration-wise as others.
TBH, I preferred after the cinema anyway, it was relaxing, we watched a girly film, I realised the handcuffs were a bad choice of present (I hate being tickled - in a good/funny way - and I couldn't stop him!), and we ate ice cream.
Much better than a bunch of flowers.
It's a shame that you didn't explain yourself better. You would not have received so much unfriendly abuse. Remember 'writing' stuff isn't the same as 'talking' about stuff so we tend to take what you say at 'face value'.
I'm glad that you are not a selfish, meanspirited, ungrateful, etc etc after all.
Maybe she has something on her mind? Talk to her. Ask her. Tell her how you feel. Communication is the best basis of a relationship.