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j9
Ok MaLkAv, you wanted some advice and I happy to oblige. There are several reasons why you can't get a date.
First of all, let get the goth thing out of the way. I can assure you that 95% of women would prefer to date a man who is somewhat manly. Leave the make-up and ruffled blouses to us girls. However, I realize that there are a small minority of women who may like goth style. If you can find one, great, but you sure are cutting your chances down.
Your second problem: women are NOT interested in men who sit around feeling sorry for themselves and who like to point it out to anyone who will listen. Your flippant comment, "oh and harry i tried to kill myself long before i even got into the goth scene," is most pathetic thing I've ever heard, and is a complete insult to those who have ever had suicide touch their lives. I suggest you tread lightly on the subject. Bragging about it makes you sound like a fool, and it sounds almost as if you arebuilding your entire identity (clothes, music, ideals, friends) around being depressed. I hope that isn't the case, but it does look like it from what you've said so far.
Problem number three: Women don't like liars. I'm not sure what possessed you to go on about your mmysterious job. Frankly, I don't care whether you are the CEO of some international marketing giant, or a student like your profile says. All I can tell you is that both the lying and the bragging are a real turn-off.
Problem #4: Women generally don't like men who are judgemental. The comments you made about drugs show that you are as judgemental as the people you are getting angry at! I'm happy to admit that I don't know much about the goth lifestyle, and I don't judge people because I don't know anything about it. I may say I don't like the outfits, but that doesn't mean I think that all goths are the same of that you aren't a nice person. I was really insulted by your sweeping generalizations about drug users. Obviously you don't know much about drug use and addiction, so kindly point your comments at a specific person or refrain from saying anything at all.
Anyway, I hope you can take a few bits of advice from this. My purpose is not to attack you (although I know I'm sounding a bit harsh)- I just wanted you to be able to see that your problem may not lie in the fact that women can't see what a great guy you are...it may be that you can't see the things you are doing to turn them off.
Burnout_Girl
I could have worded the suicide thing better and i apologise for that- harry was trying to make out that it was marylin manson giving me ideas, when in truth that period of my life was well before i got into the goth scene.
plus just because i've mentioned i'm into goth music and dress a bit funny when i go out - everyone automatically assumes i'm a hardcore goth - which i'm not - i don't do all the makeup and stuff and i certainly don't wear it 24/7 like some people i know most of the time i wear normal clothes 7 days a week it's just that for a few hours on thursday night i like to go a bit mental.
and as for the whole job thing - i dropped out of uni to do this advertising and marketing job (yes my profile is out of date and needs updating) - I'm Self employed so technically i am running my own firm. and i do make quite a lot of money out of it.
basically i said a lot of stuff through anger - and if anyone (apart from daze) was offended in anyway i apologise profusely
I believe I backed Daze up as well.
I didn't lose my mind, it was mine to give away.
i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
[This message has been edited by whizzygirl (edited 27-12-2000).]
i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
HAHAHAHAHA... u r n u know it... fucking pirate.... rofl.. funniest thing I've ever heard/.... u got an eye patch Captain Pugwash???
Like a bit of a jolly roger do u???
fucking piece of shit... cant even commit suicide properly... just go walk off the plank or summing biatch
hmmmm.....agreed Daze. I would have chosen better words for it, but, yeah, that's essentially the deal. Now leave the boards like you said you had!
I didn't lose my mind, it was mine to give away.
Daze - nice to see you
Malkav - might be an idea to take a break for a couple of weeks & try again
Whizzygirl - yes, I had noticed & I'll call the other one Whizzy2nd <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/redface.gif">)
that's all folks <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
j9
as for harry and turtle - choosing the lifestyle i have you expect some people to make comments and not like it - and mostly i just ignore them, i'm happy with the way i live my life. but people who are like daze i cannot stand - i'll admit there are a certain type of people who should be wiped out and that are those people who are prejudiced to the point of genocide about ANY type of person be it black people, white people, goths, trendies - the list goes on and on, all have the right to do what they want to do (if those things are against the law then that's up to them) but no-one has the right to say that one type of people should be exterminated - we went through that already in the history of this world - that was one of the main points of WW2 - and a lot of people died to stop that - yet some people refuse to learn from the mistakes of the past
anyway i'm babbling now so i'm going to go
J9 - I think you could be right - besides i've got a bit of a tricky situation to handle at the moment and am going to be busy for a while so i'll see you in a week or 2
Just go back over ur posts n look how stupid u sound, u cant pull girls?? well in this topic there been like 100 explenations y not...
U got summing to do?? does it involve a knife n u wrists(yeah n cut down the the back of ur wrist, why is it that all goths cut accross the top of their wrists n e way???) but I guess I cant b that hopeful... mayb u just lost ur eyepatch, or ur parrotts gone missing, or u gotta go on a treasure hunt...
N e way wherever u go.. we'll miss u n good luck finding a girl <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif">
Oh yeah n turtle.. I come back... holiday did me good
[This message has been edited by Daze (edited 28-12-2000).]
That was unnecessary Daze and totally uncalled for <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif">
j9
[This message has been edited by j9j9 (edited 28-12-2000).]
i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
It's time to fcking stop all this unessecary shit, and get back to doing what this board's best doing, giving support and advice.
my bitching over
Luk
The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see
thing is I relly do think goths should do it... I hate em all. as for the cutting urself, I understand y normal ppl do it,but y do all goths do it, n make a point about doing it n show off about it, they just do it for sympathy..
They do it to make it look like they got problems, just fake it n get told to fake it by there pointless music
Or maybe this is all a laugh - certainly, when i agree with Daze I don't hold opinions nearly as strong as his, but the general point - that goths are a bit wierd, that Malkav is beyond a doubt a bit strange - i agree with that. Maybe my feelings don't strech to genocidal feelings about eradicating goths.
Malkav, you really need to get ur arguments in order. You begin one post by saying that
"daze, who is prejudiced to the point of genocide..." and then go on to diss him because he feels that way, saying the process that no one should ever feel that strongly about anything.
Next paragraph:
"i'll admit there are a certain type of people who should be wiped out and that are those people who are prejudiced to the point of genocide about ANY type of person". You manage to condradict yourself there so wonderfully it's hilarious!
Basically, u're saying that no one should feel so strongly about anything, but htat you feel that strong about something. Hypocrite, maybe?
I didn't lose my mind, it was mine to give away.
Hear hear, I was only saying that to Luka yesterday, so come on Karla, that's the vote of at least three board members - thread closure please.
j9
Ditt...um...hear hear.
I didn't lose my mind, it was mine to give away.
Like ive siad b4 malkav asked why he oculd not get a girl and did not say that he dressed up sort of thing.
Sorry to say this malkav but you said girls like the way you dress you said that you are a nice guy, so there must be something up wiht you if this is the case.
I mean im a bitch at times and im not gorgeous but i get a lot of lads so there must be something about you that is turning the girls off.
rachael, i agree with what you said. you seem to be the only regular here to disagree with another regular. i also dont agee with daze's views about goths. ok so some manson worshippers who cut themselves for a reaction just like he does on stage, and who are typical "goths".. yeah they're a bit odd. but did malkav ever say that he was like that? no. he said that he was getting into liking music such as rock and goth. its a type of MUSIC people, get some perspective!
malkav asked a question that is a valid one in a post abotu relationships. he didnt ask anyone to judge him on any aspect of his life. he merely said how girls seem to think of him as a "nice guy" and not as a prospective boyfriend. this is the issue here, not what kind of music he likes or what clothes he wears!! hes already said that the girls he likes like the same kind of thing he does, just that they already have boyfriends or see him as a friend.
everyone seems to have lost the plot and keep on about how goths should be killed and it has gone totally insane. everyone's getting a bit wound up, malkav is undestandably pissed off at the way he he has been reacted to on a site that is supposed to offer support, not judge him and flame him and say that all people like him should be killed. this is not fair, everyone shoudl just take a look at themselves and see if they would have reacted the same if daze had said that all gays or blacks should be wiped out. my feeling is no. just because those are recognised groups that the hatred of is considered to be well known and disgusting. hatred of any kind of group is wrong, and we should not be sitting here agreeing with it!!
why doesnt someone just close this post down, and maybe this hostility will end.
It's better to regret things you've done than things you haven't.
i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
I didn't lose my mind, it was mine to give away.
Daze: I'm glad it makes you feel big.
dont worry im not gonna go mad and kill them, im not THAT jealous! hehe <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
It's better to regret things you've done than things you haven't.
they seem to b clocking up posts n not speaking... who r u all???